we had decided to split with each other. but when i think about divorce i get scared and worried about my future... my BF loves me a lot and is ready to do anything for me. he is rady to stay with me and also accept my daughter. he is not so good looking compared to me. i doubt whether my parents will accept him. he will very soon tell his father about me. he wants to marry me. on the other hand hubby sya "he never wanted a divorce it was only me who said that" and thats true. but i dont want to keep any relation with his family and neither attend any of there forth coming functions. i also dont want to hurt my BF. he says if nothing is possible lets be friends and will talk to eachother and he will not get married to anyone other than me. he lost his virginity to me. please help and give some suggestion i have less time to decide
2007-09-28 17:25:01 · 14 answers · asked by tisha k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will probably be happier if you find a better looking boyfriend. Certainly the sex will be better which, in turn, will make other things better. There are lots of places to meet good looking guys so you should not settle for less than you deserve.
2007-09-28 18:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First looks should have very little to do with it. If he is a good guy and will be a good father that is what is important. Second, what is the deal with your husband? Is he the father of your girl? If he is it would be worth considering staying married to him. Are you just tired and bored with him? If so that is normal in lots of marriages, you have to work at making it enjoyable. You will get tired of boyfriend in a few years too.
What you are doing is a mistake. Going from one relationship into another. You depend on people in the relationship and can't function on your own. But you have to if you don't want to go from one man to another over and over again.
Don't be a fool and stay with your boyfriend because you feel sorry because you seduced him into his first sexual encounter. Why compound a problem. You are going to dump him in a few years why put him through years of thinking he is going to have you for life just to burst his bubble anyway, that's not kindness, it is cruelty.
2007-09-28 17:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by James Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck did you involve someome else in your life and mess with his emotions before you broke things off completly and divorced your ex.
I think you deserve all the stress you are having before its of your own making.
When are ppl gonna learn its hard enough to go thru a break up without bringing somelse into the picture. You are being selfish and not thinking about your ex or your current b/f only yourself. Ever heard of out with the old and THEN in with the new. Sorry I really get upset with ppl asking for help or complaining about things when they have made the problem for themselves.
2007-09-29 02:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the boyfriend. Do not see him again until you are single.
Single as in NOT MARRIED. Divorce is final, over, done.
If he's a good catch, he will wait and respect this boundary. Tell him that you did things wrong at the start and that you need time to work out your marriage/divorce situation before you are serious with him.
It's the only fair & right thing to do for him, yourself, your husband, and your daughter.
It will make things a lot clearer about your relationship with your husband. And if you do divorce, it will make the divorce less messy.
WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE SINGLE (LEGALLY) to DATE AGAIN!!!!!!
You'll feel better, not confused, and free.
2007-09-28 17:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still a married woman so what are you doing with a boyfriend? That's adultery. You need to be scared and worried about your future. You've messed up your marriage and now you've messed up your boyfriend's life as well as your child's. You may think you look good but inside you are rotten! If you aren't adult enough to be a part of his family, I hope he wakes up and dumps you.
2007-09-28 17:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to patch things up with your husband first so that there will be no trouble later on... if he doesnt want divorce, you are still legally bound to him as his wife... you cannot go on marry someone else while still married right? so try to make sure that everything is okay between you and your husband. if you are divorced already, i think thats the time that you can have another relationship.
2007-09-28 17:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. Divorce can be simple and easy if both parties agree on things. You have already cheated on your husband so that marriage is over. Best to get a divorce and get on with your life.
2007-09-28 17:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your boyfriend has a point of saying be friends, and your husbandd was not the one saying he wanted a divorce, just explain to him you are not into him family functions, when time comes up just say you are on your time of the month and not go.But get back with your husban and make good love to him
2007-09-28 17:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are a little vain....Why does it matter that your bf isn't good looking compared to you? If you want to patch things up with your husband then you need to cut all ties with the BF...it wouldn't be fair to your husband or to the BF if you have contact with him. Actually I think you just need to be by yourself for awhile...you don't know what you want it sounds like.
2007-09-28 17:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are having an affair? You are cheating on your husband and you don't know what to do?
Uh hello? Anyone home? Wake up, either stop your cheating and work it out with your husband or divorce the poor man and let him move on.
2007-09-28 17:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋