i dont mean that they are addicted and it affects every aspect of the marriage, i mean just often. and does it make you feel like your not good enough?
2007-09-28 17:17:00 · 18 answers · asked by serafina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't bother me at all if my husband looks at porn on the internet. It doesn't make me feel inferior to the women in the movies. We love each other very much and have an active sex life. I don't mind if he watches porn. In fact, I like to watch it with him. It spices things up!!
2007-09-28 18:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Questions you should ask yourself: Why does it bother you that he spends time looking at porn? Do you come on to him? Flirt with him? Try to get him aroused? Have you lost interest in sex? In general or with your husband? Do you wanna have sex with him? I think most men look at porn online. Married or not. I believe you were wrong in telling him he is addicted to it. Try making suggestions. Try new things in bed. I hope this doesn't sound cold-hearted, I apologize if it does, but I have no other way to say it. Try giving him more sex. Even if you just lay there and touch his back, neck and arms while he does the work. It's good to be that close to your spouse. I don't mean to be rude, but the problem might not be him. You might have a low sex drive due to stress, age, weight, being tired, or other health problems. Men and women may have different sex drives, but 2-3 hours seems to be a bit much. One thing I will give you husband, better him watch porn and jerk himself off than have someone else do it for him. I wanted sex more than my spouse (*4-6 times in a day*), so I went out and found it. Not a good choice on my part. Now, if I wanna "do it" and he doesn't, I go to the bedroom and pleasure myself. Same goes for him. I hope I helped.
2016-05-21 02:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband looks at porn and when he hears me coming he hits the wife button on the screen. He thinks i don't know about the wife button,it's kind of funny in a way lets say your husband is deep into a porn and all of a sudden he hears you coming and instead of panicking he has a little round button on the lower right hand side of the screen that says wife button and when he pushes it the screen comes up where he pays the bills.I have notice that he pays the bills a lot lately. Does it bother me yes and no, yes because the women are flawless and pretty they never get old and no because i use to watch porn with him in bed, now because i am older i can't tell him to stop because i am jealous of the women he is looking at that wouldn't be right on my part. Now if i ever catch him in a live chat room with a woman I'll cut his f u c k i n g balls off and he knows it.
2007-09-28 17:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am married... My husband enjoys watching porn and so do I. He has actually downloaded several porn videos on our laptop and it didn't bother me one bit... I actually told him we need new porn DVDs coz I'm tired of watching the same stuff.
Porn doesn't really make me feel that I'm not good enough...i don't know why BUT I feel the other way around... when my husband watches porn I know it will end up in the bedroom so I let him watch porn anytime...
Women are different... especially when it comes to their husbands watching porn. I know a lot of women who thinks it is cheating and they feel bad about themselves when they find out that their husband is watching porn. I'd say if the wife doesn't like it, then the husband should respect her opinion. If the wife is fine it, then the husband can watch porn anytime...LOL
2007-09-28 17:29:06 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one of those wives who can't stand porn. It actually turns me on....but I think it's something you should do as a couple if you look at it at all. It's when you exclude your partner that your partner begins to feel that she's not good enough. When my husband and I were dating, we discussed internet porn. He told me he looked at it in the mornings maybe twice a week or so but never more than like 10 minutes because it was always right before work. I told him I didn't care if he looked at it sometimes but that I just never wanted him to lie to me about it and would prefer that he include me instead of doing it alone. I trust my husband 100% and know he has a great deal of integrity so I believe him when he told me he never looks at it anymore. He prefers to look at funny videos online instead. It's not an issue with us.
2007-09-28 18:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't like porn, sorry. Mine was addicted... every waking moment. Addicts aren't available for a relationship, they are already in one, so they are taken.... All guys look at it, and no real woman can "compete" with a 16 year old that has been air brushed to perfection. If he had done it only occasionally, I probably wouldn't have minded.
2007-09-28 18:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby has a huge collection of porn on his computer. I have been keeping my eye on it, it is no secret and I don't mind that he has it. THere have been no new additions in the years we have been together.
As long as I am not around, he can do what he wants. If I go away for the night, theres no reason he can;t have some 'him' time.
Everyone is different. Some women dont mind, some do. If you do mind, there is nothing wrong with it, it is your own opinion and he should respect it.
2007-09-28 17:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by LifeLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh it does bother me big time!! And I'll get upset every times I got to know he looks at porn on the Internet. And worst, I'm a kind of person that have no confident about myself. It makes me feel that I'm not good enough for him. SO, maybe it's true. Otherwise, he wouldn't do that. :((
2007-09-28 17:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by narnia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If we looked at the porn together, no problem but we could just make our own porn,Empty camera of course.I control the camera to make sure there is no film.If he wants to look at porn without me, this (to me)is the same as him going out to the real thing without me. He would have to take his pick.And if he takes to long trying to decide-- tell him forget it, just don't let the door hit him in the butt on the way out.
2007-09-28 17:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ava 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No porn is just a fantasy, It is when they get involved with talking with "real" women that you have to worry. From my experience when my hubby looks at porn I benefit.
2007-09-28 20:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋