Sometimes I feel that describes me.
2007-09-28 17:23:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yep I am right there with you. I do have confidence and low self esteem. It is hard to explain. I know I am intelligent, friendly, and good at solving issues. I am not that some what good looking, romantic, and caring. Yet at the same time I find myself with low self esteem because I do not have a girlfriend or seem to have anyone interested in me. I feel like girls like me because I am a nice guy and always there for them. I do what ever I can for them and an 96% of the time a gentleman. Yet they always seem me as a friend and nothing more. I am the guy they come to when they feel sad, or when the guy they were dating is caught cheating on them or dumps them. I am for some reason never looked at a second time as a guy they would want to date and be serious with, even with all of my wonderful qualities that they even bring up from time to time. I have had girls say, "I have no idea why you are still single?" They say things like this out of the blue, it is not because I ask them or anything. Yet I always think to myself, "well if you think I am so wonderful, why are you not wanting to date me?" That is a question I often ask myself and is why I have low self esteem. It is also why now I am, well gun shy I guess you could call it. I see a girl I think is attractive, sweet kind, funny, and honest, yet am to afraid to approach them. The reason is I will become their new best friend, and will hear what I have heard so many times before, "you are the sweetest guy I know, why can't all men be like you?" Yet here I am still single and wanting a true, honest, loving, committed relationship. Sorry this is so long but I felt like I needed to explain why I have self confidence, yet have low self esteem. =)
2007-09-28 17:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
strange...hmm i guess if u have low self esteem then the confidence is just fake to mask the low self esteem, your probably scared inside, me, when I'm confident i always think i can do what ever it is I'm doing without being affraid, anyway, hard question to answer
2007-09-28 17:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no. if you're confident then you esteem yourself and will likely do your best and still feel good about what you did regardless of the outcome. but if you have low self-esteem you don't feel confident about yourself and really unsure what you should do. and you usually beat yourself up when you do do something because you didn't add up to people's standard.
2007-09-28 17:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly my situation too.....yes both are possible but not at the same time...the mood changes from highly confident to points when u have low self esteem
2007-09-28 17:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by live n let live 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is certainly confident enough to "dump" you, but he also has high self-esteem and his "high"self esteem is based on what people thought of him and once that is threatened, he would take action.
2016-05-21 02:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... you may have low self esteem but you may be confident in doing certain things... bcoz u know ur good at them... :)
2007-09-28 17:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Miss M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure, at least at the same time.
2007-09-28 23:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that's bi-polar or manic depresssive
2007-09-28 17:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it happens to me too.
2007-09-28 17:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋