I was dating a guy whom I met online. We messaged each other on a dating site for 2 months before we met in person. The chemistry came out 2 be wonderful between us and we spent the next 3 weekends together (they were all day weekends) and he would visit me sometimes in between. After the 3rd week, I finally felt like it was time for me 2 have sex with him. I couldn't hold off any longer and I felt it was time . The day after, everything seemed fine w/ him and seemed the same. But the next day, he seemed sad & slowly as the days went by, he wasn't offering to pay for our dates & didn't seemed as enthused 2 see me anymore. I then asked him what he wanted out of "us" & he told me that he takes things slow & that he was confused about us. We decided to still see each other for the next 4 days, but I broke it off because I felt weird knowing we weren't together. He said that was fine. I called him the next day &told him I didn't mean it, but then he said this is best anyway. What happened?
2007-09-29 12:08:41 · 7 answers · asked by Jenna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would it still be possible to have a chance with him? Possibly in the future? I fee like I lost a good catch. He had many of the qualities I was looking for in a relationship.
2007-09-29 12:09:47 · update #1
You may be learning a hard lesson here Jasmine:
Sometimes guys just go out with women for the sex. And here is the real tricky part, sometimes they don't even realize they are doing it. They (we) have what feel like real feelings of affection and closeness, but then, after sleeping together once or twice, they can go away.
Why? I just don't know. But sometimes it happens. Crummy I know, but it is no because of anything you have done - it's him.
Give him time, he may still be into you - but he might not be. You'll just have to wait and see.
If he's not, keep your chin up. You sound like a great girl - and you'll meet a good guy that will really be into you for the long term.
2007-10-06 20:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bye for now... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever gotten pretty involved with someone and then realized he's just not the one? It sounds like this guy had a similar experience with you. It would be better if he were more up front with you about it, but since he's not, let him go. Keep meeting new folks on that dating site and you will find someone who thinks you are amazing, I'm sure of it! And when they feel that way about you, they are not going to want to take things 'slow'. Good luck!
2007-09-29 19:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by mlk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he was feeling gloomy was most likely not you. Maybe something else in his life is bothering him and you should talk to him about it. I would hate it if i had a girlfriend, but started going through a rough time in life, then she broke up with me.
Just talk to him about it and ask him what bothering him.
2007-09-29 19:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by I ♥ Tes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOPS!!!!! Welcome to the weird and dishonest world of on-line dating. Honestly, do you really think that on-line daters are looking for the ONE? Ask how many other addresses he contacts when he's not contacting you!! And he says he's confused??? P.S. He doesn't want an "us" sorry for sounding so harsh!
2007-09-29 19:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he didn't really like the sex. He might have been offended by being so fast in relationship.
2007-09-29 19:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rakashininja 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he got the milk free why keep the cow i did not say you are a cow i am sure you are nice learn from this about men an yourself
2007-10-07 17:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by joetech01 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but i don't see you together any more maybe online dating isn't for you.
2007-09-29 19:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by katsage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋