Im 16 and Im a Catholic.... Im in the honors list and everyone respects me... I really think that sex should be done after marriage but sometimes I cannot stop myself from thinking about sex... sometimes I want to do it... is this normal?
2007-09-29 00:58:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called being HUMAN - despite what the hardcore "bible thumpers" might say, it it PERFECTLY normal to have these sorts of thoughts and feelings.
Since you DO have faith, it is up to YOU to decide if you should wait or not!
But whatever you do, do not DENY that these feelings/urges EXIST - just find a way to LIVE with them (or explore them if that is what you choose) ;);););)
2007-09-29 01:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not bad. You are at a point in life when everyone thinks about sex. Sex is a lot of responsibility and can turn out to be bad when mixed with other things like expectations and expressions of love etc.
Premarital sex is against your religion, but it also has some secular consequences like unintended pregnancy, the possibility of STDs and being hurt emotionally when one party has feelings the other party does not.
If you are asking about whether you should have sex right now, my advice would be to wait until you finish college and ghet a job so that you can handle any unforseen consequences of having sex.
2007-09-29 01:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, Rhea, being that you are 16 and Catholic, I'd have to say, Ummm, no, you're not expected to have premarital sex.
However, as you are experiencing, Nature has no religion. Our species has a very strong instinct to procreate.
So, what your religion and family is asking is that you use your higher intelligence to overcome your instinct.
Mostly, I find, this does not work. So, yes, you're normal.
On the other hand, some people make choices. They choose to wait.
In an age of HPV (transmittable even with condom use), herpes, and aids, not to mention the ever present risk of pregnancy...
I think your philosophy may be the most practical. Nothing wrong with thinking about it. Stay in tune with yourself. Instinct vs. reason.
Use a little common sense in your relationships and never, ever waste your time with someone who can't respect your convictions.
2007-09-29 01:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly normal for humans to think about sex and to have sex is totally natural,think about it there are 6 BILLION people on the planet how do you think that happened (and don't forget most of them aren't part of your Christian cult)
sex is a fun thing you lot make it in to some thing BAD its not
with the use of modern science we can have safe fun sex no babies no STD's and if your god didn't want you to have this ability it would never have been invented would it?
its the old men of your sect that control there women with this nonsense they spout , your an honours student do so research on the net about sex and the catholic church your going to be VERY surprised for instance did you know the churches stand against contraception is quite new? check it out, you will end up a emotional and sexual mess unless you follow your own instincts and do what is right for you
don't let others tell you what to do, how do these old men(and women )know anything better than any one else?they certainly say nothing to me of any importance
live , love , and enjoy life on this wonderful planet
and if your god is going to condemn you for that?? then perhaps its not the god you thought it was?
2007-09-29 01:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex itself is not bad. Even premarital sex is not necessarily wrong. You are normal to think about it, you were designed that way.
What becomes bad about sex is when people harm each-other over it.
Examples; Rape. Molestation. Sexual abuse. Harrassment.
a boy who doesn't care about anyone but himself will say or do anything, sounding very smooth and cool, promise anything, just to get sex. Once he gets it, he brags to all his friends.
A girl wants this particular boy, but he has a girlfriend already. The girl who wants doesn't care about what's best for the boy, she just wants him for herself, so she destroys his girlfriend's reputation, then "consoles" the boy in bed.
There are lots of similar stories. The important part isn't the sex, it's that people do evil things to get what they want. That's true in all parts of life.
Sex, though, is good. It was invented by God, after all. It's only wrong if it's selfish.
2007-09-30 15:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yepz.. it is very much normal... But in certain societies, Sex is looked upon as a taboo thats why people get a bit frustrated while thinking about these stuffs.... However, sex is something normal in every individuals life...
As far as premarital sex is concerned then... it depends unto which society u belong, whether premarital sex is regarded as good or bad... If if it bad and u did it, then your image will be stained if ever anyone come to know about it... And u'll be condemned forever especially now that u're a girl since girls are always oppressed in conservative societies...
So, i think, i'll advise you to wait till ur marriage...
2007-09-29 01:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mehn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it is normal, i think being you on the honors list makes you somewhat intelligent and i think you should know for yourself the misbenifits of premarital sex. there are a lot of other ways to quench your sex drive other than sex itself.
and no, sex is not bad but according to our catholic faith, it is made for couples after marriage only.
right?
2007-09-29 01:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jc Da Man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not bad at all ... it's a natural desire, you're bod tells you that you're growing up. I lost my virginity when I was 16 and I don't regret it. I just think that it is an important part of a healthy relationship cause sometimes you need more than words to show the other person your love and it feels great!
2007-09-29 01:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, of course sex is not a bad thing. Its totaly okay to think about sex at your age yes. I remember when I was 10 and I wanted to have sex. Its okay to think about that kind of stuff. But under no circumstances, and I mean NO circumstances do you have premarital sex. Its rude, uncivilized, and you will go to Hell for doing it before you get married. You can only do it with the person your married to after your Marrige. And yes its normal for every one to think about sex.
2007-09-30 08:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this is 2007 not 1960 everyone has sex before marriage being a catholic has nothing to do with it as we all know
2007-09-29 01:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by wackywaitress2003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋