This guy I have in about 3 of my classes seemed to look at me alot and I liked him so my friend asked him out for me but he said he had a girlfriend and wouldn't look at me the entire day then the next day he started to stare at me again. What's his problem and was he lieing when he said he had a girlfriend?
2007-09-29 12:54:12 · 24 answers · asked by halfblood_hero4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He might be the only one that knows the answer.
2007-09-29 12:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lost Poet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not he has a girlfriend, he finds you attractive - probably bust or rear that he can't help but look at. Maybe he thinks you have a very pretty face. Have you never window shopped even though you have no money in your wallet or no intent of buying something that expensive anyway.
Does he have a girlfriend? Maybe - he might not but be too shy to go out on an invited date, maybe he thinks your girlfriend was setting him up for an embarassment. It used to be a favourite trick in my day to tell a guy that a girl you don't even know told you to tell him she was interested. When he approaches the girl, she hasn't a clue what he's talking about and everyone gets a good laugh. It snot uncommen to reject such a suggestion, interested or not.
My advice - watch him for a while and you should be able to tell if he has a girlfriend. If not, ask him yourself.
2007-09-29 20:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by davster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, I can tell you 2 very obvious reasons that you may not be aware of, or I guess you wouldn't be asking your question. First of all, you say you're in "classes", so I'm assuming by that comment and your avatar that you may be in highschool, or even in college. People of both genders lie like dogs during "courtship" or dating in general. That's how the selection process is done that continues the species. I hate to sound so zoological, but, them's the fact, plain, cold and simple. Both genders do it, and they have their particular preferences or habits of lying. Secondly, and you may not have known this, but you will recognize it when you see it, men are primarily visually stimulated. They are "turned-on", sexually and all other ways by what they see. That's why all girls' makeup and hairstyles and clothing styles, etc., are so effective on men. It's got nothing to do with the woman's artistic or seductive styles, or not entirely due to them. You as a female are in your "courting" or dating years trying to attract an animal, male, whose primary way of being stimulated is visual, so he's naturally going to LOOK at you, and other women. It's not cultural. It's biological. It's factual. Knowing that will give you a "heads-up" on guys and your female friends. This has been scientifically proven by research done as far back as when I was first beginning my counseling practice, so don't try to second-guess it. Women, on the contrary are more kinesthetically or tactily stimulated. Touch is a most important way to "connect" or "communicate" with women, so, that's that. That answers why my wife, when coming to the hospital to see me after my big accident, kept telling the nurses and doctors, who were trying to "prepare" her for my loss of my leg, "Just let me touch him. I just want to touch him. I'll be okay if you just let me touch him." She's not the only woman like that. God Bless you.
2007-09-29 20:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys stare because their brains are built differently than girls.
when they are stareing at u they may be stimulating the pleasure center of thier brain. guys just enjoy looking, and when they are not looking at u whom they find very interesting, even though thier heart may belong to another girl.
u just will be out of sight out of mind. so be flattered by the attention, but just know that it no more than that. so u must be an attractive girl,; u dont have a horn in the middle of your forehead, because everybody would stare at that! So if u continue to feel totally uncomfortable by the unwarranted attention, u can always remind him, "didnt your mama teach u its impolite to stare"? That should shut him down quick.
2007-09-29 20:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by carrie ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you pretty? If you are, then that's why he stares. Girlfriend or not, guys will look.
Confucius say: He might me on a diet, but that doesn't mean he can't look at the menu.
2007-09-29 20:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by ozonesweep89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's playing hard to get.
Maybe he doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend but he's attracted to you.
Why do you ask the question as if all guys do this when you're only talking about one? Try asking every guy who stares at you out before you generalize.
2007-09-29 19:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i don't know if he was lying.
Quit asking friends to do the talking.
You think once you're out of school friends will be there to ask out guys for you?
Also... never ever ever ask a guy out.
Makes you look desperate and.. idiotic.
Guys like assertiveness, confidence.
You don't want him thinking that you're too scared to talk to him, do you?
Talk to him, and he might be staring because.. idk.
Lot's of guys stare at me, doesn't mean they like me though.
Most cases they do, but that's beside the point.
G'luck
2007-09-29 19:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie_ is_ bomb. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The simple explanation is that guys stare because it's in their nature. it's all biological. People are attracted to each other all the time and stare. i just hate it when a person stares and when the person turns their head they IMMEDIATELY put their face down.
2007-09-29 20:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like the other guy said, your friend might have made the situation really uncomfortable and he probably just answered out of nervousness.Just wait, if he tells u how he really feels then good for him but if he doesn't then just ignore him for the rest of your life.
2007-09-29 20:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he thinks your beautiful but is intimidated by your boyfriend, you dont honestly think hes going to tell your boyfriend this do you? maybe he does not even realize hes staring. it might be interesting if you find out who is girlfriend is & tell her what hes doing...i bet he dont even have one!!! now its a game to him & as hard as it may be ignore him, act like he dont even exist and if this dont work ask your teacher to move you to the back last row and tell her the truth if she asks why.
2007-09-29 20:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by pennylane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's attracted to you and may or may not have a girlfriend but he's probably afraid to admit that he likes you. He's uncomfortable. He's courting you with his eyes. Probably having some fantasies in his head. :p
2007-09-29 19:57:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋