dating someone who's turning 18 in january?
who has also confided in me that.. he has a history or depression and anger. and he's on antidepressants.
people have told me he's a pervert and is always sweet at first but then really pressures you to have sex with him
he told me he'd do nothing to hurt me
and he's sweet
but i find myself a little afraid of him ever since he told me his isssues
2007-09-29 16:24:44 · 57 answers · asked by lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm well in january it will be ILLEGAL for you to date him
and if he scares you even a little ... get out of there
you dont want to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation
go for a guy closer to your age... im 15 too nd believe me there are PLENTY of hottttttt guys our age
good luck
2007-09-29 16:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a predator. In other countries the laws aren't quite so strict as here eg. in the UK a 16 year old girl might well go out with an 18 year old guy and could even marry. Here she's still a minor.
Although 15 even in that country is below the legal age of consent, so he'd be breaking the law to have sex with you. Since he has depression and anger issues, you really want to have nothing to do with him. He's a nutter and preying on younger girls. Look for someone closer to your own age for now. If you were 18 and he was 21 then that would be quite OK, but for now you are still a minor.
2007-09-29 16:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by whitequeenshirley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not old enough to be dating. You are a child and unable to legally give permission to any guy to have sex with you.
Your parents can, and should have him arrested. He could be accused of being a child molester and a pedophile.
An eighteen year old guy wants to be with girls of their own age, or even a bit older. The only reason most older guys would be with a child is so that they can pressure them into having sex.
Of course he has "confided in you" that he has a history of depression and anger. This is part of the grooming process, which means that he is trying to make you feel as if you are his one and only friend, the person he loves and trusts and then he can begin pressuring you and if you resist or refuse him anything, including sex; he will get angry and abusive and then he will say I warned you that I have problems with anger and you made me angry, it's your fault.
You need to stay away from this guy before you in up in a world of trouble. I hope that you find a nice young man of your age to be interested in.
Please be careful.
If you were my daughter, he would be in jail before sundown.
2007-09-29 19:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. You are too young to understand what his depression and anger are about and how to deal with it. It's hard for adults too. He should never pressure you about sex and I would be afraid that he'd lose his temper and harm you. He can't be that sweet if he does these things. It sounds like he has a lot of issues to deal with and maybe someday he will deal with them and have them under control.......but not now. They will all tell you that they would do nothing to hurt you.....but be careful. You should be afraid of him. When he turns 18, he will be a legal adult and if he touches you inappropriately it is a serious offense. Don't be his target.........PLEASE. You have many years to choose guys that suit you better. Many girls like the "bad boy" image, but don't do it. Enjoy your friends and listen to them. You are going up a road you will regret. When you are older and can size up a guy better, then do just that. Until then..........keep your distance. This guy needs time and help to deal with his problems. It doesn't make him a bad person but he needs professional help and you can't give that to him nor should you. Let a qualified adult deal with him and help him.
2007-09-29 16:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say when you turn 16, but in general if he is 24 months older than you I don't think its a big deal. Tons of seniors date sophomores etc.
More importantly, I'd stay away from him. He is obviously troubled in some way or he would need the medical attention he's getting. He should be focused on girls that are 18 or 19 who have a lot more experience.
In any event, make sure you tell your parents about any time you do spend with him, alone or in a group. The first time he tells you not to tell your parents something that is big trouble.
PS - you already know you shouldn't see him or you wouldn't have posted this question on Yahoo.
2007-09-29 16:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by frnchfries2000 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay the hell away from him. That's exactly how all the bad stories start.
It'll start off with him pressuring you for sex, and eventually, you'll give in.
You say "well, I'm too smart for that." Then the next thing you know, after a year or so, you'll end up cooking all his food and if you don't he'll slap you, then you'll say "well, he wasn't like this when we met" and you'll be too afraid to leave him for fear that he'll come after you, or that you have no where else to go.
Once in a while, he'll make a "sweet" gesture, and you'll forget all about it, then it'll start all over again.
Stay away from him. Don't do anything stupid. It ain't worth it.
Better safe than sorry.
Okay, who's the idiot who keeps downvoting all the smart answers?
2007-09-29 16:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, forget about it. He will be an adult in January. No more juvenile when you turn 18. If you had sex with him, it will be considered statutory rape because you are not old enough to consent to anything whether you consent or not. That is the law. Besides he seems quite problematic so you are possibly pursuing a nightmare. Like 3 stacks said, "Don't do it, reconsider, read some literature on the subject..."etc.
2007-09-29 16:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't date him but be his friend. However, if you find yourself a little afraid of him go with that feeling and leave him alone. This person sounds unstable and could possibly be a future rapist if he's into pressuring girls to have sex. Most people who say they'd never hurt you are the ones who actually hurt you either emotionally or physically.
2007-09-29 16:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Nemo Knievel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...you should never be with someone that makes you feel scared. You are never obligated to be with anyone just because you feel bad for them either. He sounds like a guy who has yet to get himself together, if a man can't handle his own life, he cannot handle a relationship. And remember, people said Ted Bundy was sweet, he ended up being a serial killer. Now, I'm not saying that your boyfriend is a serial killer, no, I'm saying people will say anything or act anyway to get what they want, including sex. So please be careful if you choose to continue the relationship, which I believe you should discontinue. But this is only my opinion, the choice is yours alone.
2007-09-29 16:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by Ralex 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I was 14 and dated a 17 year old. Everyone told me that he had issues and I didn't believe them because he told me he loved me and would never do anything to hurt me. He hurt me very badly. It took a very long time to get over the damage that he had done to me emotionally. I know you like him but everyone wouldn't be telling you bad things about him if they weren't at least a little true.
2007-10-03 12:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by b e a utiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lesson to that little voice!!! You already know he's bad new, but your drawn to him because he is. Do you want a baby? Will he make a good father if were to get pregnant? What would you do then? The best way not to let someone pressure you into sex is to not be in the alone with them.
2007-09-29 16:34:41 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋