Hi I am 13 and my friend wrote some ugly stuff about me, and she doesn't know I know. Anyway I am really depressed and I dont want to be her friend anymore. What do I do? I am do ticked to talk to her, and if I told her I found out she will get mad. Please I need answers and fast!!!
2007-09-28 17:57:23 · 9 answers · asked by Isablla P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell her you heard about it and you don't wanna be friends anymore..
A REAL friend doesn't act like that.
2007-09-28 18:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person is NOT your friend. Keep that snake at a respectable distance. If she approaches you about why you don't want to be around her any more, tell her why in very simple terms, then walk away. Let her be mad! She stabbed you in the back!
Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.
2007-09-28 18:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend is not a long term realtionship, Sometimes, it requires a lot of effort of both party to improve the bondings and to prolong the time that they are friends. It's not bad if she gets mad when you tell her that you've found out that she's "backstabbing" you coz it is the truth. As long as you are faithful and have nothing done bad to her, you should be the one to have her apology. And don't worry if she get angry, There are lots of people that most caring, loving and loyal friends compared to her. Life is going process in which you shouldn't center your life to anyone. You should consider lots of limitations before embarking into a relationship like friendship.
2007-09-28 18:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by daniel14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if she gets mad, she's the one that wrote it in the first place. You have every right to be completly pissed at her. I know she's your "friend" but, if you think about it, would a real friend of your's write stuff about you. And me knowing Middle School as well as I do (HAHA, i'm 13 too.) It had to be pretty ugly...
2007-09-28 18:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by KimothyCullen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she wrote bad stuff about. You shouldn't be friends with her. A real friend could tell you to face even if it might hurt..Tell her that you know.and you don't like it and if you want ask why she did it..if she get mad just say you don't wanna talk to her anymore.
2007-09-28 18:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~Sweets~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your friend. Friends don't write or say bad stuff about their other friends. If I were you, I would confront her and show her proof of what she did. Tell her you don't appreciate it and you deserve an apology. If she gets mad at you, then she's not really your friend, and it's best you find out now before she spreads anymore lies about you.
2007-09-28 18:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies are designed to fool people to gain something.
Politicians lie whenever their lips are moving.
A friend that tells dishonest lies about you is only trying to impress someone that she is better than you
(for whatever purpose) may seek to destroy you with hate or envy.
Suggest you Calmly approach her - tell her flat out that you do not appreciate her writing ugly things about you.
It's good to know who your friends are - when they double cross you like that. She is not your friend.
2007-09-28 18:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jonathan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why would she be mad if she knew you knew? because she got CAUGHT... just write her if you dont want to talk to her... notes are pretty popular at that age lol! just tell her that she backstabbed you... and talked *sh!t* and you dont need friends liek that... tell her you feel betrayed!
good luck!
2007-09-28 18:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by cinnimon2693 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will get over it
2007-09-28 18:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by kolan333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋