I been devestated by a loveless marriage and was in love with someone (or so I thought). He had a bad marriage too and not so good relationships. I asked him about his last relationship. She kicked him out.
We have been intimate with each other off and on. He says he wants to help me get through some things. I kind of backed off. 2days later I run to see him. He says he misses me and I miss him too. We talk and then he teases me into doing it and I break. It's weird because when we are he is so gentle. Its like he knew I needed it and he seems to enjoy wearing my defenses down. I see it when he touches me. I notice he tends to ask me whether I am only with him. Then he mentions something about he knows i want to have his baby! WHAT the??...this last time he doesn't put on the protection. What is this about? We both already have children. I like the intimacy but I am not trying to go there. What is this guy thinking? Men any answers?
2007-09-29 01:05:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, you're right. I like the him so he isn't some random guy. But I warned him and he took it off and then I noticed. He was trying to be slick. I stopped him and didn't continue as soon as I realized.
2007-09-29 01:15:08 · update #1
He is officially divorced, his ex-wife has a new man and baby and I am actually in divorce court proceedings as we speak. Our marriages are OVER. We are not having "affairs".
2007-09-29 01:26:10 · update #2
Don`t do anything you`re not comfortable with. Get on some birth control to protect yourself!!! Sounds like an insecurity game to me.
2007-09-29 01:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had never used a condomn, never will. I am picky with the women I ****, and I tend to have a relationship with the ones i an with. I have only been married one other time, prior to my marriage of now. I have had some affairs. But I have never used a rubber. as far as my partners getting pregnant. I'm fixed so I never have to worry about that.
My answer to you is to get on the pill, any Anti pregnacy. Sex is alott better when you don't have to worry about getting someone preg, or getting your self pregnant, when you just do it on a spurt of the moment.
2007-09-29 08:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Not so) secretly, all guys want women to carry their child. It's deeply ingrained survival pattern. Beta males like your buddy here are the worst. In the wild, they wait for the alpha male to go off hunting/protecting, and then slip it to the females to try and ensure survival of Beta male line.
Your mother was right: even the nice ones only want one thing.
2007-09-29 08:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Goethe's Ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? go back to fix your own relationship and he must go back to fix his. 4 people are unhappy, what for?
don't waste your life for something that you don't even understand yourself.
you want to be in love - try and remember why you got married. people seem to think that they must stop working on their marriage.
having an affair is definitely making things worse.
Pregnancy? you must be mad!!!
it seems to me that you just go with the flow
he doesn't use protection, oh my God what to do now???!!!
2007-09-29 08:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are, in fact, "trying to go there" if you had sex without a condom.
YOU had sex without a condom. He didn't put it on but YOU chose to go ahead anyway.
You ask what "this guy" was thinking. [On a side note I have never referred to a partner as 'this guy'... yikes.]
My question: What were YOU thinking?
You're an adult. Take responsibility for your choices.
2007-09-29 08:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by snoopy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it seems like that's his plan but just get on the pill and everything should be fine!
Good Luck!
2007-09-29 08:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by My life is now complete PWK&RJC! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is disturbed. run for your life. it might not be a bad idea if u got a pregnancy check. Good Luck.
2007-09-29 08:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by lonely_Jin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get on some birth control. And he probably didn't put on a condom because you didn't make him, just tell him to do it.
2007-09-29 08:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him to use a condom .
2007-09-29 08:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by ashcan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tellhim u dont a kid and put a condom on !!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-29 08:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋