Before we got together..we were kinda best friends he would tell me everything and so would i...he was crazy about me and he would call me all the time and would want to spend every moment with me...if i would be sad he ould do anything to make me happy...now he still tells me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of our lives together,but im the one that has to call him most of the time...if i get mad he ignores me..when im sad..he says hes too tired and falls asleep...but we still have a lot of great moment together and he still shows me he loves me..just not as much...am i doing something wrong...what should i do?..he still tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and im the only one for him..
2007-09-29 14:21:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it goes back to biology , men are hunters and trappers. he has hunted and captured u, now he feels he can relax, he does not have to chase u anymore , he has captured u.
so if you want the excitement of the chase, u must keep the mystery going, stop making your self so available. dont answer the phone for a few days let him wonder about u for a change. he knows he has'nt talked to u for 2 days just like u have not talked to him. be busy sometimes, if he does happen to catch u on the phone. let him call your cell phone 5 times before u answer it. name-drop an old boyfriend is in town. make him jealous that hes goin to lose u. when he gets to your house be dressed to go out, make him wait for your return . be mysterious! it works. make him sweat a little, after all u are not married yet! cut off the sex sometimes, make him want u! men are all basically old-fashioned still.
2007-09-29 14:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by carrie ann 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At first you were the center of his world. You were new and desireable. He was hot for you. He was out to win you. You wer like a new toy.
Now life goes on. He cares about you but he has you and he still has a life to live. He cannot spend a lifetime being at your beck and call 24/7. That is the way real life works. If he still treats you well. He still respects you and you are his girl and he your guy then thats the way every single relationship you ever have will be. Hot, then not so hot but as long as there is a warm glow you are fine.
2007-09-29 21:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by cold_fearrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you looks like you may have answered your own question.
When you say "he still shows me he loves me."
Your relationship is in a new stage, the newness has dimmed and the warmth of simmering comfort of the long term relationship has begun.
At this stage things are getting to the point where he feels comfortable in it and the need for 24-7 contact with each other will lessen.
Hopefully this relationship isn't all about you, and his needs aren't receiving any attention, can add to this.
2007-09-29 22:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang Tom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly i think that he still loves yu but now that you guys are actually a coule i think that it is kind of making things harder. Because, when you are best friends with someone you love them but it is like a brother or sister type of love. Now that you and him are boyfriend and girlfriend it is the love a man is suppose to love women like or mother father type of love.Now that he should call you most of the time, should try to make you happy, should be there for you it's harder for him. See, when you were best frineds wiht him you guys did it because you wanted to now that you are boyfriend and girlfriend you should do it and now not that he does not want to do to but maybe he does not feel like it. That goes wiht the sayong don't fall in love fall in like. When a woman or man loves you they will do anything for you. But when someone is suppose to love you they are a lot lesswilling to do certain things for you. I just think that you should talk to him. I wish you louck and hope everything works out for you. Always Love LADY J.
2007-09-29 21:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by LADY J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your relationsip is getting stale to him.
there comes to a point in most relationship where you fall into the same routine and it gets "boring". Although you do love eachother just as much, the excitement of the "honeymoon period" is over. this is because you are very comfortable with eachother and knows that you will always be there.
Try spicing up your relationship. Don't do the same routines everyday. Try these:
http://www.collinspartners.com/relationships/romanticthingstodo.html
2007-09-29 21:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Hefsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, it sounds like you're too dependant on him. Try resolving your emotions with yourself from time to time. Kind of give him some of his space, because he needs it, and so do you. He's just sick of the same routine. He loves you, but you can be bored in a relationship, while loving someone.
2007-09-29 21:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Samson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my new husband is doing the same sorta thing with me. he actually just left to go hang out with his friends for the third night in a row. i was invited, but didn't go as i'm exhausted from working and running around all week with work, him, life, etc. i am frustrated he doesn't want to spend time with just me. wish i had some answers for you... i'm sititng on the couch kinda stunned at his absence. and he used to fall over himself to spend time alone with me on said couch... don't know what to tell you. to a point it's normal, but doesn't feel it right now. good luck to you.
2007-09-29 21:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing nothing wrong infact you should dumo him even though you still like him he is just not the right person for you from everything you have said it shows that he is cheating on you he is only continuing to tell you thse thing so you would not suspect something
2007-09-29 21:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by pierceallchelsea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is normal male pattern known as "i've been with you for a while and the butterfly in my stomach period is over and now I am just going to coexist" This is natural, and it too shall pass.
2007-09-29 21:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably still loves you, based on what you said. he might just get tired of having to act on everything you say and any drama.
just don't bug him a lot (well you might not seeing it as bugging but don't overload him about your emotions) and he'll still love you.
you could also ask why he does that. he might have a good reason, or not be able to explain it
2007-09-29 21:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by ally 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋