im wanting to start life again after a painful marrage ,well the last 8 yrs of it , question being ,where do i start, im not lonley but in need of male company ,platonic, someone with no ties,no hangups, just a good every day kind of guy,im so bubbly and very early 60s ,never walked in a pub on my own , is it hard to start again ,any tips please ,thankyou
2007-09-29 03:27:53 · 4 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
This must be horrible for you. You are not old enough for a pensioners club ant more than I am on my mid sixty's. Perhaps you do not feel like joining a dating agency or club. I would suggest if in UK that you perhaps go on one of the Ramblers Association public rambles, first to see if you like it and then perhaps get more involved. I am at a loss otherwise. the local church is not really what you are looking for. Don't be desperate us fellas run like hell when faced with that
Good luck
2007-09-29 05:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am sorry to hear of your dilema. I suggest that if the marriage has just recently been disolved, to take at leat 12 months for yourself.
Learn to be happy and content alone, if you are not already.
Companionship is nice indeed, but lets be comfortable within our own self first.
After a long relationship, it is important to get to know ourselves as an individual again.
In the meantime, it is fun to meet new people also. A walking club I think, for you would be perfect.
You can get out and meet others while getting fresh air and having fun in nature.
There are alot of activities one can get involved in where you may meet interesting people.
Think about what you like to do for leisure and see if there are any clubs or meetings in your area.
If you like to dance, you could join a ballroom dance class or the like.
Lastly, there are always the use of personal ads. Even in your local paper, asking for those of the male gender with similar interests and needs respond.
There are also many interesting night classes held at local colleges and universities where you can connect with likeminded adults.
Good luck and keep smiling.
2007-09-29 05:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Casha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah - joining clubs and things is pretty sure fire.
I met my wife No 1 through water-skiing, and Wife No 2 parachuting.
Common interests, then.
Perhaps not the best match in the first case, but I now have two fine sons, we are happy, and still jump out of aircraft.
Out and about then.
It is unlikely that some fine partner will just knock on the door.
All the Best,
Bob
2007-09-30 03:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bob the Boat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a gym
salsa class
go to the library more often
go out for lunch in the city center more
get involved in some local charity work
join a computer class
Get out and about and hopefully you will bump into a companion soon, good luck x
2007-09-29 03:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋