we dated almost 8 months
we had the closest, best relationship
we were really comfortable around each other
it was almost perfect
her family loved me
I practically lived at her house
but she got a job
and we talked less
but I saw her at least 2 times a week
we broke up last Saturday
she claimed she didn't feel the same anymore
she kissed me before I left
4 days later
she gets on her friends aim and pretends to be her while talking to me
she said that it's weird when i said "when we dated"
and she tried to get my password to get on my myspace and i guess snoop around.
the next day after that, i try calling her and seeing how she is doing
the friend told me she said that she doesn't want me back and that she's over it and wants to take a break from me
this confuses me, and no listen to me, I DO NOT want to get over her and I definately DO NOT want her to get over me, she wont answer when I call.
So im thinking about going to her house and try to kiss her.
Iwantherbac
2007-09-28 21:59:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first huge No...No would be to push yourself on her. If you go over to her home and call her all the time you will never see her run faster in the direction your not in............ If you want her back you have to be sneaky. You have to give her the impression that your having the time of you life with out her and make sure she knows it. preferably threw a mutual friend. Giving her the space away from you will make her think of you. Make her come back to you...... Good luck
2007-09-28 22:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you Nuts? She definitely is not in love with you then why do you want to hang around her. Get on with life. She was just a phase and thank God it ended earlier. If then also you want to stay in touch with her be friends with her and stop thinking about starting family with her.
But if I would have been you I would have got more beautiful Girlfriend than her and then I would have taken both of them out and make the former jealous with my present Girlfriend. Move In Dear. Loads of Love and Best Wishes.Good Luck!
2007-09-29 05:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by That's Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can tell whats in a person's heart by their actions. if someone doesn't want to be with us for whatever reason we have to accept it, if she won't answer when u call that means she doesn't want to talk to u. we have no control over what others do or how they feel, as we all have free will. its all a part of growing up and accepting the truth, what hurts us the most is often the very thing that teaches us the most. distance yourself from her, if u chase her and throw yourself on her she will move even farther way from u.
2007-09-29 05:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend if i can call you that is dont let the girl/woman take you down the road of peril i have been there before and they call it stalking now-a days and you end up in jail...i tell you what go get another chick and be happy thank the good lord you ended like this get over her leave her be i have been married 2 x's i just got divorced from a hell of 15 yrs 1 st time it was for 4 yrs tired of it benn happy for 3 good months now ha ha ha ha thinking about going gay at least when us guys know wat we want in a relationship if it dont work go find another partner i look damm good so y not
2007-09-29 05:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by ~~DEVASIOUS~~Biotches' get i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a very tricky , confusing thing, i am sure she has reasons for feeling the way she does. you never know if she got a new job perhaps its possible she "met" some one new and just didnt have the heart to be honest about everything . its just a posiblity. peoples actions tend to change when they get ready to leave some one persay, there are red flags and all kinds of signs that point to breaking up isnt far off. she may have pretended to be her friend to talk ot you, perhaps she wanted to see how you felt or how you were doing or if you had moved on yet ! perhaps, you mite have thought you had some serious relationship thing going on, did she ever tell you she loved you and ment it? truly ment it??? regardless if you all were intimate or not people get lust and love confused alllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the time, were you alwasy giving and she always taking, or was ot 50/50? perhaps because you felt she was the right one for you, .....ok.....follow me ......here.......you couldnt see between the lines and were blinded by emotions and feelings and even though you may feel she is the right one for you, if its ment to be it will happen , we will end up with who we are destined to be with in this life if your fourtuante to get to experinace love. I am not taking up for her by any means, it is not fair for her to have led you on for such a long period of time knowing she really didnt want to be with you. its never right to play with some ones feelings and heart and emotions!!! and if she id indeed guilty of it then she is wrong. but if your christian then talk to GOd about it!! he has a plan for all of us and will put the right perosn in your life at the right time. but seek him first with all your heart!!! oh one more thing.......just becuase she kissed you before you broke up doesnt mean anything really it just symbolizes that like anything else you do in life for the "last time" it was more then likey equivalent to what some of us call "break -up se$!!" you know that there are no feelings envolved and its just a ritual kinda thing, for some it is what closes that relationship, or it some times makes people relize that they care about that person. in your case she is the one doing all the cuting of the ties here, so she doesnt go through all the hurt feelings and doesnt have to deal the "rejection part" so you on the other hand are going through the "rejection part" sure you may think you love her, but you have your whole life to figure that out, and deep down you may know she is ms.right. but as much as you may love her you cant force some one to love you and have feelings for you if they do not!! if you really love her you will let her fly for awhile and if she comes back to you then you know its ment to be. there is an ocean of full of fish so ......cast your net and meet new people, but its ok, to keep the door open to that person!!! just dont beat your self up over her in the process!!! hope this helps!!!!
2007-09-29 05:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you'd better find something better to do than pine for a woman who obviously is not interested.
The saying is "abscence makes the heart grow fonder". Your showing up every day to beg isn't going to win her back. NOT showing up every day and having a life after the breakup will be MUCH more attractive, both to her and to any other suitor for you who happens to come along and make you forget about the good one that got away.
2007-09-29 05:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on and forget her. And if she comes back, politely tell her to get lost. You never take anybody back unless you like being a victim.
2007-09-29 10:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being an a**.
Grow up and move on.
I can't stand it when people ask these obsessive questions.
Maybe this is why she moved on from you.
2007-09-29 08:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her house and kiss her.
2007-09-29 05:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try out your idea. Otherwise, you'll never know.
2007-09-29 05:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋