Help me please my past is troubling me now!!!!!!?

Question

i want to get councling help from my school but i just cant do it im to scared to go alone i want none of my friends to know that im going to be taking counsling. How can i bring myself to the counsler what do i say to him/her? im just to afraid. I have a lot of problems with my past molestation, sometimes i think and wonder if my moms b.f will ever do anything like that to me i worry even though he is nice and he has never done anything to disrespect me but isnt that how it usually starts out i need help so any tips on going to a school counsler? im 15 in highschool

my moms b.f has been living with us for 2 years my mom knows wht happened its already reported

Answer 1

First of all, none of your friends will know the reason for you to be in the counselor's office unless you tell them, so just don't tell anyone anything about it. And secondly, It is easy to go and talk to the counselor at school, plus it is also free of charge. These people are trained to deal with teenagers and the problems they may face during high school years and are usually some of the coolest people you could ever want to meet during your high school years. First you should just schedule an appointment to go in and get to know your counselor and then you will see how easily he or she makes it to open up and talk to them on a personal level. Whatever you tell them is of the utmost confidence and will not be discussed elsewhere without your permission. And you know yourself that you are dealing with a lot of different feelings that you need a little guidance with sorting out. You will find, I'm sure, a well trained and sympathetic professional with an ability to help you with your feelings and be your best friend of sorts while helping you work your way through all your feelings that scare you right now. You will be doing the best thing for yourself that you could ever do by going into that counselor's office and having that first talk. After that, you will see that it is for sure a good place for you to begin. Later on you will see how far that first step helped you grow and then even later on, you will be really grateful that you did go to your counselor that very first time and start the process to begin with. You just need to make that first step and get yourself in that office then as you feel more open and comfortable with the person, you can open up more and more until you finally have the story told. And then you will have gotten yourself the beginning of the healing process you need so much. I urge you to get that appointment today and start your journey to mental wellness. YOU will never regret having made that first step! Good luck, my dear! And just start small. There is room for growth every second you live. Please go and see your counselor as soon as you can. You will be glad you did! I promise!

Answer 2

I think you should go for help. Maybe not to the school guidance counselor, but more correctly to the school nurse.
You have been traumatized and you need help in healing yourself so that you can move forward and have healthy relationships, not just with your mother's BF, but BFs of your own, without fear of being molested. The nurse should be able to tap into some resources for professional counseling for you.

I would also suggest a couple of other things:
* See if there is a self-defense course there at school, or see if you can take a karate course. It will help you build confidence and self-esteem.
* See below the link to the Emotional Freedom Technique website... download and print out the free manual, and apply it for everything from these deep-seated fears you have... to the pre-exam jitters.

Answer 3

I understand how your feeling, If your worried about your friends at school see you in the counselors office then can I suggest something else.... You don't have to use the school at all.Talk to your Mom I'm sure she will help, tell her how your feeling or just simply say that your having some concerns that you need to talk about and that you would like to talk to a psychologist... she can take you to your appointments.... this can be yours and your moms alone time together....between her and your Dr they can set up an appointment outside of school where you can be more comfortable without any of your classmates and friends ever knowing your schedule. The Psychologist can not disclose any information to anyone without your consent, even your mom.... unless information you give, will cause you to harm yourself. then he has to share the information to protect you from harming yourself. it's the law and psychologist will tell you that up front on your first visit. Good Luck sweetheart, I know you will be more comfortable.

Answer 4

do it during one of your classes or after school.. but you do need to get some kind of counsling thats a lot for one person to deal with.. you will feel so much better talking about it with someone.. what happened to you was wrong and not your fault. if you can talk to your mother have her get you into a counsler. no one will know unless you tell them.. you have nothing to be a shamed of.. do it soon and dont let this be something that holds you back all your life. you can do good things.. good luck

Answer 5

I would go to your NUMBER 1 teacher, one that you trust and feel most comfy with, tell her you would like to share something in private with her.... If you don't have a favorite teacher then I would suggest you go directly to the school nurse... I cant say that I relate but I know what it's like to not trust anyone but you have to let go cause once you get help life will be a lot better, emotionally and physically!!!
Good luck sweety
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Answer 6

Hi Sweetie..
School counselors are not allowed to discuss your personal business with any student.. Besides, if you're worried that one of the students sees you coming out of the psychologist's office..Just tell them it's about your classes....
But you do have to speak to someone, who can help you!
Perhaps speaking to the school nurse privately, could be of some help as well.
Good Luck Sweetheart..And don't be afraid..there's nothing to be afraid of..
You will be okay..God Bless you!

Answer 7

Your counselor has heard about problems like yours before. He or she is trained to help you. You will feel much better after you go. It is very important to get help with this problem or it can ruin your future relationships with men.
Does your mother know what happened? She should not be bringing men into the house and she definitely should not leave you alone with any of them.
Please don't be afraid to get the help you need.

Answer 8

It's too bad but it's true - you must stay away from him and demand to be respected.
Counseling, is the best way for a 15 year old girl to understand her personal feelings and become aware of probable dangers.
Don't be ashamed to counsel - very smart people do.

Answer 9

im so sorry you are going through such a tough time right now,and if you go seee a counselor at school,and your friends see,tell them you are thinking about college plans with your counselor or something...they wont know,because the counselor cannot tell them anything about you...dont be emberrassed about going to a counselor,probly half the population goes now lol.sorry just a little joke to make you smile...keep your chin up...and email me if you want some1 to talk to...my step-dad came right out and told my mom he didnt like kids,but she married him anyways,,,that was the beginning of my disasterous childhood...and smile

Answer 10

If you are scared then get the counseling. You don't have to tell anyone, it is your life and your business. So if you feel you need it. Then don't let anyone stop you. Maybe you should talk to your mom about it too.