Question about Abortion?

Question

I have always been anti-abortion from my religious beliefs.. but I need advice

I am 19. 20 in December.
If I keep it my partner will do a runner and I'll be alone. I dont have a cent to my name nor a job or my own place at the moment. I'm not in the right place at the moment and I dont know how I'll manage it alone...
I am exploring all options now Im looking at Abortion though im still undecided.
I see that the abortion pill is not legal in australia? I could maybe do this... but the vacuum thing? Seems so traumatic. The only way I could is under general anesthetic. So im out of it the whole time.
I was just wanting to know from people how the process is. How traumatic and if anyones had general anesthetic.
Just any imput or experiences please...

I'm 6 weeks in a couple days...

Answer 1

I had an abortion when I was 19.. I was also 6 weeks almost 7...I was in a similar situation as you I was in college no money family totally 100 percent against keeping it. I felt like I had no choice. Now I believe it was the worst mistake of my life. I had the vacumn done and like the lady who posted before it was not painful afterwards I got up and went about my life. I was a little sad about it, but tried not to think about it. Since you are out during the vacumn process you don't actually see what they are doing so you don't realize how real it is. I just tried to push it to the back of my mind. Even in the room before when they do the ultrasound they turn the screen so you can't see, because that would be bad for business. Abortion clinics are just about making money if women saw their unborn fetus on screen they may have second thoughts. Anyway, after the abortion I felt fine but about 3 or 4 days later I started having really bad cramps. I went to the doctor and they determined that the abortion was not done completly. While I laid there they pulled parts of the fetus out of me. Sorry if TMI ya'll. Right then and there I knew how real it was and it hit me what I had done. That was my child. I cried that entire night.... and the next and the next and the next.... It has been 2 years since then and I still cry, not every night, but I still cry and pray for forgiveness, and pray that my unborn child did not feel any pain... It is the worst feeling. I know that your parents may not support you now, but they will once the baby is born most likely.. probably even before that... and if you truly are completely alone there are support groups for you and if you have no options whatsoever there is always adoption. Please consider what I have written before you go through with an abortion. I wish I could convey the pain I go though because of my decision. sorry for spelling.. God bless..

Answer 2

Oh girl, I beg you not to have an abortion. You say you are religious. Don't you think He will help you through it? Don't you think you fell pregnant for a reason?
Yes, it will be hard, but this baby is here for a reason. Who knows what awaits you if you have an abortion, think about it. God doesn't just do stupid things just because.
Let me tell you my story. I was 16 and alone when I was pregnant (my bf did a runner), and now at 19 with my two-year-old son I couldn't be happier. Now that I look at it, I realise that having a child changed my life for the better. And I wouldn't change the world for my little boy. Btw I do have the means to care and provide for him.
That's just the thinking about you bit.
Now think about that living being inside of you, who loves you, who relies on you solely for protection. It loves you, you're it's mother. At 6 weeks:
'Protruding buds that will become the arms and legs are even more noticeable now. The embryo's hands and feet look like paddles. Other developments include the growth of the pituitary gland and muscle fibres. You can't hear it yet, but the heart (which has divided into the right and left chambers) is beating at about 150 beats a minute -- twice the rate of yours.' This is from an educational site (not pro-life or anti, just plain science for you). READ IT AGAIN! The heart is beating. Your baby's heart is beating.
I beg you, for the sake of your baby's life -- and it is alive, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise, for it has a beating heart to say the least, and it's your own flesh and blood -- to not kill it.
Being religious, I would say pray. I don't know what He has in store for you, but killing your own baby is never the way out.
God bless. Please don't think the situation's completely hopeless. With His help, it never is (and I'm not trying to discount the bewilderment you' must be feeling by saying that, because I was once in that dark place too)....

Answer 3

I have had both types of abortions. The only way I would do the vacuum is if you are totally out of it. Because it is extremely uncomfortable. The pill is a better choice...but if you dont know if it's legal yet, you need to find out. You can only do the pill up to nine weeks I believe. After that the vacuum suction is the only way. When I did the vaccum, I was totally under and woke up in no pain, just a little emotional from the drugs. If you do decide to get an abortion, just make sure you take a few days off to rest. And take care of yourself...because you can have complications with abortion. Good luck! Oh, and dont let any of those radical pro lifers try to talk **** to you. Just ignore them. also...i am married and pregnant right now...and I know in my heart in my past I made the right decision. My baby right now is a planned baby with my husband, and we have the means to take care of her, and provide for her.

Answer 4

I had an abortion when i was 21 i just got together with my boyfriend and 3 months later i was preg. we both were way to young and were babies ourselves. I couldn't go to my mother she would of killed me(you know what i mean) so i had an abortion. I went to the hosp.they put me under and when i woke up it was over no pain nothing. I had to lay there for one or two hours i don't remember which but i do remember they won't let you leave unless you have someone there to pick you up and take you home. I had no one so i told them i had a taxi cab waiting for me and they let me go and that was that. When i got home i took a nap and woke up just in time to get dressed and go out to a party. I felt no guilt as everyone says the only thing i did feel was relieved that it was over. Five years later i fell in love with my husband and i had a baby boy who is 26 now. I still feel no guilt what so ever it was something that had to be done and i would do it all over again.To think if i had that baby i would not be with my husband now and for that reason alone it was worth having it done. With all that being said i have to tell you that i have always been pro abortion so that's why i felt no shame or guilt for my actions as for you i can't say.I don't mean to offend anyone with my beliefs.

Answer 5

Can't you ask your parents for advice? I know it's going to be a shock for them, but parents will always be a pillar of support that you have all your life.

Answer 6

Just keep in mind that you'll most likely feel very guilty and maybe even depressed(?) if you abort it. Why don't you pray about?

Answer 7

the best thing you have to do talk to your parents dear dont to by yourself your parents now are the right person to run for.they love you.....