my boyfriend is 22 im 21 and I have a son from a previous relationship. wen we 1st got 2gether he said he didn’t wont 2 rush things he wonted 2get 2 no me b4 we moved things in to the bedroom. a few times we got close 2 sleeping 2gether but on these occasions he would say he needed the loo or do something 2 stop it going any further. our 1st time he was shaking all over and was as white as a sheet. and 2 b honest he doesn’t no anything about wot a woman wants in the bedroom or the way 2 do things, in all respects he's a beginner.
but this is the confusing thing! he was in the army 4 5yrs and is full of story’s about the girls he had in this time.
but I think allot of the time if not all the time he is telling me something he has herd and not something he has done. allot of mutual friends think he is story telling 2!!!
wot do u think?
and how should I tell him about the story’s? because he’s becoming a bit of a joke with his m8s and work colleagues because no1 believes him any more
2007-09-29 06:01:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably a virgin. Be nice to him about this--guys are sensitive about this topic.
2007-09-29 06:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he may have been a virgin when u 2 first slept together, but don't make him feel bad about this. Next time just let him know what you want (in the bed of course) and tell him that it wouldn't matter whether he was a virgin or not because you still love him.
I'm not sure wot to do about the mates though, try going to see him at work because of something like he left his lunch at home etc, then whispering loudly (so his mates can hear) say something like
"oh and last night was so amazing, I've got something even better planned for 2nite. Here is something just for you'll need" then hand him a sexy g-string.
2007-09-29 06:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by *Angel* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the 40 year old virgin together. Also bring up to him how important you feel honesty is in a partner. At yet another time, drop a statement how you think that people "create" good sex together, so that experience to that point is not important. Do this in any order. (You can repeat the "honesty" bit a few times). After a few days, or maybe after the movie, you could see if he confesses.
Just make it a safe and loving environment; if you two really care for each other, he should understand why honesty is best, and fess up soon enough.
Good luck! :-)
PS: get busy helping him acquire some skills!
2007-09-29 06:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you don't need to lessen his confidence anymore with those people's stories, even if he started them himself.Get him to tell some real ones about you and him if that's what it take's.?So, we all have to start somewhere as they say, and what if he is a beginner, you love him don't you.?Most men will make things like that up, they are ashamed that they know less than the woman they are with, men are supposed to be studs and be able to please a woman none stop.In reality we know it's not like that (except if you're itallian!).....He's definitely tellng you porkies about the girls he's had relationships with, he's embarrassed.You could really help him out here, coz you love him.Turn around and say to these guys, 'well I believe him, because he's my man..and he certianly knows what he's doing ' The stories will soon stop, or ease up, and your man will want to please you.It will most probably draw you close together.He will be less worried about his performances then.It will be better in the long run for both of you. To tell him that he's a laughing stock at work would most likely destroy him, as he sounds unsure of himself anyway and it may very well break up your relationship.?
2007-09-29 12:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he's doing is putting up a front and telling you those stories so he doesnt feel like a joke himself. Guys dont think of it as "sweet" or "cute" to be a virgin. he's probably ashamed to tell his friends and yourself about the situation so pretends he was a big ladies man. you need to sit down and gently tell him that its okay with you and just because he doesnt know what to do in the bedroom, he'll learn. everyone has to start somewhere.
2007-09-29 06:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about him putting his money where his mouth is in a way!
Sounds like he is a virgin but really I wouldn't jump to that conclusion.
Talk to him! I cannot stress this enough! To figure out why he's so timid in bed is to TALK TO HIM!
He might just blow off the question and not accept that he has a problem.
Tell him that he is not proving that he's "THE MAN!" from telling stories.
2007-09-29 06:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Bananas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it looks like you got an 'Andy' on your hands. Any man that is afraid to bone a girl must either be very inexperienced, asexual, or gay. If you look halfway decent, you might come across the pond and have some fun with me. I'm not shy.
2007-09-29 06:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe hes nt lying maybe its just tht ur the first person he has made love to instead of just having sex...and he was and still is nervous because of his feelings 4 u
2007-09-29 06:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by breeReal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could or could not be, the only real way to know is to ask him if he has had sexual contact before you. Some guys just pretty much suck when it comes to sex...
2007-09-29 06:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋