please help me.........i need my strength back. i lost my willpower a few months ago and can't keep to stay on track. i am lost and confuse, i honestly hate my life.
2007-09-28 17:03:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thank you all for all the encouragement, it really helps.
2007-09-29 04:17:22 · update #1
I can only guess without more information.
Many people try so hard to help others that they lose themselves in the process. That is when everything starts to fall apart. Even though your intention is to help, your lose of self makes it impossible to do so properly.
Is it possible for you to get away from everything for a while? Find a place where you can heal your heart and mind? If so, that would be the best thing you could do.
You need time to find 'YOU'. What do you want in your life? How can you make yourself into the person you really are?
Search inside yourself and find the real you. The person with dreams, needs and wants. Try to discover what you are really searching for. Remember to take it step by step. The things that you truly desire will take time and effort. But when you do get them, you will NEVER regret the difficulties that you hard to overcome to make your dream a reality.
Don;t give up. It's sometimes really difficult, but the rewards are so wonderful at the end.
2007-09-28 17:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been "living" with major depression - recurrent, also GAD, agoraphobia, slight OCD, etc., etc., etc. for over 20 years. Very many times I try to complete a task I feel as if I've somehow been sabotaged or sabotaged myself. Couldn't get out of bed, shower, etc. for days, been totally hopeless, felt as if I had no willpower as you, and the other feelings you are experiencing I felt also. If you're not seeing a professional PhD, or psychiatrist or on any medication, a psychologist is a good place to start. Or even some type of support group for people that are suffering from depression. I know it's difficult, even impossible to get the energy to even get out. If you can't get out try to call someone, pick up that phone. You were able to ask this question, so you do have some strength and willpower. And good for you that you've done that much!!! I don't promise this will change things, but it's a start. And you've made a positive step already.
Depression is a strange thing, have hope, things do get better. It takes time and baby steps. Sometimes, or actually many times it takes a lot of time. But don't lose hope!
2007-09-28 17:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by WeeGee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lots to live for.Just think about the gift you have been given from the good lord.You are only going through a dark episode in your life and you will soon see the light again.Just have faith and think how thankful you should be and believe in the Lord.You must seek some medical help and your GP is always there for you.You are going through a bad patch at the moment and I can promise you with a little help from your GP you will get better.You have everything to live for and do not think otherwise.The Lord is on your side.You alone must find some inner strength because then the rest will follow.Life is a wonderful gift if you try and love yourself.So love life and love yourself and respect your life.Love is life amd life is love.Good luck you are not alone.
2007-09-28 20:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by seafrontane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" ...every time....I fail..."
We have expectations of what "success" should look like. And we often fall short of that. those who merely look at their unrealized expectations "fail". Those who can see the failure as an opportunity to learn, to change to accept failure not as a pronouncement of their worth, but rather as a tool to grow stronger, they SUCCEED!
If you have tried and failed, then you have all you need to grow stronger. Take a good honest look at what you've done and ask yourself what is it that "failed" and what is it I can take away from this and do differently next time. Maybe it's to not be so hard on yourself; maybe it's to laugh more; maybe to keep on trying even when others give up; maybe it's to step back and get centered on what really matters.
Think about what "feeds" your willpower. What makes it strong? what made you lose it? was it your choice? was it the opinions of others? You are the most important person in your life. You are the only one who can live it! Decide now to be the person to live your life and recognize it's hard and at times it really hurts, but it's LIFE, and it beats the alternative!! Give yourself that second or third chance. Make today a new day. Each breath is new, brand new. Let your life be renewed right now with this next breath. And then keep breathing!!
You are loving and capable! Stand before a mirror, look yourself in the eye and repeat this over and over: "I am loving and capable" You are and anything that fights against your being able to say this and accept it-- it's time for that to go because it's a lie! And lies suck!
Don't give up. Giving up means the ugliness wins...and you are beautiful and beauty deserves victory. YOU are loving and capable! Say it, scream it, live it , and believe it!
2007-09-28 17:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels.. and that feeling comes sooo easily... bcoz destroying a sand castle is always way too easy than building one amongst the very many obstacles.
You've been given life for a purpose... and you need to find it...
maybe this whole journey is very depressing and tiring for you bcoz you might have been on the wrong track... life is all about making mistakes and learning from it.
Depression is a common state of mind when we fail... but you must take charge of your life, mind and the body... dont let your mind be the master...rather make it your humble servant.
Please read the book Mega living by robin sharma... it will guide you on very many things you could do to make yor life better....
I'm a professional psychological counselor... if you want to discuss further..please drop me a note.
Remember...! everything that appear bad and ugly are not so bad afterall...but for us to come to that realisation... it takes a longer time and other experiences. Have faith in yourself and in God (if that'd help)... every one of us have the same capabilities... but why some of us fail is becoz we dont try hard enough...
You can do it... nothing is impossible if you put your heart and soul to it.... I wish you all the very best!
2007-09-28 18:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Miss M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, hold on to life. I know right now things may seem dark, but this is for just a moment in time. You see all the darkness around you, can you see the light? It's there too. Look around it's there I promise. Try to not look at all the negative things in your life. Surely there is something good around you. Do you have a family? A home? Is there anyone around you that loves you? How would they feel if you were gone? I'll tell you one thing, I care about you and I don't even know you. And God cares about you... HE's there with you, trying to reach out to you and hold you. Seek someone out to talk to, this was a great way to start. Even if you don't think there's anyone around that cares...believe me they do. A parent, a friend... maybe they have no idea what your going through. They love you...don't ever doubt it. *HUGS* God bless you
2007-09-28 17:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by ol me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps what you mean by willpower was the power of your mind.
Your true power is in your body.
Stop trying to do things.
Let yourself be lost and confused, but focus on your body, not your mind. You will find a way forward and it will be very simple.
2007-09-28 17:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely initially dont attempt to kill your self with rat poison. it could bypass away u blind and broken internally which would be worse than existence because it already is sweet. Secondally Do wait until your over 18. i attempted to kill my self and im sixteen and the little ones psychological wellness government get entangled and u have much less rights that u do whilst u r 18. quite of droning on approximately how poor the worldwide is why dont you attempt to make it a greater useful place. despite the fact that if u exchange the existence of one individual for the greater useful isnt that reaching something? your friends and oldsters describe u warmly and u say you care approximately human beings. in case you cant handle your man or woman issues sparkling up the matters of others so u can forget approximately approximately yours. grow to be a dr x
2016-10-10 00:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give up! God has a plan for all of us even if you can't see his plan, he needs you and loves you. Can you step outside? Is there a breeze? He's brushing away your tears. Can you see any stars? He's left A light on Just for You!
2007-09-28 17:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by monalisa_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really do not say what is wrong. you need to seek counlsling to help you get through what ever it is that is wrong. i can try to give advice but you need to be more specific
2007-09-28 17:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋