Im hearing about all these women who are married and dont want sex anymore. Men hit on me and tell me their wivez are dead in bed. I wonder now if marriage isnt a sick form of nechromancy ? I want to be married but is there a no more sex germ that gets on you after you do ? Im praying about this.
2007-09-29 04:57:19 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Uh....I don't know about that....12 years of marriage later, my husband and I are still like a couple of teenagers (in the back seat!) (lol).
2007-09-29 05:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Oyster Kel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't judge marriage by men that want some elsewhere. Remember, the wife may have her reasons for not wanting it. Or, she does want it and he just is obsessed by it. She may be sick or he's just a sicko. If he wants it from you, it's a good bet that he's done it with other women and do you want a man like that?
My husband was a big playboy when we met. I knew he was seeing other women, but we were not married so he had the right to see others. When we got married I made sure he stayed home. I don't mean he was told to say home, but by making sure everything was right in the bedroom so he wouldn't go elsewhere. If you understand what I mean. We've been married for 23 years now and he's still home with me, no need to go to someone else.
Marriage is what the husband and wife make it. They have to make time for each other, not easy to do but still important and shouldn't be taken for granted.
One more thing, do you really want to commit adultery?
2007-09-29 12:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Suzy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop praying and start communicating. Marriage is a relationship between two people, and a dead marriage is when that relationship dies.
Married men hitting on you only states that they are looking for something out of the their relationship, definitely outside their vows. You can be the other woman or not, but success in your marriage depends on communication.
Answer: If you don't want a dead marriage, work on communicating.
2007-09-29 12:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NECROMANCY: Conjuration of the spirit of the dead for the purpose of magically revealing the future or influencing the course of events. (Merriam-Webster's Dictionary)
It is a "given" that men who cheat on their wives are all liars but they aren't witches or warlocks. Do you think it would impress their "target" if they said, "Hey, my wife weighs 110 pounds, she is one beautiful, hot babe and she's the very best in bed?" That's why they revert back to the very old, tired, worn out line, "My wife doesn't like sex; she's dead in bed; she's a fat pig, etc."
I've been married to the same man for 32 years and still enjoy sex; I do more bedroom acrobatics than a 2-dollar whore.
Food for thought: If you are being hit on by married men, you either make yourself an easy target or in the wrong place with the wrong people.
While you are "praying about this" I suggest you include some wisdom for yourself.
2007-09-29 12:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Laredo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be loser husbands looking for sex outside of their marriage regardless of how their wives are in bed.
Sex does not have to die once you are married. It is something to pray about. My biggest suggestion would be this: Communication Communication Communication. This should keep you both happy. When and if things get boring, each of you take turns coming up with new thing to try. As long as you continue to love each other and keep God a part of your marriage. This probably won't be a problem for you. If it becomes a problem, take it to God and watch Him work it out. That's one of the many benefits to having God in your life. He can resolve anything.
2007-09-29 12:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by J C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men will say anything to get laid...I once knew a man who went to a bar and would show a picture to the barmaid of a woman and child and tell them that this was the anniversary of an auto accident that killed them both...by the end of the night this guy had all kinds of women who wanted to console him...Was his wife dead...no...he had no wife...had never been married...
I have been married and divorced and I am 51 and sex does not die when the ink is dry on your marriage certificate...but remember once you get out of bed you still have to carry on a conversation...
2007-09-29 12:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"is there no more sex germ"??? What the hell is a sex germ? Sounds like a sexually transmitted disease to me.
I think the problem for a lot of people is that they have kids.
If you have kids, then you will be drained. Financially, emotionally, in every way possible, even your very lifeforce will be drained. Does that sound real conducive to freedom to have sex anymore?
EDIT: Oh, and by the way, those men are only telling you what they think will make you sympathetic to them so that you'll have sex with them. If you fall for that, you'll fall for anything.
2007-09-29 12:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage is not all that bad. Many couples tend to lose their spark over time, but with a bit you comittment you and your partner can overcome that. Losing the spark happens due to day to day cares, stress from work, etc.
Then there is the factors from our society. Our sexual norms are fairly repressive on the whole and frequently lead women to supress their interest in sex. Strangely this is reinforced in the media nearly as much as sex is.
2007-09-29 12:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its come to that point, there's usually a reason why. The husbands need to talk to their wives and figure out the reason why and fix the problem, not go hitting on other women. If they're going after other women, that right there might be a real good reason why their wives keep their legs closed.
2007-09-29 12:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be the wives' got bored of the guy and no longer want him...of course, they'd still get jealous if they found out the guy was trying to cheat on them. Doesn't say much for the guy if he's too much of a coward to talk to his wife about what's wrong instead of cheating. You know, he did make a promise and if he can't live up to it, he should have more of a spine to admit mistakes were made.
The woman (wife) could say something, too, but if the guys looking elsewhere, maybe he should try talking about any problems first.
2007-09-29 12:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by strpenta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marraige is a Sacrament. (look it up). It is Holy. It is not all about sex. It's a relationship between 3 people. Two lovers and God as Mediator. If you both grow together with God, your marraige would never fall apart. Also, don't expect your marraige to be a flat road. A perfect marraige is like a rollercoaster....It makes a ride worthwhile...not boring. If your man marries you for sex....he's not all that....But the ones who peirces your soul and makes you whole, He is the one.
2007-09-29 12:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by mintypeppermint7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋