I have two sisters who I'm very close with. One twin sister Chelsea, and my 14 year-old sister Joleen. We are very close. As a matter of fact, we have the habbit of hugging, having our arms around each other, we kiss (on the cheek, duh!), and I have the habbit of placing my hand on their thighs! My sisters aren't complaining and all, but some see it as "Ugh! You pervert! You do that to your sisters!? I can't believe you!" I asked my sisters if they were okay with that, and they said they had no problem with it and that it was okay with them! They said it was fine! I asked them to be honest with me, and they said they were honest--it don't bother them. I told them to tell me if they were uncomfortable with it, and they said it was nothing to them! Is it wrong to place my hand on my sisters' thighs? I mean heck, they're not complaining at all! I asked our pastor, and he found nothing wrong with it! My girlfriend says the same thing! My parents are of the same sentiment!
2007-09-29 06:57:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
What is acceptable in and to your family is your own business.
You know, and they know, that you are doing anything perversive, so you have to answer to no one.
I have had to get used to seeing adult Japanese women walking around in public holding hands-- they do not appear to be related ,and at first I thought, "Are they...?" But it's clear that they are not, and that it is obviously part of their culture to be connected in this way when they feel close as friends. I saw it yesterday on the way to the train, and you know what? I nodded to myself and thought, "Good on them, why shouldn't you be able to show people that you care about them??"
Nothing wrong with it at all. If society has issues, then they're way too uptight.
Relax... there's nothing wrong.
2007-10-04 08:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your sisters do not mind and your parents - then I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing. Some people are born "touchy" and can express their affection through physical gestures.
Reality is that in this world you cannot please everybody. Even if you are innocent and your intentions are pure - people will still have some negative comments about you. Their comments may affect you BUT do you care. What's more important are the feelings and comments coming from your loved ones because you know they are sincere and after your welfare.
As long as your intentions are pure, sincere and noble - then why let them affect you! You are a sweet and expressive person - pls. do not change just because of what the other people say.
2007-10-03 01:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by addicted too 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, man! You and your family are okay with it, right? And besides, it seems to me like you've gotten used to it, so what's the point in breaking that "habit"? I see no logical point in breaking something you've already gotten accustomed to! These people DO NOT understand the meaning of touch, and so they twist it! They don't appreciate it's value! If I was on a jury, heck, I'd rule in your favor--not guilty! You get to be acquitted. As long as you know yourself--your heart, your intentions. As long as your intentions are pure, I don't see anything wrong with that! Just say "Father, forgive them! They know not what they do!"
2007-09-29 17:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chichiri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if Chels and Joleen are okay with it, why worry? Come on! I know how close you are to the two of them. And I know how close you are with Ted! Please! For heaven's sake, you can talk about it with me, with the gang! Dude, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, as long as you know your intentions, your heart. And would you please apologize to Ted!? It's the kid who's suffering in all this!
Meet me at the Juice Bar, the park, the beach, anywhere... We'll talk about it! I can even call the gang! Peace up!
-Rock-
PS
Don't forget our homework on "The Lady of Shallot", okay?
2007-09-29 12:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people are supersensitive about the subject of "intimacy" between family members (for lack of a better phrase). I don't see anything wrong with your gesture of affection. If my brother did that to me or my sister, I'm sure we wouldn't give it a second thought. Ignore those who find it offensive...it's none of their business anyway.
2007-10-04 17:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by kendi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there is something wrong with that. In the U.S. that is seen as a sexual gesture. I'm not quite sure why your pastor doesn't see anything wrong with it. Nothing wrong with hugging, or kissing the cheek.
2007-09-29 07:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one who feels that intimate contact is a personal and, for the most part, private thing. I would not practice that in public routinely... but between those as close as you state you and your sisters are. then what you describe is normal as far as you state it... let those with "dirty" minds... stew in there own ignorance... stay close with those who mean the most
2007-09-29 07:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you aren't rubbing their thighs I see no problem. Some people are hypersensitive and they need to get over it.
2007-10-03 07:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gretchen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everyone is okay with it and there are no sexual suggestions then it's fine however it seems like because it's been brought up you are now uncomfortable with it. so stop. if you think that it may be perceived as inappropriate then just don't do it anymore.
2007-09-29 07:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And after the 200 people you have already asked, why are you so concerned? If it does not bother your sisters, end of story.
2007-09-29 07:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by krennao 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋