We have been married for 15 years and my husband has a moody character. He is kind, loving caring and every good charactor that a husband should have then all of a sudden he goes crazy all for nothing. Last night we were going out with our 2 kids to have fun and very calmly I told him that he is overspeeding. He said a very nasty word to me in front of the kids. So I told him that I want to get out of the car ( still calm ). All of a sudden he hit my head to the window and started driving crazy yelling that this is bad driving and not that. The children were crying and screaming of fright. So sad. I acted indifferent to what he did and stoped talking to him. He appologized after an hour like he does every time he goes crazy. At night he kissed me & appologized again . The fact is that I forgave him because I know he is sick but I 'm sick and tired of everything. Once I took him to a counselor but he says he does not need one and I'm the one who needs counselling not to drive him mad,
2007-09-28 20:47:11 · 6 answers · asked by lost-in-love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to stop this cycle of family violence. It would be better to leave him than to let your kids see him abuse you like that. Think of how utterly terrifying that must have been for them! That is something that will stay in their memories for a long time, or forever. They should not have to be subjected to being scared to death like that.
There is something SERIOUSLY wrong mentally with someone who would do what you described. There is never a reason for his behavior, I don't care how mad he gets. You need to tell him that he MUST get counseling/medication/psychiatric evaluation or you will leave. Good luck to you... I feel for you... I could not imagine living in fear like you are doing.
Did you know that girls raised in abusive situations will often marry an abuser when they grow up, and boys will often become abusers, because since that's what they see growing up, that's all they know.
2007-09-28 21:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is hitting you, this is domestic violence. Don't put up with that. He is endangering you and your children with his volatile anger. I would separate from him, and tell him you aren't coming back until he gets help for his anger problem. You should go to marriage counseling by your self.
The reason he blows up is because he does not deal with his feelings. He packs them, then when they get over full he explodes. He needs to learn how to deal with his feelings and not put them on the back burner till they boil over. Until he realizes he has a problem he is not going to look for help. You can get him to that point faster, if you leave and don't come back til he gets help.
Domestic violence can be physical abuse or mental abuse or both. Domestic violence if not treated can become fatal real quick. Don't take this situation lightly and don't blame your self for it. He is the one with the problem, your problem can be putting up with it. Don't put up with it. You and your children are far more valuable than that. He is being a very bad example for your children too. You can stop this. If you have no where to go, find a battered women's shelter. You are a battered woman, he hit your head to the car window and scared you and your children, this is abuse.
2007-09-29 14:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
plz, let your sweetheart husband read what you just posted here. You can pretend its a mistake and keep it open on the computer while he's around so he can come across it.
I'm sure something will struck him. He'll understand how deep his crazy behavior is hurting you. Always keep calm like you have.
good luck!
2007-09-29 04:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please get some help for yourself, a battered women's group or counselor. There is no excuse for hurting you. Your last sentence indicates he blames you. It's not your fault, and you can't make him change, if he doesn't want to.
Your spouse may be depressed, bi-polar or something. He needs to help himself. You can be supportive, but he still needs to deal with whatever the issue is.
2007-09-29 03:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Winder B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Does he tell you how to drive? That was the trigger. He has aggression issues. Probably some kind of stress related thing.
2007-09-29 03:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get outside help! What if one day he "goes crazy" and bashes your kids heads on something?
2007-09-29 04:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋