I'm 21, I live in my own house and work full time. So I'm not a young teenager. I don't think I can tell her to her face cuz she'll be so disappointed. I'm meant to be the responsible one. But now I'm pregnant and the Dad doesn't want to know so I'm on my own. Would it be completely awful of me to text my Mum and tell her? Would it hurt her more?
2007-09-28 21:41:56 · 53 answers · asked by frizzy-head 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I believe so. Tell her you have some happy news to tell her, and invite her around for supper.
2007-09-28 21:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by bottle babe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its difficult. Im now 23, I had my daughter at 17 and dreaded telling my family. Luckily, they were really supportive and now Im married, working full time whilst studying, with our own house and my 5 year old daugher. We are starting to try for another child this month and again, feel that some members wont be supportive as we are still young. The most important thing at the moment is how you feel, you must put your emotions first and if it makes it easier telling your mum by text then so be it. Worry wont do your baby any good so dont put yourself under pressure to do things you dont want to. As your mum, she'll understand how you feel and im sure will be happy and supportive for you.
2007-09-29 00:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel like you've done something wrong. You're a responsible adult with an addition on the way is all. I think the text message would be a bad idea. Go to her house as excited as you can get and tell her. Squeal if possible and add things like can you believe it? I'm gonna be a mom! The more excited you are the more likely it is that it will be contagious. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-09-28 21:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kc B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need your family, especially your mother to support you all the more if the father doesn't want to know..please tell her properly or she will have to get over learning about it by text as well as her disappointment..and I think she will find the text harder to get over than anything else. Tell her that you are sorry for disappointing her, that you are an independent person but still her daughter and still in need of a mother for yourself and a grandmother for your child....she may surprise you but even if she needs a lot of time and has a lot to say before she gets there..you will have done things properly and that will matter to you in the long term.
If you think that the conversation may become intolerable to you then write everything you want to say to your mother in a letter and then, if you feel that you have to walk away for the time being, give her the letter first.
2007-09-28 22:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by selina.evans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is one of those messages that must be delivered face to face. Look for the importance of being a mother, and know that this is not an accident, as so many people may think. This was meant to be. What goes on from here is you learning to raise a child to be an honorable human being for the future.
Your parents will probably only see the short term difficulties, especially at first. When they get to know their new grandchild, they will change their feelings 180 degrees.
2007-09-28 22:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are on your own in this then telling your mum via text probably isnt the best thing to do, I was scared to tell my mum because I thought she would be dissapointed in me but in fact it brought us together and really strenghtened our bond. Being on your own is hard (I dont just mean with the night feeds and nappy changes etc but its hard for you to cope and keep sane) so you will need all of the support you can get from friends and family and I think that telling your mum through a text will kind of push her away from you at the time you are going to need her most. Be brave!
good luck x
2007-09-28 22:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt she will be disappointed in you for being pregnant. I reckon she'll be thrilled to hear she is going to be a gran. You say you have your own house and work full time, that sounds very responsible to me. Tell her face to face am sure she will support you in every step on the way.
If anything she would be disappointed to think you dont care enough to tell her the good news face to face.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-09-28 21:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by mooncalf22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it was awful, but i wouldn't say it is a good idea. I am a mother of 2 grown girls and would hate it if they couldn't come to me with a problem like you have, getting a text message doesn't give her the chance to immediately say we will work this out, it will be much harder for both you and her to meet to discuss this after you sitting waiting wondering what she is going to say, has she read it what is she thinking, she will also be wondering what you will say and the tension will grow. Go and see her, tell her to sit down, that you have something to tell her and you hope she will support and help you. She would have to be a heartless mother to push you away. Yes she may be disappointed, but as a mother she also know it is not going to go away by shutting you out. She will admire you much more for having the guts to tell her personally. Good luck.
2007-09-29 01:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jesus wept...! of course it would be really bad! look the best i can say about this is if you really really really cant face your mum and tell her then write her a letter, yes its still not great, but its a damn site better than a text. you say she'll be dissappointed...but will she? bringing a new life into the world, a beautiful baby that she'll be a grandmother to possibly for the 1st time by the sounds of things is nothing...REPEAT NOTHING...to be dissappointed about, its a joyous god given life changing miracle! yes she may initially be shocked but once its all sank in i'll lay money she'll be over the moon and will support you all the way. you take care, congratulations and good luck with everything.
2007-09-28 21:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult and your mom understands that right? I would at least give her a call. That's how I told my mom because we lived fairly far apart and we didnt see each other as often as we would have liked. Your mom may be disappointed for a while, but that will go away. Especially when you start showing. I guarantee you that every time you see your mom after you start showing, she'll be wanting to touch your belly and trying to feel the baby kick!
2007-09-28 21:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol do what ever you are comfortable with, alough i think you would be surprised by her reaction i was with a partner and working full time also and was 19, i sent her a note as i was worried also hehe she was wrapped and laughed at my note lol , I got married few years after my first and she is now Nana to 3 beautiful kids and one on the way, she couldn't be happier ;) Do what you think is best whether it is in a text give her time for it to sink in then she will call you when she is ready
Good Luck
2007-09-28 21:47:38 · answer #11 · answered by gemma b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋