are divorces neccessary? Should a husband or wife do everything in their power to make a marriage work even if that means living through abuse, adultery, neglect, and dishonesty? If a husband or wife is in a bad marriage and is hanging on simply because they hope it will get better, is that good? What are your views on this?
2007-09-29 05:06:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I will leave this question as an open forum type question. The person with the most thumbs up will be my best answer.
2007-09-29 05:13:22 · update #1
Divorce was created so either party could get out if there was abuse or cheating etc. Im damn sure i wouldnt stay if i was being bashed, my kids got sexually abused by their father or he was screwing around.
2007-09-29 05:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
My belief is that marriage is a lifetime commitment. However, as to everything in life there are exceptions. Abuse of any form & adultry. If there are disagreements they can be worked out. All we have to do is take a step back and remember what it is about that our husband/wife that we fell in love with. Yes people change that is the nature of the beast. But while people change our feelings usually don't so to just get mad and divorce over an argument is I feel wrong. Try a get away even if you do not have the finances to go somewhere extravagant you can do a little get away at home. Have a special night for you and your spouse to talk about your week and let each other know what has been done to make the other upset. This works.
2007-09-29 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by loretta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God gave us the institution of marriage to help separate us from the lower form of animals. Before marriage ancent man just found and more or less raped whom ever they could find. No set rules about relationships or the establishment of families. We have come a long way since then. I believe that everyone gets married with the intent for it to be forever, no one gets married with divorce in mind. However, us being the humans that we are, things happen. Each person has to make individual decisions that are best for them. I'm kind of in favor of this five year deal where every five years, a couple must renew their commitment or go their separate ways. Sure there would be a number of people to break up after five years, but there would also be some that fell back in love and realized what they have. It may cut down on cheating and abuse a little.
2007-09-29 13:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Brad M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should absolutely stay married. Anybody can work through an affair, neglect, dishonety. Give it all you have to change the marriage. But there are exceptions. When somone cheats on you continually or abuses you and so on. When the poblem doesn't get better after trying and trying then it's time to leave. But don't divorce someone because of one fault.
2007-09-29 12:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course divorce is necessary, why force people to be miserable? People are human, humans sometimes make mistakes in choices of spouses. You cannot always tell that a person is a scumbag when you marry them, as many an abused wife would tell you. Most people plan on staying married for life....I am sure hardly anyone gets married thinking they are going to get divorced, but some times it is needed.
Sometimes marriage ain't worth dying for. Sometimes its a waste of time and LIFE to try to "make it work".
2007-09-29 12:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, divorce is necessary.
Not all relationships can survive six decades of personal growth, and not everyone is suited for a long-term relationship. What would happen to all of the victims of domestic violence? "Keep a marriage together" does not account for the people who cannot treat their spouses with respect or play by the rules of a monogamous relationship.
Without divorce, we'd have a lot of desperate people in precarious positions, and marriage would become the equivalent of social slavery.
2007-09-29 13:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anybody who abuses another person through neglect, adultery, or with physical means doesn't deserve to be married. The injured party needs to get out before they have no self respect left at all.
2007-09-29 12:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by alikij 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is old fashioned thinking but it really is true, if two people love one another and are committed to the marriage. The two of them can survive almost any problem that can occur.
Real love involves friends who envision life with their favorite companion. It's not always sexy but it's comfortable. You form strong ties with your in laws, there should be a many people supporting a marriage.
When you have that support and real commitment , you will go the extra mile to make the marriage work, and it is work. All those horrible things you mention in your question, I have encountered personally with both of us equally accountable. Yet he is the love of my life and I his.
If you are with the right person, even the worst of times can be overcome. If you do not love your spouse you lack the glue necessary to maintain marriage. When marriage becomes a life sentence, people should go their own ways.
2007-09-29 12:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Equinoxical ™ 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The Scriptures tell husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, and it tells wives to love and honor their husbands and it says that the husband is the authority above his wife and home but he is in authority to Christ.
If the man is not obediant to Christ, then I believe his home will not function as a balanced unit. He is the leader of his home and whatever happens in it, is a result of his leadership. If he is not in obedience to God, his wife and family will not be in obedience to him. If he does not respect the authority of Jesus Christ how can he expect his wife and children to respect his authority over them. If a wife is lonely, depressed, seeking other means to fulfill her needs, the husband should look at his relationship with God. If he's doing the right things by putting Jesus first, his wife will respond to all the right things that Jesus is leading him to say and do. If there is abuse, adultery, neglect and dishonesty where is it rooted in? Obviously not from God.
Nobody should have to live with any abuse of any kind. God doesn't call people to live tormented lives of abuse and doesn't bless a marraige that is not ordained by His love and authority.
2007-09-29 12:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Marriage was meant to last all our lives. Unfortunately, there are those who are abusive or commit adultery. In cases such as that, divorce or separation is advised and acceptable.
Children are better off with one happy parent than 2 miserable parents if one is being abused or cheated on.
God bless!
2007-09-29 12:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Devoted1 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋