I find myself falling into the same pattern: I'm in a committed relationship. At some point during work I make small talk with a girl. Not to flirt with her, but just because I find it easier to talk to girls. I don't feel the pressure of having to be manly man because really I'm not. I don't enjoy sports and I'm basically that dick in a jar type of guy who girls confess all their problems to. So anyway, sometimes I would befriend a girl who is extremely attractive. And as much as I love my girlfriend (and she really is my soul mate), that feeling of attraction creeps in and I realize that yes, I'm officially attracted to a particular female friend. At that point, my first reaction is to get real and end the friendship immediately then go out with a guy to a bar and get **** faced. However, what the hell do I tell this girl? "Uh, I'm sorry we can't speak because I can't be friends with hot girls" What the hell is wrong with me? Thank you!
2007-09-29 16:46:29 · 9 answers · asked by That guy... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also want to mention that these friendships I'm talking about are good, close friendships that have lasted for a year or more.
2007-09-29 16:50:15 · update #1
Isn't your girlfriend the hottest girl on the planet to you???
If not.....you will always have this problem
And never be fully satisfied with what you have
You greedy b*gger!!!
2007-09-29 16:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...that's a tough situation.
There's nothing wrong with feeling attracted to female friends. It's only human to find certain people attractive. I think maybe you are just afraid that if you spend too much time with your attractive female friend, you will start to like her as more than a friend. I think the best solution would be to just remember how much you love your girlfriend every time you talk to an attractive female friend.
2007-09-29 16:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by Fonzieo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you!! You are human and completely normal. This is where trust, morals and integrity step in. Being attracted to someone is not a crime. As long as you remain friends and don't act on your feelings youhaven't done anything wrong. Your girlfriend has the same issues with men "trust me!" Best of luck.
2007-09-29 16:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember one thing
the reason these girls ARE your friends is because you have a girlfriend and you are not available.. if you were they would probably never confide in you because they would not want to lead you on
your whole life you will be meeting attractive women
you will be missing out on some truly nice friendships because you have this hang up about pretty women
the choice is yours
if you feel like you will want to cheat on your gf.. then it is best for these women that you leave them without knowing how nutty you are.. because it takes two for a relationship.. not just your desires.. but hers too
good luck
2007-09-29 16:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by pastels c 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still be friends you just have to draw a line. Don't cheat on your gf no matter how tempting it may be but don't go not talking to other girls just because you are attracted to them. Theres nothing wrong with being attracted to them as long as you don't cheat on your gf.
2007-09-29 16:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, take it easy. It's okay to feel atraction, you're a GUY! Just act normal, and if you still feel the same way. Just ditch your girlfriend and step up!
2007-09-29 16:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Oscar1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you be friends with attractive people?
i have alot of attractive friends both guy and girl and that doesn't bother me or make me uncomfortable
buddy just don't even think about it, that feeling will go away
2007-09-29 16:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by mc_muffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you obviously love your girlfriend.. so theres nothing wrong with being friends with females, even if they are attractive. As long as you dont take it any farther then just being attracted to them then i think its okay... unless its interfering with you and your girlfriends relationship.
2007-09-29 16:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by *Babycakes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing.
2007-09-29 16:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋