How is a child raised by gay parents any worse off than one raised by parents who don't want him?

Question

I always here about how kids raised by gay parents will be "confused" or "messed up."
Well, I find that hard to believe. A child adopted by gay parents who want a child more than anything would be much better off than a child raised by, say, a teenage mom who used her pregnancy to guilt her boyfriend into marrying her, causing resentment.
These days, we have way too few of the former, loving families who want children, and way too many of the latter, abusive families who hurt children. The fact is that so many children are living in abusive homes or stagnating in the adoption system because there just aren't enough eligible straight couples to adopt them all. Why not allow gay couples to adopt? They wouldn't be able to give every kid a home, but they'd help. And we need more loving families. The stuff about how they might molest the kid is bs. Most pedophiles are straight men. And if a child is in an open environment from the beginning, they won't grow up "confused."

fisherman120, how can a child being raised in an open, loving home be confused or messed up? Because they won't see homosexuality as wrong?

Occam'sPig, a homosexual couple who wanted children would have to either adopt or artificially inseminate. They couldn't have an "oops" pregnancy like a straight couple. In order for a gay couple to even have children, they'd have to want them and make the effort.

Wow, it's sad how many of you have never met a gay person before. Newsflash, people: GAY PEOPLE ARE JUST LIKE YOU. THEY WANT FAMILIES AND LOVE JUST LIKE YOU DO. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH LOVE.

Answer 1

It takes a Village.

Besides there's nothing wrong with supporative parents regardless of their gender....

Woops a thumbs down for me now....

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Answer 2

Ideally, everybody would be raised by two loving caring wonderful parents who love each other and yes having one of each gender can be a helpful thing. But it's not a perfect world. I think if a child has someone who loves them, or two people, then they're lucky, and I wish all children could have at least that. There are accidental pregnancies, there is divorce, there is death, there are bad marriages, all sorts of different things, nothing is perfect so any child getting love and care no matter from which gender parents is fortunate and will hopefully grow up healthy.

Answer 3

That's a false dichotomy.

You are assuming that the only choices are A) child go to abusive home or B) child go to gay home. That is sort of like saying "Is someone who only eats at McDonalds any worse off than someone who only eats at Taco Bell?" Well gee.. there are a lot more options than just the two options you present.

Second of all, you reject out of hand the major reason why gay adoption is not a good idea. (Doesn't look like you are approaching the issue with an open mind here). You say "I always here about how kids raised by gay parents will be "confused" or "messed up."
Well, I find that hard to believe."

That's sort of like saying "I keep hearing the ship struck an iceberg and the hull is all messed up and we are going to sink.. well I find that hard to believe." The evidence is that children do best when raised with parents of each gender... look at the data from single moms who try to raise sons without a strong male influence... its no secret that they are MORE LIKELY (not guaranteed, but more likely) to have problems in school, get in trouble with the law, etc. that's why we've had "big Brothers Big Sisters" programs for years and years.

LAstly, "if there just aren't enough eligible straight couples to adopt them all" why are so many couples having to go to China and Eastern Europe to Adopt? If there is a problem with adoption in America it is NOT with a lack of willing parents.

Answer 4

I think gay parents who are willing to adopt and love a child should be allowed to do so. It is much more preferable an alternative than have an unwanted child languish in the system waiting to be adopted.

Answer 5

I agree with you. Some people out there have children they can't even feed,clothe, educate, or even love. How is starving kids preferable to being raised by homosexuals? At least they will see them as the blessing they are.

Answer 6

I happen to know that they are no different or "more messed up" than any other kids.They are not going to be gay just because their parents are gay, any more than all kids raised by straight parents will be straight adults. Yes, most pedophiles are straight men. Gay people are not hanging out in their bedrooms or wherever, having sex 24/7 any more than straight people are,because SEX is not their whole relationship.And they are just as capable of loving and caring for a child as anyone else is.

Answer 7

I have to agree; abusive or neglectful parents are by far worse than gay parents. I know many children of gay couples and they are fine, adjusted, and tolerant human beings. And no, they are not 'raised to be gay'. Just tolerant.

Answer 8

WOW, what about the child raised by gay parents who don't want him?

Answer 9

I have quite a few gay friends, some who've raised children. Their kids aren't confused or messed up. They are some of the brightest, most tolerant, kind-hearted kids I've ever known. Oh, and they're all straight, too.

Edit: For the thumbs-downers, guess you just don't like hearing about real stories that go against your beliefs, huh?

Answer 10

I agree with you 100%

I have known children raised by gay parents and i have not seen any "adverse effects" of their parents sexuality.
I think that the proper qualities that need to be considered are the love and happiness of a couple and how much they actually want a child to raise......

just my humble pagan thoughts

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