i had a misscarriage last month on august 5. I still have not gotten my period and i am scared that i am pregnant. I have never had a miscarriage so it was a surprise and now the thought of being pregnant. I cxant have a baby now. I have a 1 1/2 year old, i just started a new job. I have never been a person to believe in abortion i was so against it and now i find myself might wanting to get one. I just dont know what to do. Are there different types of abortions. I dont want to be cruel. I might only be 4-5 weeks pregnant...is the baby formed already? I have alot of mixed feelings but i know i cant have a baby. Is there a quick easy way to have an abortion if ur own 4-5 weeks along. Please help.
2007-09-29 10:26:34 · 32 answers · asked by ny_cheriese_fl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm sorry that you are so scared right now, but there are options available to you without resorting to abortion.
Even if you are only 4-5 weeks along and the baby is not fully formed, it is still a tiny human life. I think you know this in your heart from what you wrote, and I don't think that getting rid of the baby will help you. Rather, it will leave an emotional scar worse than the miscarriage you suffered because you will always know that you caused this baby's death willingly.
I know it's a little too late, but you must stop and think about the choices you are making and how they are making a mess of your life. If you are single and have a young child why are you still sexually active? It's time for you to make a pledge to abstain until you are married.
Do it for you and your child.
And if you truly feel you can't raise this baby, please consider adoption. There are thousands of women in this country who pray every night and cry themselves to sleep because they cannot conceive a baby of their own. They would love to shower your baby with love and provide a stable home with a mother and father.
God bless you and please choose life. Don't hurt the baby because you made some bad choices. Don't make your child pay.
Email me if you want to talk more. paxicotrader@yahoo.com
2007-09-29 10:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 7⤊ 9⤋
If you had a miscarriage just last month it is very unlikely that you are pregnant again - certainly not 4 to 5 weeks. You would have had to become pregnant within days or even hours of your miscarriage. Before you start stressing about an abortion go see your doctor and find out if you are truly pregnant. Your cycle probably just has not returned to normal. If you cannot have another baby now please go on a reliable birth control regime. I personally am against abortion but It is not my place to tell you if it is right or wrong. That is a decision you must make based on what you think you can live with. Again I am not suggesting one or the other. As far as the development of a baby - in the first 4-5 wks the fetus is just beginning to form. At 6wks it will have a heart beat. Go to your public library and find a book on the development of a human baby and you can see pictures at different stages.
I do wish you the best. I will say a prayer that you are not pregnant and so will not have to make such a hard decision.
God bless
fishergirl
2007-09-29 10:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by fishergirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Despite what many people say, the baby can't feel pain that early. It just doesn't work that way. It's not developed enough to feel pain. The heart is beating but that's about it. You can have a surgical abortion or medical abortion. The medical is a pill that basically makes you miscarry. I've heard it can be pretty painful and you can pass blood clots that are pretty big. I have had an abortion. I had a vaccum aspiration. The actual procedure took only a few minutes. It was very sad, I cried the whole time. I don't regret the abortion although I do think about that baby every day. Only you know what's best for you and your children. Don't let people's negative mean comments get you down. Almost everyone who has an abortion started out pro-life. You never know what it's really like until you're put in that position. I wish you the best of luck. If you need to talk I will always listen. God bless
2007-09-29 10:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Having an abortion is a decision you have to make. Don't let anyone make it for you! If you feel that this will make your life much harder and you're not prepared for it, (i) wouldn't do it, from the way you sound it definitely doesn't feel like you're ready for this and that is not the way you want to bring a baby into this world (if you can help it )- and you are early enough along to have it done in one easy process. Please don't wait until the baby begins to take shape. Right now it's a tiny mass and that's it! whether you believe in abortion or not from a political or religous stance, this is your decision, your life. This is the school of life and the hardest (class) you'll ever have to pass. Who's to say what's right and what's wrong (you are that's who!!!)at least in this case. You are going to be the mother of that child NO ONE ELSE! When you go to sleep at night you need to know that you did what was right for you and to heck! with what anyone else thinks!!! anytime after the first trimester is a no-no but that's just my little opinion. I know a person who had one done in the second trimester and it was not a pretty site because it has grown and begun to take shape and that was very painful for her. (take politics and religion out of the equation-what would you do)?? I noticed you said you were dead set against abortions until now so i would take this as a life lesson learned,(to not judge people or their decisions until you have walked in their shoes.) I hope this helps, best of luck!!!
2007-09-29 11:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by dollbabyii 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi, it sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now. First things first, are you still pregnant? Taking a pregnancy test might not be very useful since hcg stays in your system for some time. Can you go to your doctor? They can do an ultrasound and find out whats going on in there. Next if you are still pregnant. The choice is yours and one that only you can make. Personally I am pro-choice, but that's just me. Could you live with having an abortion? Is adoption an option for you? I also recommend planned parenthood, they are very nice and informative. Remember take this one step at a time.
As far as a 4-5 week old baby being formed? Here is a website that's really awesome (some people have a hard time getting it to work).
http://www.umm.edu/pregnancy/000088.htm
Good luck and take care
2007-09-29 10:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Abortion is such a controversial issue you really can't ask it, because people will either be for it or against it!
My advice is, look into all your options! You have 3. It's not the end of the world. Take things slow and do not make any rational decisions!! You need to make sure YOU make the best decision for YOU and please, make sure it is something that you can live with. I have known girls who said they could never get an abortion, then they got one and now they feel horrible and really regret ever doing it. You don't want that. Also, some women really regret giving there babies up, and some women keep there children and have a hard time doing making it in life. You just have to decide what is best for you. It's your body, and your choice... also a choice you have to know you made for ever and ever. Good luck, I know it's a tough situation!!
2007-09-29 17:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by babymama. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
K, I am going to give you probably the only unbiased true information on here. I will also include links to back EVERYTHING up. You have plenty of options. You can do medical abortion up through 7-9 weeks. It is 92-97% effective. If it does not work completly you will have to go in and get a surgical abortion anyway. You will take a few pills (medication) that cause you to have a miscarriage. This will happen at home, over a few days to 4 weeks at longest. This is private non surgical method. It will cost around 550-600.
You next option is a surgical one it is called vacuum aspiration. It is 100 percent effective. You can have an IV sedation (like when you have wisdom teeth out) or you can have some sedatives (usually a valuim). This will take place usually at a clinic near you. You can go to planned parenthoods website for the number to make an appointment. This can be done up through 12 weeks usually. They will dilate your cervix, and give you a numbing shot on the cervix. They will use a cannula which is about the size of a straw and put it up through your cervix into the uterus. They then turn it on and it GENTLY vacuums and empties out the contents of your uterus. If you chose to be awake you will feel pain similar to strong menstral cramps. This lasts for about 3 minutes of vacuuming and 15 min total for being in the procedure room. If you do IV sedation you will not feel or remember anything. This will cost between 430-520 dollars. Ok, the baby if you are lets say 6 weeks along the embryo will be a little under an inch long and yes the heart is beating.
Only you will know what is right, abortions done so early in pregnancy are very safe. Don't be scared. If you want to get one the sooner the better. I wish you luck..if you have anymore questions feel free to email me. I am in a similar situation
2007-09-29 10:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by ash 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Instead of forcing my personal beliefs on you, I will factualy answer your questions and hope that you go see a docotr for any other uestions you may have. Is the baby formed? Yes formation has started to form, however it isn't even the size of a grain of rice, and if yu were to pass it naturally , you would not b able to see it. There is no "easy way" to have an abortion, but you can call planned parenting for counseling and they will give you info on the various options you have, even those that are not a termination of the pregnancy. As far as what you feel, I will tell you this; it is better to be absolutely SURE of yor feelings before making decisions of this nature. Planned Parenthood offers counseling, and so do many other agencies. I know its a rough decision, I hope you choose whats bst for you. Blessings.....
2007-09-29 10:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the longer you wait, the harder that is going to be to tell them likewise with the abortion. in case you haven't any longer spoken to him in 2 months, that would make you 2 a million/2 to 3 months pregnant (approx 10-12 weeks). once you're a teenager, texas regulation demands parental consent. likewise, maximum clinics in texas can't carry out abortions previous 12 weeks. something interior the 2d trimester, yet no longer previous sixteen wks, must be accomplished in a wellness facility or ambulatory surgical center. i know some human beings have had abortions. one had to have one accomplished because of the fact of scientific motives (she became on meds that truly brought about particular deadly progression issues. her infant had no strategies), the different became in reality for the comparable motives as you. the two pronounced that they had by no ability do it back. it became painful the two bodily and emotionally. as far as value, the single that became a scientific necessity became lined by ability of insurance, the different became approximately $six hundred if i remember wisely. the longer you wait, the costlier. abortions, in basic terms like another scientific technique do have hazards and facet consequences so you might look into besides. you are able to touch a deliberate parenthood on your section (it particularly is the place i've got been given information approximately consent and tx regulation) to make certain extra information on getting a being pregnant try, value, technique, counseling and destiny start administration so it would not take place back.
2016-10-05 13:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They start them at 6 weeks. If this is something you choose, the sooner the better. They are quick an easy, but do were on your body and your mental state. Whatever happens you need to get on some form of birth control so this doesn't happen again. If your going to have sex you have to be responsible and take care of your self.
2007-09-29 10:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out if you are pregnant or not. You have only just had a miscarriage so chances are you have missed a period because things are still healing. Go to the family planning clinic or the doctor, dont sit and worry about something which may not be needed. You need to see someone and then you will get proper advice about everything you are worried about. Take care hun xx
2007-09-29 10:32:57 · answer #11 · answered by dances 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋