My fiance and I are having a hard time sticking to our guest list limit. We have some really close friends who we want there, along with our family, but then we feel we get into, "well if we invite so and so, we probably should invite so and so".We really can afford to have a ton of extra guests, unless we went to more of a 'cake and punch' reception. Anyway...like I stated before, if I was invited to someone's wedding a couple years back, am I obligated to invite them to mine?
2007-09-29 08:39:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with you, it is difficult in narrowing down the guest list without offending anyone. Like the others said, NO-you are not obligated to send a courtesy invite. But if you are able to rebudget or scale down your wedding in order to accommodate more guests, it is possible to include more guests.
There is nothing wrong with an infomral reception. You can also hire an amateur photographer as opposed to a professional. A DJ is cheaper than a band. Having a wedding on any other day but Saturday is cheaper. (Ours was a Sunday lunch wedding and less expensive). You can also scale back on flowers. You can also check different travel agents to see what can give you the best deal for a honeymoon. And a big money saver is booze-you simply don;t have to offer a bar. You may simply wish to do a champenge toast and that's it.
All the best to you!
All the best to you!
2007-09-29 09:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those people who invited you years back aren't necessarily close friends of yours or you haven't spoken to them for a long time -- then no. I just had a wedding this past June and couldn't invite everyone I wanted to either (my mother invited over 60 guests without telling me). If you can't, you can't.
2007-09-29 16:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT ever feel obligated to invite someone because you went to theirs. You have a guest list limit. Stick to it.
2007-09-29 19:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No......
If people ask why they aren't invited or ask if they can bring someone else to your wedding (both of which are totally rude) you reply honestly, "I'm sorry, we'd love to have you there but we can only afford a small wedding. Thank you for understanding."
2007-09-30 21:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't seen or heard from then in a while; omit their names off of the list.
2007-09-29 16:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by wlknwtr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not "obligated" but it does SEEM like the right thing to do.
2007-10-03 10:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2007-09-29 15:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by cinney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obligated, no. Encouraged, heck yeah. It can cause tension later on if you don't.
2007-09-29 15:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by kiki 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no, but if they are close friends i would explain the reason why.
2007-09-29 15:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by bob t 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.
2007-09-29 15:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋