When I was very, VERY young (14) and very, very stupid, I allowed my then boyfriend (who was also 14 at the time) to take some topless photos of me.
I am 22 now, and no longer have contact with this person, and haven't since we graduated from high school.
This has been bothering me recently. I know how to get ahold of him, but I don't exactly want to. I am well on my way to sucess in my current career, one which may well put me into the public's eye, and I would prefer to not have something like what happened to Vanessa Hudgeons happen to me.
Is this something I should bring up to him, and find out if he still has them and if he would be willing to get rid of them? He's quite the computer whiz and I seriously doubt he would still have the computer he had then. Not to mention, I was 14 then. Definitely creepy for him to be looking at them now.
Would asking him about it make it worse? Should I just forget about it and hope it never becomes an issue?
2007-09-28 21:41:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do not leave me responses about how bad of child I was. I have learned my lesson. Give me real answers or you will be reported.
2007-09-28 21:42:33 · update #1
hey there don t feel bad,we v all done stupid things in our life.
if i were you i would just forget about it,sometimes we v done bad stuff when were young and not think anything of it for a while.then later you start thinking about it again,and it starts to bug you,its just that now your mature and you cant believe what you have done years earlier.the best thing you could ever do is just let it go and forgive yourself o.k.and i doubt that he would still have those pics of you if he does,he would have put them out on display years earlier,its been awhile.
so dont worry about this its not good for you. take care!
2007-09-28 22:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation to deal with for sure!! Are your features clear on the photos? I mean your face and did you look very different than you do now? Maybe people can't even recognize you if they saw them. Did you end your relationship with him with a fight? Would he have a reason to want to hurt you in some way? Why don't you call him and tell him you want to talk to him, and when you do see him face to face, tell him how you feel and that you know he wouldn't do something like that, but that you would feel much safer knowing that they can't fall into the wrong hands and really appreciate it if he could destroy them. Many girls have done this before, don't feel bad about it, you were a teenager and just wanted to feel proud of your body, nothing unnatural about that. Good luck.
2007-09-28 21:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by piano19 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any documented evidence? Even if you don't, I'm sure your local law enforcement would be interested in a man taking photos of naked 15 year old girls. Your personal experience may be enough, but if you can get in contact with one of the underage girls and she is willing to talk to the police about it then you've probably got him. Any chance that this footage has ended up published on the internet? Because you need a model release even if the model is of age.
2016-05-21 03:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell kind of person ask for answers but then threatens to report you if you give answers you don't like. I will tell you what happened to a very good friend of mine.My best friends sister had this older boyfriend who talked her into letting him take some nasty nude shots of her she was 16 at the time. They broke up and she ask for the pictures he said he burned them so that was that. Well years later my husband came home and said he had seen some nasty pictures this guy was showing everyone in the bar and he was bragging about how he could get this girl to do anything he wanted. My husband said that she looked a little like your friend sister. He ask me what she looked like and i told him and he said that was her.Now it's been some 20 years later and her ex boyfriend was still showing them same pictures. My husband still thinks it's funny and when he sees her he laughs.This woman is in her 30's now with kids of her own and she still hearing about them pictures being shown around.Lucky for her the pictures hadn't been put in a computer yet. Her ex is to stupid to do anything like that. This woman's husband knows nothing about the pictures that were taken of her only because he is from a different state.If i were you i would try everything in my power to get the pictures back.
2007-09-28 22:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let The skeleton in the closet remains status quo. Digging into the past may not just bring up the Dark Episodes, it may turn up more bones. He might remember or have more to say.
Leave the matter alone, keep it stash away and aim for your future. Deals with it should it resurfaces.
James C
2007-09-28 21:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right it not very bright to do as a young child, but we all make our mistakes.
I feel the best thing to do would be to ask for them back. If he is a good person he will have no problem giving them to you if he still has them. If he has them and does not want to give them back you might have a future problem. But you will never know until you ask.
2007-09-28 21:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by John L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. Deal with it if it needs to be dealt with in the future. That was then, this is now. No one should expect a 14 year old to be mature (people much older are still immature) and know everything.
2007-09-28 21:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Linni 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hopefully during those years, he got a really bad computer virus and wiped everything out. Since it was a while ago he prob forgot about them and probably deleted them. No worries, its the past and you were young, and he probably and hopefully didn't post it online. I'd say, don't ask him about it, because he prob long forgot about it. If hes an *** and he still has them, he might be stubborn and want something in return so then you got a bigger problem in your hands.
2007-09-28 21:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just leave the chapter as closed. your ex friend may not even remember. there are so many new photos with action availabe on site and you just need not worry about this issue
relax
2007-09-28 21:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all keep your ego aside and the way you have written that you will be rported no one will answer you..hee must have surely saved your pics and must have shown it to all his friends and must have enjoyed.. but if he has not troubled you all this years then i dont think he will do anything now...
2007-09-28 21:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by tisha k 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋