okay im 18 and there is this guy that i work with that is disrespectful in my opinion. he asks me really weird personal, sexual questions. I felt violated at first but now im used to him being dumb. (hes 22 by the way) anyway we had some dumb bet on another person at work, and since he "won" he wants a "prize". Yeah, you know what i mean. only i think hes serious cause its not the first time he has said it. and also another person i work with also thinks hes weird, so i know its not just me. I feel so disrespected, and dont know what to say to him. I mean i know other guys that are not this way, so what is wrong with him?? Funny thing is he is going to school to be a psychologist of all things! He just started working there about a month ago so i dont even know him that well. its just weird. please Help!!!! what if hes a crazy stalker???!!!
2007-09-29 14:44:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know the feeling there. Tell him flat out that you are not gonna take his remarks any longer. Carry some mace with you. Let as many people you can know about what is going on, incase in the horrble event that you dissapear the authorities will have an idea of a suspect.
2007-09-29 14:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Daydreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay some boundaries as to what you as an individual are willing to tolerate from other people. If someone crosses, those boundaries and you do not call them on it then in their minds what they are doing is okay.
If this guy is over stepping his bounds, you owe it to yourself to tell him upfront. If you are truly worried about the idea of him being a potential stalker then you either need to go directly to the source and talk to him about it or you need to speak with your boss or your boss’s boss so that appropriate action can be taken.
If he scares you then you have to do something. You cannot let this go because the what-ifs are too big and there are far too many of them. Nevertheless, remember you are the one that teaches people how to treat you.
Please be safe and cautious. This is a very scary thing that you are dealing with. But please do something. You cannot dismiss this and convince yourself it is nothing. When warning bells are going off there is a good reason for it. Trust your instincts.
2007-09-29 22:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Buack's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time to be direct. Say "no!" where it is very clear that you aren't going further and you want him to leave you alone. Just because someone is going to school to become a psychologist doesn't mean they have it together or will become a psychologist. Don't let that hold you back. If you can't get him to leave you alone, it is completely appropriate to inform a supervisor of this. If he doesn't stop, he will lose his job, or he should.
2007-09-29 22:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people who go to school to be good things are not good people. I mean, have you ever heard about all those teachers who slept with those 14 year olds and younger? If you feel uncomfortable, that's not fair for you. Everyone deserves the right to feel safe. Let him know how you feel, talk to him at 'his level' like you would a little kid (men arent that mature, if you didn't know already lol) and if he continues with his antics, tell your boss/supervisor. Good luck.
2007-09-29 21:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy at work is -- in my opinion -- not only being disrespectful, but he's sexually harassing you.
If there's any way you can go to your Human Resources department and talk with them about the situation, please do so. Explain that you're afraid of him retaliating, but you are not comfortable with his continued and escalating rude behavior.
Best of luck to you . . .
2007-09-29 21:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by AgonyAuntie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a new employee he is probably on a probation status. You need to go to your boss and report him.
In the US there are laws against sexual harassment in the workforce and what you described fits. Please report this to your superior.
2007-09-29 21:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you waste your time even acknowledging this looser, you know your better so don't even converse with him.
2007-09-29 22:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋