I guess he thinks that its ok to get one more fling before he ties the knot. I don't know the girl he's about to marry so I would not feel comfortable at all telling her this, but she seems like a nice woman almost innocent and totally involved in this whole getting married thing. Is she too blind to see that he's a total jerk?Anyway he says he really loves her and he's happy about getting married, except he feels like he needs to have one more encounter before its too late. Are a lot of guys like this before getting married? Is it just cold feet? I know he talks to an old flame of his on a regular basis so I would not be suprised if he did it with her. But I always hear that guys get antsy before they get married but does that make this ok? I know if My BF did this I would never forgive him. I mean if you are really in love you wouldnt feel the need to do this. Why would someone think its ok. He says No Way would he cheat after the i do's but who knows????
2007-09-29 09:55:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tons of guys feel the urge to sow one last wild oat....the good ones don't actually go through with it though. It's like that naughty fantasy you have of punching the jerk at work right in the face. Would you ever really? No, but sometimes its comforting just to know you could.
As his bride I wouldn't be comfortable with my guy having a really close relationship to his ex. I'm certianly not the jelous type but clean breaks are almost crucial to moving on.
However, if you aren't friends with the bride I would just be frank with the guy and tell him this is a jerkoff move and he needs to knock it off. My respect for the guy would go right out the window but unless I knew the cheating was a chronic thing I wouldn't feel it was my bussiness to call up someone I don't know and wreck her relationship.
2007-09-29 10:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to cheat before the "I DO" he will cheat after.
That said isn't that why they have bachelor party's for? Men are just dogs', They think that because they will be stuck doing the same piece every night they should get as many in before the marriage.
Just because you don't know the girl doesn't mean you can't say something. I would like someone to tell me I don't care who, would you?
2007-10-03 16:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by lgs121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact (you have witnessed it yourself and are not just listening to rumor) that he is staying in contact with his old flame, and since he told you he wants to "get one out of his system" I would let his fiancee know before her life is ruined by this jerk. Stop rationalizing. Either a person is of good character and doesn't cheat or they are NOT of good character (makes no difference, man or woman).
2007-09-29 17:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cheats on her before he marries her he will after. You said the right words "if you are really in love you wouldn't feel the need to do this."
2007-09-29 17:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by franfifi@sbcglobal.net 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um...just go ahead and f*** with him but make him swear on his life that he won't do it ever again after hes married. Tell him that if u find out he's done it again after that you'll tell his wife. All guys get like that be4 they get married, they're just nervous and want to burn off the fear. Just think of it as practice for him for when the ido's are over.
2007-09-29 17:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by <3heyy<3 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a tough question. My fiance seems to be hornier than usual, and we're approaching our wedding date in 6 weeks...it could be true that guys get that way, and lucky for me, I'm the recipient!!
2007-09-29 19:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by chloe1995 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's an a**. I think some people think they're "entitled" to one last fling before settling down.... It's beyond me.
2007-09-29 20:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋