Yesterday I went on a date with this guy I have been knowing for years but have never been more than friends with. He says he loves me but I have never had feelings of more than a friend for him. Recently I just broke up with my boyfriend and he has been there to console me and I thought maybe I should give him a chance. After the date, we went for a walk in the park. It was late at night and the area we were walking in is not well lit. He is very playful and is always joking but what he did in the park upset me. When we were walking we heard something squeal or bark or something and run up behind us but we didn't see anything. He basically hid in front of me pushed me (not hard) and then and ran. Afterwards I said I could never be with a coward who would run and would push a woman he "loved" in harms way. Not that I was scared in the park, it is just that I felt if he ran from something as small as that, he could never protect me or himself for that matter.
2007-09-29 11:01:35 · 12 answers · asked by lovililadi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt really bad about it cause I think it might have hurt his feelings. Was I wrong for saying this. Should I just have chalked it up to him being playful and not being a coward? I apologized but he was still hurt by what I said and I feel bad about it. I
2007-09-29 11:03:46 · update #1
You were not wrong at all - he would never protect you.
2007-09-29 11:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not every man is as brave. However, this was a bit beyond normal fear. About the worst you should accept is if he just ran. But because he seemed to be offering you as a sacrifice, you really have to wonder how he truly feels.
Even if he really does love you, you know a guy like that will sacrifice you in other aspects of his life too. If his job or family interferes in your relationship, it's quite likely that he'd let you go then too.
I would say there's a reason you never felt anything past friendship for this man, listen to those instincts.
2007-09-29 18:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurting his feelings seems to be alot less painful than getting jumped in the park, rapped, and stabbed because you were left alone to fend for yourself, because the guy you're with bolted to save his own butt. now if you are positive that he was just kidding then calling him a coward was a little harsh and you do need to make it up to him. but on the other hand if he was being real then you could always sign him up for self-defense classes so as a friend you know he will as least be able to take care of himself!
2007-09-29 18:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were wrong to get upset. Yes, nothing hurt either of you, but just the simple fact that if it had been a huge dog or something he would've used you to protect himself or just ran off and left you is a sign of him being selfish and a big chicken. Trust me, selfish guys are not in any way fun to be with... and neither are chickens.
2007-09-29 18:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww...
Well, I certainly understand where you're coming from. I was in N.O. with my husband years ago, and he was acting so scared and jumpy and I had very little faith in him protecting me. But, I guess you really never know until the situation presents itself. If this guy really cares for you, I'm sure he would protect you.
He was probably just acting silly. I think you should apologize and tell him you know if the chips were down, he'd be there for you. Tell him you're sorry for your choice of words; that you didn't mean it the way it came out.
Give the guy a chance. :)
2007-09-29 18:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey... the bottom line is obvious.... in scarey situations this guy is going to run for HIS life....... This my dear is not what one does to someone they are in love with.... Stop feeling sorry for him and do him a favor..... simply be his friend and tell him that what he did was thoughtless and selfish.
2007-09-29 18:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by BINTHAIRDUNIT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he actually scared or just messing around. Either way it was kind of harsh and I would at least apologize.
2007-09-29 18:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not wrong you just know what you want in a man. And he is not it. at least you did not lead him on.
2007-09-29 18:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by creativebookvamp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it was pretty mean, but you should give him a second chance anyway. i mean, theres no reason you should just break up with him because of one little thing
2007-09-29 18:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mm hes probably not worth it
its nice knowing your man would be there for you to keep you safe deff.
2007-09-29 18:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋