He lives at home with mom and dad and they let him do whatever he wants. They even buy booze for him. He is completly wasted everyday. If he keeps this up he'll be dead soon. He needs to be removed from my parents house and put in rehab. How do I get him help?
2007-09-29 15:30:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If he is a danger to himself and others as well you should be able to have him Baker acted. Which means he will be put in a mental health institute for a brief period and monitored by doctors. If he has a mental health condition and your parents aren't caring for that it can be considered neglect on their part which can also get them into trouble. He can only be Baker acted when he is a danger to himself or others so you will have to show this to the police at the time he is expressing that type of behaivor. Depending on his age as well can bring other issues to light. I am guessing your brother is a minor and your parents are aiding in the dilenquency of a minor. The need to realize that isn't the correct behaivor for parents to do and if you live in the house as well it puts you in the terrible spot to point it out. You can call places that can help even a local church.
2007-09-29 15:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by kahn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh... this hits close to home... unless you get your parents to see they are part of the problem, it will be difficult or impossible. You can't commit someone to rehab against their will and you can make him want to. The best you can do is attend Alanon for yourself right now, try to get your parents to admit there is a problem.... if so, you can do an intervention, but you can't do it without their help.. As long as they give him a free place to stay and eat, he will have no need to clean up and get a job and stop drinking.. I will pray for you....
2007-09-29 22:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dulos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to want help, if he dont an they buy him the booze, theres not a whole lot you can do, try contacting some consolers or AA an see if they have any suggestions, i grew up around drunks my dad died from it, an my brother is a drunk, an hes been to rehab an other programs an it hasnt helped
2007-09-29 22:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by elltea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you've tried to reason with your parents and that hasn't worked. Unless he's a minor there really isn't anything you can do. Try going to Al-anon for families of alcoholics and NAMI for the families of the mentally ill. They have support groups that can help you cope and may have some good advice for you.
2007-09-29 22:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered this question yourself. He needs to be removed from your parents house and go into rehab. Unfortunately this will depend largely on his age. You cannot make an adult go, all you can do is ask for assistance from a qualified drug & alcohol counselor. Good luck.
2007-09-29 22:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Menthoids 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...For anyone who isn't an alcoholic...The first step is accepting you have a problem.If your brother doesn't want help...No one can help him. He has to help himself before anyone else can. Like it has been said...If your parents are buying him booze...If your brother is a minor it might be smart to call social services...If not, say a prayer for him. But hounding him won't help. I am a recovering alcoholic...I've been sober for 10 years now. I was in a bad spot once,too...Instead of nagging on him for his drinking, try to do something with him-sober.
2007-09-29 22:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly not much till he makes the decession to want help... can lead a horse to water but cant make him drink. i say this from person experance. try to open his eyes. the alcoholism feeds the mental illness the mental illness is feeding the alcoholism... know he does it to himself and no one to blame if help is offered and he refuses that all u can do. some states do have laws where if he goes as far as trys to kill himself he can be involentarly commeted for up to 72 hours (baker act florida) might look into that and keep eye on him.
2007-09-29 22:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jay Argentina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you won't be able to do this without your parents help. Your parents are acting as enablers. They fear what would happen to him if he left, but their actions just encourage his behavior. You know, Alcoholics Anonymous has a related group called Al anon. This group is for the family members or people close to an alcoholic and it is all about taking care of yourself. I think you and your parents might want to check it out.
2007-09-29 22:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I highly recomend that you go to al-anon. The sick people in our lives will also make us sick in the head. Al-anon willl teach you how to handle these situations. Then maybe you could get one of your parents to go with you. Because until they quit enabling him, he will not quit. As an addict, I had to go through some pain and conscequences in order to seek help. If you are serious about his health and your peace of mind then it is time for you to take action. Al-anon I have beeen clean for over a year and just last week, my parents informed me that they were going to start attending al-anon meetings again. I know that they live in fear that I may use drugs again. And fear is an illness of the mind. So they are getting help. Plus Al-anon will help you t learn how to best deal with your brother. After my parents started going, They learned how and in what ways that they were enabling me. And I was 35 with a job house and wife. But i sure felt it when they quit enabling me. Thats what pushed me along to seek help. I wish you the best It can be hard. But only as hard as we make it.
2007-09-30 01:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Marty G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Someone has to want help before they can receive it ... I have tried to help my sister so many times it has cost me and then some ... at some point you have to live your life and even though their family don't let them drag you down.
Best wishes and good luck!
2007-09-29 22:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by grande alacrán 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋