I'm stuck!! How can I destroy and keep it???

Question

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I'm an ORDINARY guy, I have friends and enemies..

WHENEVER I'M TOLD SOMETHING POSITIVE (THAT I LIKE) ABOUT ME, IT KEEPS ECHOING IN MY MIND AND SO, I BECOME BAD IN IT.

For example, if I'm told I'm good in something, I get TOO CONFIDENT and that ends it!

I've just taken 2 online personality test :
What's wrong with you? What type of boyfriend are you?

I got that I'm too attractive and that's what gets some people being REALLY jealous from me (which is right) and I'm the "laid-down"boyfriend who is really cool..

The problem is
WHENEVER I'M TOLD SOMETHING POSITIVE (THAT I LIKE) ABOUT ME, IT KEEPS ECHOING IN MY MIND AND SO, I BECOME BAD IN IT.

What can I do? I don't wanna lose this by having it stay in my mind + I don't wanna tell myself the opposite as I'm destroying my self-esteem?!?!

plz help

Answer 1

Easy. Stop concentrating on yourself and start thinking of others. This sounds harsh, but it isn't. It will take your mind right off yourself and you will soon become a caring individual who is more concerned about others than your own ego.

Answer 2

Look at it this way, there isn't a single thing wrong with being confident in yourself, the things you do, or the way you look. It's great. But there is a fine line between being confident and being self centered and egocentric.
Everyone loves to get compliments whether we admit it or not, but it's what we do with that compliment that makes the difference. In your case, you focus on them too much. Try to take them the same way you would if someone told you to have a nice day. Just accept it, and move on with your day. Don't get sucked back into self sabotage. Use the energy that you usually put into focusing on the compliment into doing something positive for someone else. This way you won't need to focus on what others say to you because you'll feel better about yourself for doing something positive. And don't worry, you won't be damaging your self esteem by just saying thank you for the compliment.

Answer 3

Self-esteem is all well and good, and compliments are nice. However, let it go. Learn to be humble, and think less about yourself and what compliments you get and start giving compliments to others (friends, relatives, co-workers or whomever). Take an interest in other people instead of yourself. This doesn't mean that you should neglect your well being, but your focus needs to be more external and less internal. I don't know if this makes any sense to you, but I hope it does and I hope you can change....

Good luck.

Answer 4

1. If you think you are a good person, you are. If you think you are a bad person, you are.

2. Why did you type most of the question in upper and lower case, but the bad messages you keep telling yourself are in all Upper case?

3. Just stop. Stop telling yourself that you will become bad at some thing just because someone says something good about it.

Get control of your attitude.

Answer 5

I know people like this. For some reason, they love to sabotage themselves. I guess it is a form of rebellling. When you have those thoughts, and you seem to be quite aware of them, start reprograming yourself, to start being happy and leaving well enough alone. I might come back to bite you in the behind, if you don't change this pattern of self destruction. This isn't a mental disease, more like a learned pattern of behavior, and you can change it. Good luck

Answer 6

You can get overconfident when people compliment you, right? It happened to me too years ago. I got so depressed that I gave up doing what I did good. I live simply now n I enjoy the peace within me. I take compliment lightly n as a joke. In this way, I dont think about what people said about me anymore.

Answer 7

I HATE TO SAY IT BUT YOU SEEM SERIOUS SO I WILL BE UPFRONT WITH YOU. JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE GOOD IN SOMETHING DOESNT MAKE YOU THE BEST. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEBODY THAT DOES IT BETTER. YOU DONT NEED TO DESTROY YOUR SELF ESTEEM BUT YOU NEED TO REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NO BETTER THAN THE PERSON NEXT TO YOU. YOU KNOW YOU HAVE YOUR FAULTS, THIS BEING ONE OF THEM. TO BE CONFIDENT IS ONE THING, TO BE ARROGANT IS ANOTHER. REMEMBER THAT PEOPLE WANT TO BE AROUND OTHERS THAT HELP BRING THEM UP, MAKE THEM FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES. WHEN SOMEBODY SAYS YOUR GOOD IN SOMETHING TRY SAYING THANK YOU AND LEAVE IT AT THAT. FIND A WAY TO HELP THOSE YOU FEEL ARENT AS GOOD AS YOU. YOU SOUND LIKE YOU HAVE ALOT TO OFFER OTHERS SO TAKE IT AND RUN WITH IT. LOOKS AND THAT KIND OF THING WILL GET YOU NOWHERE IF YOU DONT HAVE THE PERSONALITY TO GO WITH IT.
TO SAY YOU BECOME BAD AT IT WHEN HEAR SOMETHING GOOD TELLS ME YOU TEND TO FOCUS ON IT TO PLEASE OTHERS. YOU CAN TAKE PRIDE IN BEING THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE. I HAVE HAD TO TEACH MY SON THIS AS HE TOO TENDS TO GET AHEAD OF HIMSELF. HE IS GOING FOR HIS THIRD DEGREE BLACK BELT IN TAEKWONDO BUT I HAVE TO REMIND, THERE ARE STILL PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT ARE HIGHER RANK, THAT ARE STRONGER AND TO STRIVE TO HIS BEST, NOT THERE BEST.