Seriously, I know it sounds stupid. I don't understand why I'm frustrated at him for not being superman. Why do I expect him to know what I'm thinking, or what I want, without telling him exactly what that is? I have heard of many other women thinking the same thing. Is it instinct? How can I break the habit of thinking my husband should be a superhuman mind reader?
2007-09-28 19:35:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women think differently than men. No doubt about it. It seems that a woman, the longer she is with her man, learns his routines, his likes and his dislikes, and is able to anticipate what he's like, or how he'll react to something. It seems only natural to believe that they think that same way. Unfortunately, men really do think differently. Might as well get used it. It's okay to remind them from time to time, but try not to get too frustrated.
2007-09-28 19:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to live in a world called REALITY. No one is mind reader. You ever heard the phrase closed mouths don't get fed. So I guess your starving right now. It's sounds like your being passive-aggressive, which is unfair to both of you all. Also sometimes as women we have a fairy tale notion of how love should be and often fall flat on our faces. Listen long-term relationships and marriage are hard work. The sooner you realized this the better off you will be. There is no "I" in marriage.
2007-09-29 16:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not that perceptive. Although we wish they could read our minds clearly most don't have on of their own! Just kidding, I promise!
I can tell you the way I trained my hubby though, worked very well. While we were dating I would write him translations...you know what a woman says and then what it really means. I did this a page at a time. When we got married he had a book to which he could go for future reference. He used to think I was crazy as hell but now he shares it with his friends when they get in trouble. Get writing girl.
2007-09-29 02:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by Justa Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you have expectations about love/romance, formed by exposure to Disney movies or who knows what, that a relationship isn't good unless the man is tuned into the woman's needs at all times. You might also be expecting him to be more like a woman, since it seems that women are more successful sometimes at picking up on other women's signals than men are. I'd say that recognizing this about yourself is a good start to changing the habit. Open communication couldn't hurt. If you'd like, you could even seek the guidance of a marriage counselor.
2007-09-29 02:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men can't read maps and assumption can lead to disaster. Good and faithful husbands always get caught up with how they can manage the family well and constantly looking for ways to emerge as good providers for his wife and children. They don't have time sitting down and thinking what you are thinking. To them, it's a waste of time. Marriage is not like courtship. During courtship, they are always thinking whether you love them. But after marriage, they don't even bother to think what's on your mind. You gotta tell them verbally. And that's relationship. It's like how you commune with God. Your prayers are your communication with God. God is interested to know what you have on mind. And He needs you to tell him in prayers. The same goes for men. Men who love you want to know what you're thinking except for those busybodies. So don't expect them to know your thoughts w/o you telling them.
2007-09-29 02:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've taken the first step by admitting you have a problem. Are you a superhuman mind reader? Don't force your hubby to be what you aren't.
2007-09-29 05:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to be assertive without being toxic and demanding. women often times think the husband should know, but its not the case. voice what u are thinking, and what u want from him be clear and concise, and don't beat around the bush or attack him. most problems in marriage are caused by lack of being able to communicate.
2007-09-29 06:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have issues of your own self about not being able to express what you are feeling , and you expect him to know what you are thinking because he is your husband.. but if you want it to work you better stop getting mad at him and tell him what is on your mind
2007-09-29 02:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to keep reminding yourself that your husband is not a mind reader and if you want/need something you need to tell him.
He will appriciate being told what you want much more that trying to guess what you want .
2007-09-29 02:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess when your married you feel that you have an automatic connection to your husband,and i guess that's why you want him to basically read your mind.The best thing you can do is to communicate with your husband,tell him how you feel and what you want him to know.Maybe you'll feel better if you just sit down and talk with him.
2007-09-29 02:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋