I've had a lot of bad experiences with white people?

Question

i've had many bad experiences with white people like them callin me sp*c to ma face. making fun of me because i'm latina and an immigrant. and now i can't even deal with white people anymore. Ever since that incedent i promised myself that i would never date a white man or have a close relationship with no white woman. What's wrong with me? why can't i just get over those things?

Answer 1

honestly I don't really feel sorry for you bc i find a lot of Latinas are actually too mean and defensive they start stuff with me even when I didn't say anything to them, I could've just been looking in their direction.
and I honestly think you're exagerrating bc you for some reason want a reason to hate white people and have people feel sorry for you so you'll seem like a victim of society, sorry but it seems like a lot of latin girls try to be the "victim" so nothing is expected of them and they can have the benefits of living in the country as well.
Honestly I think some Latinas are really focused on themselves and how people treat THEM rather than how they treat OTHERS. So, in other words, something is always being done to THEM, never them being racist by assuming somebody else is prejudice to them. Although this in itself is racist. I'm sick of Latinas stereotyping white americans as racist and pigheaded towards hispanics.
And by the way, did you know some Latinas are/can be white too?

Answer 2

Maybe you could look at it this way:

It's true that there are plenty of not-white people you can hang out with. Around 5 billion, at the moment. So it's not like you're going to run out of people to date or laugh with or work for or employ or smile at on the street if you write off all the white people.

But still, there are 1 billion of us floating around. Some of us are funny and some of us are mean and some of us are friendly and some of us are honest and some of us spend too much time on yahoo answers ... well, you get the drift.

Come on ... you know SOME of us are worth the effort, right? You must have had SOME good experiences with white people, right? You could choose to try to focus on those.

(And note to all the haters on this question: read it carefully. She's saying "What's wrong with me? Why can't I just get over those things?" She's not arguing an anti-white stance, she's saying she feels burned and mistrustful. That's pretty much how I feel about insurance company people, at the moment.)

Answer 3

I'm sorry that you had that experience.

I do the only thing I can do to help race relations. I try very hard to show everyone respect. It doesn't mean I never have a racist thought or presume a stereotype is true. That does happen from time to time. But I try never to repeat the kind of jokes that reinforce negative stereotypes. I go out of my way to hold the door for someone else, male, female, black, white, latino or whatever. I have noticed there's an upswing in that. Other's have held the door for me numerous times lately. I believe its makking a difference even if its just a small one.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

nothing is wrong with you!
I am white, Scots/Italian, American, but if I was dealt the same poop as you! I would be just as leery.
In fact, I grocery shop with a large ethnic culture.
I will not name which. The older women come down the grocery isles with the carts like battering rams.
They have dark angry faces, the old world black clothes.
They ram the carts into every one, they make no eye contact.

I have been shopping the same store for 30 years, and I see the same women, and just to DAMN them I smile every week, and nod.


They never respond!,,So how do you think I feel about that ethnic culture, and would you blame me?
I don't blame you either, even though I am the enemy in your eyes. Nothing wrong with being human.
BUT......Ain't it a shame, don't teach it to the kids, I don't either.
There lies the HOPE, in our kids.
Love you sister, su hermana, I think it is correct?
well this right, love of God, and His rules for us Humans called Christians

Answer 6

I think it's normal to feel such a way when you've had multiple experiences like that. Just keep an open mind and remind yourself that every person is different.

We live in a neighborhood filled with blacks. They have trashed our yard, stolen our car, thrown rocks in our garbage bins so the city wouldn't take them, dumped refrigerators in our back yard... But I still have an open mind about every black I meet. Every person is different. Just remember that.

I would think absolutely no less of you for being a different race than myself and I would hope for the same courtesy from you. :)

Answer 7

Theres racist people in every race..If someone called me a spick to my face >:l they would get their teeth knocked out. But i mean it's better not to get down on their level because it shows how ignorant they are.There's nothing wrong with you. But dont let those people stop you from talking to white people. I have a lot of white friends and theyre really cool to be around.

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with you. The fault is with those who have made fun of you. But don't block everyone out because of a few bad experiences, you may miss out on a great friend if you do.

Answer 9

You must live in an unusual part of the country. I find
good people in all ethnicities, as well as a s sho les>

From some of the answers below , I see what you mean!

Answer 10

SOOOOOOOOOO????? Hey, I'm a Anglo(white) police officer and I live in a predominately black community. Well... I treat everyone with respect and I get it back, not always though. So, I just overlook it. Some people are just stuck on stupid! "Time is what everything is made up of". Hang in there and IGNORE(don't hate) the ignorant people!