2007-09-29 00:21:40 · 22 answers · asked by Tracie C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends.........i think everyone has a soul mate out there, ive found mine. I definately think if you have the right person, he will not cheat on you - whether he has befre or not. Cheating just means tey are not happy, but not brave enough to end one relationship b4 starting another.
2007-09-29 00:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did he cheat? Also how can you call cheating making a mistake, it was a choice he made. It's not so much will he do it again, its how you feel every time he is not with you and can you really forgive him cheating in the first place. Living on the edge always wondering is not good for you or your relationship
2007-09-29 09:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people in relationships cheat all the time, but if a partner's cheated on you once, he/she's very likely to do it again. You have to take into account the circumstances, for example, were you both on a seperation at the time? Were there serious issues within the relationship that led to that partner seeking love/closeness from another? Was your partner suffering from problems with mental illness - such as depression or drink/drug addiction?
Which ever way you look at it, all such problems come into play when it comes to cheating and we have to ask ourselves a) Can we cope with being involved with someone who's got such problems? b) Can we cope with possibly being cheated on again? c) Can we cope with the mistrust & uncertainty? It is always best to get out of any relationship where your partner's likely to lie to you or deceive you; all positive relationships are based on trust & honesty, if these aren't there, it's time to protect yourself - with serious STD's around like AIDS & Herpes etc. you just can't afford to take the risks not only to your emotional & psychological health, but your physical health as well.
Having said that, it might be better to forgive an otherwise loving & caring partner for one night of infidelity and forgiveness means not "getting your own back" a year or so later, or constantly bringing it up etc. People do make mistakes and people also, learn by those mistakes. At the end of the day, you must ask yourself; do you have good reason to believe your partner will never do it again?
In my own experience - I might let it go once, but never twice and unfortunately, whoever cheated on me once always did it again.
2007-09-29 08:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by K B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think so.He call's it a mistake, but in your heart what would you call it.?.....selfishness......inconsideration..... but when it happens again can it be called a mistake the second time.?There are mistakes and there are mistakes.If you can do something like this once the chances are you can do it again....and be...inconsiderate.Put it this way, Do you feel comfortable in your relationship anymore.?Are you constantly on edge worrying yourself when he goes anywhere without you.?....He may in fact be one of those men who actually are sorry and will not stray again.If you feel you can give him the benefit of the doubt then maybe you should.But consider, if it happens again, how are you going to feel.?..Will you forgive him again on the premis it's another mistake and allow yourself to be fooled or will you be tough with yourself and let him go.?....Take a step back...and think about yourself for a moment and not him.?
2007-09-30 04:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i do think they can change... I know of at least 2 men who have cheated once and realied their mistakes and havent done it again.... 1's wife did know and they have made a go of it, the other 1's wife didnt know but he realised what he did was wrong and that he did in fact love her but was just craving attention.
2007-09-29 07:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by JustJem 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some may say once a cheater always a cheater, but some can realize how much it hurt others, and knows in their heart they will never do it again, even though they know the trust will take a long time to rebuild. A second time probably won't change.
2007-09-29 07:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jake S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the man and how well you know him
personally if he's cheated once he will do it again at some point. it will be very hard to trust him again or there will always be an element of doubt.
2007-09-29 07:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by denise_dee_dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will cheat again and again, I have written a book about my ups and downs in life after falling in and out of love so many times, also divorced twice and had to move out that upset my kids and turned me to drink but now I no longer drink, so I did a book to help others out there, who like me was cheated and used, Publishers spent money to do my book and is out in 106, also on most book shops and sites in UK, so I am not trying to get you to buy my book but it is a fact it will help you, it is full of good advice and called, =
(A Serial Shaggers Guide to Internet dating, My 1001 lovers), By Me, Author Clive Worth, Published named it this to get it to sell,
2007-10-03 05:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's allowed to get away with it the first time, he will most definitely do it again.
You see, the first time is not a "mistake". It's a test. If his wife / girlfriend is a doormat and takes him back, he will know he can do whatever he likes without having to stop for a moment to think about her feelings or what he's doing to them.
2007-09-29 07:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man, usually a leapard never changes his spots
but if it was truely a 1 off mistake and he was honestly sorry, then he cud change
2007-09-29 07:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋