Is it appropriate for a male friend to kiss a girl on the forehead in front of her boyfriend?

Question

So I have a guy friend that kissed me on my forehead in front of my boyfriend and it really creeped me out. When my boyfriend confronted him later, he got sort of defensive. I always thought that he was a good friend but I'm not sure if he has good motives or not. Does he really want to steal me away from my boyfriend or is it just bad communication skills?

Answer 1

My male friends hug me and do the forehead or cheek kiss thing all the time. You, your friend and your boyfriend need to realize that some physical closeness between friends is perfectly natural and not harmful to romantic relationships.
Kisses on the forehead are paternal in nature...think about where you always see father figures kissing daughters...ding ding ding...it's always on the forehead.
Your friend isn't trying to steal you from your boyfriend, nor does he have bad communication skills. Everyone just needs to calm down for a bit and let the issue go.

Answer 2

It depends.
Is this kissing on the forehead thing a usual practice between you and your friend, like...does he do it all the time? Did he do it before you had a boyfriend? If so, then he's just following the behavior you two set up long ago.
If not...if this is a first time thing, he doesn't seem to understand where his boundaries are and is testing the waters.

Now if it creeped you out, well then that kinda gives me the impression that this doesn't happen all the time.

I can't say what his motives are, he might just like you, but since you were freaked out by the action I'm guessing you have no feelings for him back, which is good considering you're already in a relationship.
It also might just be an innocent thing, and in that case you kinda have to pull him aside and gently tell him he can't do that, firstly because it makes you uncomfortable and secondly because you have a boyfriend.

Your boyfriend has every right to get offended...some dude just laid a smooch on his girl, and unless it's an old habit, it was out of the blue and for no good reason.

If you want to, ask your guy friend about it. Be honest with him and tell him it made you uncomfortable. Ask him if it meant anything and that please...if he considers you a good friend and respects you, that he won't do it anymore.
If he *is* a good friend, he'll apologize and lay off with the forehead-blessings...if he's not or has an agenda (meaning he wants you and is there for trying to mess with your other relationship) then it might be time to consider parting ways.

Answer 3

It is definately wrong for a guy to kiss a girl on the forehead in front of her bf. For the matter, it is wrong to kiss a girl on the forehead if she has a bf at all, especially if he isn't like her brother or something. It sends off the wrong signal, and if he was being defensive, then it definitely sends off the wrong signal. You have said that it creeps you out and it definitely seems like your bf doesn’t like it very much. Of course he wouldn’t why would he like another guy kissing his gf in anyway in front of him. You should just tell your friend to not do that anymore, and if you don’t want to hurt him just say, it doesn’t feel right because you have a bf, that is a good enough reason. Plus, it will solve the creepy feeling you have when he kisses you on the forehead. He probably does like you more than a friend, and probably wants to come in between you and your bf, trying to show your bf that he has the guts to do something like that, and that he has competition. But just tell him to stop in a nice way so you guys can still be friends without all the drama. Good luck and I hope this helps :)

Answer 4

I think it's inappropriate to do it in front of your boyfriend.. guys have some sort of "code" they go by and that's definitely something that they look down upon.

You're already thinking it, so you may be right.. that your friend may have some ulterior motives. If he is genuinely your friend, he would know to show some respect towards your boyfriend. And after being confronted, the right response would be to apologize and give some sort of explanation, instead of getting all defensive and pretty much proving that your boyfriend's concerns were right on the money.

Answer 5

He shouldn't have done that, it could be just bad communication skills. Maybe he feels so comfortable with you as a friend that it never occurred to him that your boyfriend wouldn't see his actions the same way he does. You should tell him nicely not to do stuff like that anymore because it gives the wrong impression. That will also make it clear to him you're not interested in him as more than a friend, in case he was thinking that way.

Answer 6

Both you and your boyfriend sound too immature to have a relationship. Why would it creep you out to be kissed on the forehead? Would you rather he'd done it behind your bf's back? And why would your bf confront him? He's not trying to steal you from anyone (you're not a statue in a museum that someone can sneak in and take) so you need to analyze why you feel the way you do.

Answer 7

No way someone who doesn't know him can tell, but to me a kiss on the forehead is a kind of intimate thing. It's weird to do it to a friend anyway, but in front of your boyfriend? Sounds like he likes you to me, and has questionable judgement in addition to that. A kiss on the cheek among really close friends is one thing, but on the forehead in front of your boyfriend, that doesn't seem cool to me. Decide for yourself though!

Answer 8

I always give a kisses to my female friends,but I don't kiss them in front of their boyfriends.

Answer 9

I'm sorry but if he did it in front of your boyfriend I'm sure he didn't mean any ill feelings from anyone.it was just a small gesture of friendship and its sounds to me as you may want it to meen more to make your boyfriend jealous .not good use nice people like that.rethink the situation and what you said to your boyfriend after with words or body language,or your eyes.sounds like you are blowing this way out of proportion,Don't lose a good friend by using him,I don't want to hurt your feelings ,but I call them as I see them,I'm truthful to a fault.......Be nice.......Mia

Answer 10

So this is America and if hes not old or your kin------then hes got some explaining to do. My husband would definitly put him in a crunch. But if your single alls fair in love and war!