2007-09-28 18:08:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's called knowing we are human and will make mistakes and will do stupid things. It's remembering the love you have between you and the children as well. Marriage is worth saving no matter what. It's a commitment made before God to honor, cherish and love til death do us part. A person cheats because something is amiss at home in some way usually. If home life is fine then that person needs counseling to deal with their lack of committment.
I could forgive an affair only with time and counseling and seeing honest effort from the party that goofed.
2007-09-28 18:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's not for the kids that's for sure. People stray from their spouse because they feel they are missing something. Usually it's a physical property in the relationship. The sex or physical closeness that they once had has subsided. It's time do some self reflection and see if you really love this person. Try to put out of your mind the incident of unfaithfulness and look back at why you are with them in the first place. Rekindel that flame and use that to help you heal from the deceit. Communication is the key in the whole thing though. The partner that cheated needs to understand that time does heal wounds but deep gashed don't heal overnight. Make sure you communicate to your partner how you feel and what you want him/her to do now. Make sure they realize this is not acceptable. Ask them what they want and what they wish would happen now. The love you feel on the day you got married is still there it's just buried. That love is why people should stay together. That person wasn't bad that day nor are they now, they just want attention and sought it from the wrong place.
2007-09-28 18:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Chipslittlepunk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True remorse from the spouse that was unfaithful and a strong desire from both spouses to make the marriage work.
2007-09-28 18:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just because they made a mistake doesn't mean that the entire marriage is bad. We are human and can be enticed to cheat for many reasons. If they feel that it was a physical release versus an affair they may be able to forgive the cheater, regardless of how much it hurt. Whether it's right or wrong to forgive someone is not up to others, only that particular couple can make that decision.
2007-09-28 18:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by M M 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the person who committed the act of unfaithfullness is TRUELY and 100% sorry and will NEVER do it again and they have totally changed. ONLY if they totally understand what they have done to you. (Or if you understand what you have done to him). Go to a counselor. Don't listen to everyone who says give up. Try a counselor first. Unless he's a jerk and slaps you around and has 10 affairs and doesn't care. Then nothing makes it worth saving.
2007-09-28 19:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it was a one time thing, if he knows what he did hurt the other. if he is remorseful, and his actions show it. if he were willing to do anything to make amends, if he allows the hurt spouse to talk about it, until she can get over it. if he understands forgiveness will not come easy. if this isn't a pattern of behavior with him and he has never done it before. if he has not left the home and lived with the other person.
2007-09-28 23:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they needless to say do not love, appreciate or look when you the way an significant different could desire to. And the reality that they have got accomplished this extra advantageous than as quickly as exhibits that they won't exchange and your marriage won't get extra advantageous.
2016-10-20 06:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not one goddamn thing. Betrayal is the deal buster, hon, ask any counselor. Less than 20% survive two years and this is with both in counseling, and both wishing to save it... with the Trust gone with the Passion getting shared, the Respect and Admiration are in the toilet too. the four biggies are gone.... It is just impossible to forget the image of a faithless husband pronging another lady, or a faithless wife getting banged by another guy... sorry hon. Of all my friend where one or the other has betrayed, none are still married... none, not even 20%. One lasted three years. They split up last month. So, why bother..... 20% is an F in school, and for sure an F in life and marriage.
2007-09-28 18:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
repentance, time, patience, forgiveness, and the promise it will never happen again. sadly this is all too common of a mistake and in some cases a very regretful one. if an individual truly feels remorse and is willingly to regain and work for that bondage of trust then it's a marriage worth salvaging.
2007-09-28 18:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by ladyintuitive21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually nothing, BUT I caught my wife cheating on me years ago. My first reaction was to throw her out. My second reaction was to say, Am I better off with her or without her.
She did a really stupid thing with an old boyfriend. I decided to live with it. It didn't take her long to figure out that it WAS`a stupid thing to do...........It worked out,. She wised up and so did I.
If it would have ever happened again, I'd have thrown her out in a heart beat. It didn't. Thank goodness.
One mistake, think about it. Two!, Throw the bum out!
2007-09-28 18:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by Carl R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋