when he was recently mad at me he looked my daughter and told her that I was a *****. I'm so hurt. What do I do?
2007-09-29 15:22:28 · 41 answers · asked by A06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your child is more important, She does not need to be around someone who can't control his temper. LOSE HIM!! He doesn't sound nice to me.
2007-09-29 15:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should care enough about your daughter to end your relationship now. You are subjecting her to Hell. And he isn't going to get better and stop. All abusers are nice sometimes. They still abuse. It starts with degradation and ends with you in the hospital or dead, all because you are more worried about being alone than your safety and the well being of your child.
Or you can keep him around and when she is 18 and comes home with a busted lip or bruises on her and is crying you can tell her, I am sorry I set the example that it was okay to live like that and watch her go back out the door to her abuser.
2007-09-29 15:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, is your child AT ALL important to you? If you answered yes, then why in the world are you subjecting her to that kind of verbal abuse. Do you know how much it hurts her to hear her mother being called names?? Do you want her to eventually think of you in those terms that he mentioned? WAKE UP!! He's not going to change and he's not going to get any better. I had one of those kind of guys and they only get worse. I had to dump him and yes it was hard because they can be so loving and different at times. You have to be strong FOR HER and let him go. Otherwise, eventually your daughter will suffer the consequences. She may end up with a bf just like him, take drugs to escape or worse yet just run away when she gets older. Your call. Her future is in your hands.
2007-09-29 15:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest getting out of the relationship as soon as possible. You are at the beginning of an abusive relationship. The violence will begin to escalate. Do you and your daughter a favor and walk away. Don't let her have to see her mother being abused.
2007-09-29 15:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by barftater 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! Why would you subject your daughter to someone who can't control his temper or his mouth? If he doesn't pay your bills or lives with you, it should make it easier for you to walk away, right? I've got news for you, nice guys don't do what he did and it saddens me to know that you would allow someone like that around your daughter. Think of her, and if he's not the baby's daddy, then you have no reason to keep him around.
If not, stand up for yourself and let him know he can't talk to you or your daughter like that.
2007-09-29 15:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by L.A. Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a "no brainer" ! Drop that guy like a sack of slimy rocks!!! It WON'T get better. You have a daughter to think of. There is no way to win this. STOP RATIONALIZING and making excuses for him. Just go! Don't look back. Do not pass Go and do not collect $200.00. Just GGGGOOOOO!!!
NOW!!
2007-09-30 20:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UH.... simple.... lose him ASAP.
Before you have to call 911 because you or your daughter are in danger.
> Anger is nothing to fool around with, for him to call you a name in front of her like that is horrible (I've been in a similar boat like that before with my former marriage)
If he cannot go to counseling & change, then lose him.
I went with my ex through counseling alot while we were married, I learned & tried ALOT. I think even the counselor gave up on her after a few visits, it was that impossible..... >the tree that would not bend (as some would call it)
2007-09-29 15:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the first step of his true colors-get out before he has a hold on you Especialy if he directs the verbal abuse toward your daughter. Don't surround your child with this kind of man. don't let this man take control of your life.
2007-09-29 15:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from him now. Trust me on this one. You are wasting your time with someone that is broken and cannot be fixed. He is really like this all the time you just have not seen it. So be afraid and move on to someone who is more worthy of your attention and love. Good luck.
2007-09-29 15:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Miki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg, you have to move on.. If he is like that now he will be worse later. You need to think about your daughter first and kick him to the curb.. There is somoene out there better for you!!
2007-09-29 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by mm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's bipolar...or he just PMSes a lot. Honestly I think that he's just sensitive, but sometimes can't handle anything. Does act like that for a loong time or for a short time? Maybe he has bad days and he takes his anger out on other people.
2007-09-29 15:27:20 · answer #11 · answered by [[chasing_nightmares?]] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋