What if your mother in-law was telling all your other in laws you were a sl*t?

Question

She simply doesn't like you and is spreading rumors that you flirt and want to sleep with all the male members of the family?

I don't think it matters he was black..I think the point is that she cheated,(some people)

Answer 1

Oh, I remember having a monster-in-law like that.
Personally, I wanted to hit her over the head with a frying pan.
Emotions aside, I think that she's just jealous that she used to have her son all to herself, and how can THAT OTHER GIRL be better than her? How can her son have traded HER for YOU? seriously...
Well that's probably how she's thinking.
That aside, I fully sympathisise, and I would make sure that your husband is not one of those males that do this:
) in the case of Mum; BUT SHE doesn't let me see you anymore, Mum, it's all her fault.
) in the case of you; I know she can be a pain in the *** sometimes...
and then he ends up beign the good boy that is just in the middle of a fight -- but truth is, it's his job to stand up and say, look Mum, I'd love to see you, I will as soon as I can, but she is my wife etc.
I'm sorry if I'm rambling on here a bit, I'm a tad tired, and that post struck a bit of a nerve (that's what my ex used to do by the way, play us off each other).

Answer 2

I'd have a little talk with her and let her know real quick that you understand that she doesn't really care for you, and you may not can change that, but you aren't going to let her destroy your marriage to her son with vicious rumors. You need to put her in her place right now before this gets out of hand. If she sees that you aren't going to cower down to her, she may let it go. Some mother in laws use this to test how strong you commitment is to their son and if you have a backbone or not. You don't have to be mean about it but let her know that you aren't going to put up with her interfering in your marriage and that if she continues to do this, express to her strongly that, if her son was to find out what she's up to, it could backfire in her face, and is that what she wants. Tell her, you are there to stay, and you'd like for you and her to get along, for the sake of your husband, but if she wants to make this a war, she's will lose!!! Call her bluff, and I think she'll back off!!!

Answer 3

I honestly dont know, but would probably have something to do with an unmarked graveBeing a bloke this situation doesnt really apply but as far as Mother in Laws go I must be the luckiest guy in the world. She is damn near as good as my mum and she is a saint.
When our first child was born mil took me out to the pub, brought me lunch and got me half shikkered,, a damn fine lady

Answer 4

My grandmother did this to my dad's wife.

They were married for 23 years and when my dad went partially blind, she used it as an opportunity to whisper things into my dad's ears and eventually convinced him to divorce her.

Why?.. because my grandmother couldn't handle another woman in the family, she liked to control her sons.

She even went as far as to accuse my step-mother of sleeping with my dad's brother, and if you saw the toothless-wonder/meth head... you'd see why it was laughable.

People like this need help and either your husband sticks it to your in-laws, or you don't need a man that can't put his foot down to such behavior.

Answer 5

I had a mother in-law like that only she called me a witch and said i was possessing her son. She was into the bible pretty heavy. Is there anything written about witches in the bible it's been so long sense Sunday school i really don't remember if there were.

Answer 6

What kinda family did you marry into?ugh. This is no family! But I,ll tell you what, this is not your fight! This is up to your husband, he needs to be the one to come to his womans defense and stand up for you! And why has,nt he put a sock in her mouth a long time ago? It is his job as your husband to defend and honor you. Now if your saying to yourself, it,s impossible for my husband to tell his mom to stop saying mean things about you, then you married a whimp, not a man, because no man would ever sit back and have his wife be put down and belittled by his mommy! So if you want this to stop, it,s up to your man, your warrior, your hero- to stop the rumors and verbal put downs! Good Luck!

Answer 7

my mother in law hates me but doesnt do that, and its only cos i live with her grand son and were not marries and she knows we share the same bed. i couldnt imagine an old lady doing that but. maybe you should talk to your man about the situation, tell him to speak to his mother and say how distressed its making you. the only other way you could do something would be to sit her down and talk to her, but i couldnt see that working out any better. but i do find that really odd..
this is a really awkward situation, and with hope the only way you can fix this or even try is to get the son to tell her that he loves you and that she cant expect him to be happy if she try's to fight away any girl that comes into his life. if she respects his wishes she'll take the time to get to know you. if not, you have to decide on what your going to do, put up with it, or leave..
either way i wish you the best of luck..

Answer 8

First I'd make sure its true. If it is true then I would talk to my husband. I'd ask him to join me in asking her to stop. You guys need to let her know that you're upset and if she doesn't stop you won't have anything to do with her.

If she is doing this, its poison to your marriage and she's capable of going further. This is a form of emotional abuse coming from an important person in your family. It has little to do with you and says alot about who she really is, husband's mother or not!

If he won't help you deal with her expect more of the same. Also, even if you cut her off she is going to try to disrupt your marriage as much as possible so you and your husband need to be a united front.

If he refuses to take care of this or distance from her, you have a bigger problem than his mom. It will mean a life time of being on the outside of the 2 of them and the rest of the family. This means constant competition and conflict from mom where her son backs her up!

Its your husband's reaction to all of this that determine's the outcome. If he doesn't help you, you're in for alot more drama. Some families like drama. If you don't then only talk to your husband, not the whole family. Then talk only to his mom, not the whole family.

If he backs you up and the trouble continues, refuse to discuss it with anyone. Don't discuss it with her twice. Don't let it disrupt your life when you and your husband are alone. I doubt you'll be together long if you repeatedly harp on his mother even if every word is true.

If he doesn't back you up, harping on it if you decide to stay with him won't change the situation. It will make it worse.

She wants her words to bother YOU and they can't if you won't listen. The whole point of her gossip is that you are told what she said! Take her power by refusing to listen to any of it from anyone. The bonus is that it will really piss her off too.

If hubby isn't on board, your marriage will exist outside of your family (his family) even if you attend family gatherings. If he is you have a good shot at getting the family to ignore her if you are sweet and kind to them and neutral but distant to her. Oh yeah, and absolutely firm that you will not listen to garbage.

Whatever you do, don't talk about her badly to anyone. remember, this is their MOTHER and people get really weird about people talking about their mother! So stick to critisizing the behavior, not cursing mom. No name calling and no gossip.

Good luck.

Answer 9

I would stay away from her and let my husband know why. Time will take care of those rumors, people will see as you stick by your man and act better then her that she is a liar.
It sounds like she has to much time to watch soap operas...

Answer 10

If she's calling you this name, kindly remind her that she's referring to a term that is indicative of trashy people. However, calling names and spreading rumors is trash behavior.