I am a 20 year old woman and it seems that now-a-days guys expect a girl to be sexually involved once they are in a relationship. It's just not for me. I realized that guys these days don't tend to respect the girls they go out with if they are sexually involved which I think its truly messed up and I'm not trying to fall into that trap. I refused to be used and abused by any guy.
2007-09-29 07:13:11 · 12 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You have learned at a young age what it takes some people a lifetime to learn. Guys don't have any respect for girls who "give", even though the guys will pressure them mercilessly for it. It's a sad time that we're living in. Girls give when they don't want to, in the hopes of finding forever love, and guys take it and then move on to the next conquest. I say a big good for you for standing up for your beliefs and protecting your heart from unnecessary pain. Be sure you find a man who appreciates the moral strength you have. Don't ever waste yourself on a man who doesn't.
2007-09-29 07:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kyle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is awesome!! Good for you! It's ignorant to think that you need to "put out" to be loved!! Not only that, but there are waaaayyyy to many STD's out there. no guy in the world is worth living with an incurable disease for the rest of your life. Your body is a temple!! In addition, becoming sexually involved makes you vulnerable. If two people do not cherish sex enough to wait for a marriage commitment, how can they trust one another for fidelity? Conversely, a man and woman build trust and respect for one another when they both survive the struggles of self-control — each will have the confidence that the other respects them, and cherishes their intimacy.
How 'bout this ladies: Let's not look at it as "guys these days don't tend to respect the girls they go out with if they are sexually involved" let's flip it and let them know we don't respect them if they can't handle a non-sexual relationship! Stay positive!
2007-09-29 07:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by #1Realtor® 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is anything wrong with not wanting to have sex. If the guy you're in the relationship is not okay with it than there is really no point in you two having a relationship. Things like this should be communicated before you start any relationship just so you each are aware of the others expectations.
2007-09-29 07:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Total Confusion 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are dating a guy let him know on the thrid date where you stand sexually, do NOT talk about it on the 1st date, its bad, if they guy can't stop talking about sex, well you can guess what he's after, so you won't need to go for 2nd chance. Just let him know where your physical boundaries are, and don't put yourself in a situation where you might alow things to get too far, like being alone, or in the dark, or sittin on the bed or whatever.
2007-09-29 07:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by DJDevine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it at all. Many girls just have sex because they think it's what they are supposed to do. I spent many years having sex because the guy wanted to, even though I didn't really want to. So, I say, good for you. And if the guy can't wait until you're ready then he is a jackass and you don't need him.
2007-09-29 07:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be sexually involved in any kind of relationship
2007-09-29 07:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very successful platonic relationship for the past five years, whatever you are comfortable with is always the right thing to do
2007-09-29 07:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with having no sex but you will live alone because no guy is going to put up with that. You would be much better having no relationships so you can avoid the pressures of a man. Many women have chosen this path and are very happy.
2007-09-29 07:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's okay not having sex right away in a relationship. I assume, though, that you are interested in being sexually involved eventually. If you are not interested in ever having sex, that would be kind of odd.
2007-09-29 07:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by nursekuba 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's YOUR personal decision not to have sex right now, and whatever is good for you is what you need to practice.
I think this shows you are taking care of YOUR needs first, which is very healthy.
all the best...
2007-09-29 07:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋