okay so like, in middle school i had this big mouth and i would say all this stuff to everyone. i didn't know any better. last year i was a freshman andd i was better about it, but i might let slip a couple insignificant things to people. usually on accident. twice i told someone a big secret, because i am terrible at holding them in. so because of this, i developed some kind of reputation among my circle of friends that i am not someone to tell stuff too, because apparently i'll tell EVERYONE. otherwise, i am a really loyal friend, and its not like im two faced or anything, most of the time i have just said something too early when they werent supposed to know yet or something. however, its been the first couple months of sophomore year and i think i am WAY better and i havent spilled anything i wasnt supposed to but my best friend(s) still wont tell me certain things that they tell everyone else. if everyone who i would tell knows then who am i going to say anything to??
2007-09-28 20:27:03 · 5 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lmao, great question. You really should be more careful about doing that. It is good that you are making improvement but you have violated trusts in the past and that does take time to rebuild. On the other hand you friend is trying to punish you by not even telling you things that she has already openly shared. Maybe you should talk to her about it. Keep up the good work.
2007-09-28 20:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Justa Angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you lose trust it is hard to get it back. You might not,etc. tell everyone but one person you tell will tell another and they might tell another, etc. It just snowballs from there but since it started with you it falls on your shoulders. A big secret that gets out can cause a lot of problems or maybe embarrassment for someone. You know how cruel kids can be at that age. Learn from this experience and be more trustworthy.
2007-09-28 20:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once a big mouth, always a big mouth...maybe on a smaller scale though. Your friends will just think twice before they tell you really private stuff. Its fair enough! I am a big mouth too... I dont tell people things for the sake of it, or to cause trouble.. I repeat things cause 'its not as big a deal as they make it.....' and think they are beiing silly... It sometimes gets me in strife. But I know the difference between a serious secret and a trivial one. I would never reapeat something really serious..
2007-09-28 20:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a matter of trust and when you can't trust your friends it hurts. If you honestly care about your friends then you should respect their limits and not tell things they don't want you to tell. Also, some things should only be talked about behind closed doors. If you want to talk about something that one or more of your friends want to keep private then do so in private. Last, if you haven't, make sure to apologize to your friends. You may not be able to take back your actions but at least do that so that they know you are repentant of them.
2007-09-28 20:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Raven 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you ruined your friends trust by teling their secrets. The best you can do is talk to your friends about it and get it out in the open. It's hard to regain trust once you've broken it.
2007-09-28 20:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dinchan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋