I'm with a great Greek guy...and he's wonderful in bed :-) We have great chemestry together, and are always willing to try new things. But for some reason I can't have an orgasm during sex. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I try to relax, in fact he turns me on big time. He even waits for me to climax....or he tries. I know it's me because even in my past relationships I have never been able to reach orgasm. I feel like I don't know my own body- and this is getting me very confused and frustrated.
2007-09-29 04:36:08 · 18 answers · asked by Morenita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I can orgasm alone...but I want one with my guy.
2007-09-29 04:42:58 · update #1
Surprisingly, this is VERY normal - a LOT of women can ONLY have an orgasm if they are receiving proper CLITORAL stimulation...
You heard me right - intercourse alone does NOT get the job done!!!
I'm sure he wouldn't mind if you brought a little "toy" into the mix - not to replace him, but to drive you wild ;);););)
2007-09-29 04:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're focusing too much on it. I know my first one kinda snuck up on me. I was like "WOW! What the hell was that, and how can I get more?" Anyway, it just kinda happened. You can try " pleasuring yourself" I know it sounds weird, but really it's the best way to find out what works for your body. If you're uncomfortable with that, try using a vibrator. Also, there's a great book called Tickle Your Kitty, by Dr. Sadie Allison. I HIGHLY recommend it. It gives you all the information you could possibly need.
2007-09-29 04:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read dozens of magazines, books and websites, and seen talk shows about how common this is. There some crazy percentange like 35% that represents the number of women who CAN have orgasims vaginally. I know it's crazy. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You may need someone who is more endowed to really get in there and hit the spots, hence the "size does matter" arguement. Or maybe you need to buy some "props" and explore that area yourself so you can instruct him on the moves and angles he needs to go in.
2007-09-29 04:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by aleesonaroll 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he try direct stimulation to the clitoris? Direct stimulation in a gentle way from touching or oral sex is usually the best way. I can never orgasm during intercourse either so it happens through other means. That's ok, a lot of women can't orgasm through just intercourse.
If he doesn't want to help you from touching or oral, then fake it during intercourse and wait till he goes to the bathroom and take care of business yourself! (Don't laugh, this worked throughout my marriage!) Good luck!!
2007-09-29 04:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by babyblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that the connection just isnt there. Or it could be that you have too much on your mind, and your focusing on it to much. I had a friend that couldnt get it up and it was because he was SO nervous and so convinced he couldnt do it, that he set himself up to fail. Its hard not to but you need to try and just do whatever it takes to relax and not think about anything. Let him do the work so you can relax and enjoy. Maybe ask him to give you a massage or something first to help relax you even more.
2007-09-29 04:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by blackned_wings 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you mite not realize it but the little things that you've never told anyone is those things that will take you to orgasm. for some people is having someone whisper theyre name or hold you tight or even play with the ears using tongue. try things that are fun and in a way makes you tingle.
2007-09-29 04:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by jasmin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-10-29 03:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kr Toronto is right.Most women cannot achieve an orgasm with intercourse alone.Tell him to "go downtown" for about 20 minutes.That should do the trick,believe me.
2007-09-29 08:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you orgasm by yourself when you masturbate ? This will help us to give you an answer.
He may have to stimulate your clitoris or you can do it yourself with your hand while you have sex. For many women penile-vaginal sex is not enough to produce an orgasm.
2007-09-29 04:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by brian777999 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"He doesn't want you to reach orgasm."
"So, he AIN'T SO 'GREAT IN BED'."
"My reputation, (believe it, I know I have one), is her first, and
I could be faking one."
"No offense, I keep both my eyes open throughout the night,
and often times even fake sleep, when I feel that she is
awake."
"My bed partners always tire first."
2007-09-29 04:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Arkansas Mohawk Indian 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋