UGGH wat should i do, i NEED HELP?

Question

I hate cheerleading. My mother made me quit gymnastics to join 3 years ago. I could have gone to the Olympics. She says I should be a Dallas cow boy cheerleader(gag), and that it will help me find a husband . I don’t want to. I have told her this. She says there is no way I’m starting gymnastics again and that I would be behind. But I’ve been practicing (my friends mother taught me 4 free 3 times a week she thought i was at chess club) . But she says I have 2 stay on the squad. I hate it the girls do these initiation things that are against my morals. My mom says peer pressure is good for practice for me. She wants me 2 be like her friends daughter, who cheers for a college team (there uniforms r sooo skimpy). My mom says shell stop paying 4 things such as my car my phone and i wont go on family vacations. What should I do? (im 16) and had alll a's and b's last year

wrong 1 srry

oh it wont be the wrong one of i say
is my mother a bad parent

Answer 1

I am sorry that your Mom doesn't understand how you feel. She seems to be living out her fantasy for life through you and doesn't understand that her choices are not the ones you would choose for yourself. She seems to have some control issues. You are too young to be thinking of the way to catch a husband and there are no guarantees that if you become a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader, that this will bring you one. You have such an interest in gymnastics and are good at it so I would encourage you to have a gymnastics coach look at your performance and maybe talk to your Mom about the talent that you have and how much it could mean to you if you went on to better your skills. I think you also need to tell your Mom about the immoral behavior that goes on with the Cheerleaders. I think you need to confess that you were not going to chess club but were practicing the skills you need to go on in gymnastics. Tell her how much it means to you to do what you want to do and that you have worked hard on your grades and trying to be a good person as well as a good daughter. Tell her that you do not wish to compromise your morals for something that you don't want to do in the first place. Tell her that you had hoped that by choosing the right values, you would make her proud. Explain to her also that a cell phone, family vacations and the things she is threatening you with are nice but not so important that you will be influenced by them. Ask her how she would feel if her Mom had made the same demands on her when it wasn't something that made her happy. Remind her that you love her but that you need to be allowed to make your own choices. Good luck to you. You sound like the type of daughter any parent would be proud to have.

Answer 2

She sounds like she's trying to pawn you off early... almost selling you. What a great mother! Don't ya know, it's a mothers job to reinforce to our young daughters that they are only for a mans pleasure. She wants you to find a good rich one probably, so that SHE will be taken care of when she's old. I'd tell her that it's YOUR life that you're worried about and if gymnastics are what YOU enjoy and are good at, then you should be doing that. What good is cheerleading going to do you in the future? I mean, really, that's just selfish of her. Is she trying to live her dreams through you? Or is it a case of her trying to impress all her friends?

Answer 3

this is in the wrong section!

but id talk to your mom and express that its not what you want. forcing you to do something will just make matters worse. I know my parents tried!

Answer 4

and what does this have to do with pregnancy