HELP!!! Cutting & Lost best friend?

Question

I cut. My best friend found out and now she doesn't want anything to do with me. She won't even talk to me when I say "Hi". This kind of sucks seeing as we are roommates. Now she tells me she's on anti-depressant medication because of me. Now the extra guilt and stress of losing a best friend is making want to cut even more. I think I will explode if i don't cut, but I don't want to. I can't control myself and i have no one to turn to. And being alone all the time doesn't help. I become more depressed and that makes my cutting problem worse. Help...

Answer 1

She obviously didn't value your friendship very much if she left you at the first sign of trouble. If she can't support you then she's not a friend worth fighting for. Don't worry about her and try to make other friends. I always reccomend joining clubs/teams in school because the introduce you to people that have the same interests as you. If you don't want to do that then just try talking more with others in your classes that you get along with.

I had a friend who used to cut herself. At first she didn't want to tell anyone about it but we encourged her to get help. She eventually told her mom and a teacher that she trusted. She started seeing a counsellor at our school and hasn't cut herself since. Though you may be skeptical, there are alot of caring people out there that can help you, but only if you let them.

Answer 2

Well the first thing to do is to ask someone for help. A teacher or someone like that. There are many more ways to vent your depression than hurting yourself. If your friend ditches you because of your personal problems, then she isn't a real friend. a best friend would stick through with you through thick or thin. In this, well you should write your friend a letter and leave it in her mailbox or something. Explain your problems to her and then ask her for help. After that, you could promise her that you'll try to change. (personally, I hope you do change your ways) After that, you can only wait. (but no matter what the outcome is show your friend that you will keep your promise and try to change for the better for her) If your friend ignores you still, then she is not a good friend. I suggest then that you move on and make some new friends who could try to understand you.

other than that, don't hurt yourself in depression, vent it through doing homework or playing sports or something like that. Pour your frustration into it. I know that most people don't do this nowadays but I do. You could keep a diary or a journal. If you're upset, write it all down into your diary the diary is like a confident who won't judge you for what you say or do. I know I seem childish but I also talk to any soft toys I have. They all seem to understand what I mean, makes me feel better anyway.

Good luck on quitting your cutting. Remember, no matter what people think of you afterwards, you should handle this like a grownup. There are people on this world who would understand your position and would try to help (like me) good luck hun.

if you need to, gimme your email and I'll help you along.

Answer 3

Are you seeing someone for this cutting? Your friend just does not know how to deal with this. Cutting is serious and it is scary for someone who does not know how to handle the situation. Your friend sounds like she is personalizing your issues too much with leads me to believe she has her own problems herself. She is not on an anti-depressant because of you, unfortunately she allowed your cutting to get to her too much. She needs to learn to set emotional boundaries and limits.

As for you, I hope that you see someone proffessional about this. You cannot turn to your friend, but you need someone to talk to so you won't cut.

Answer 4

Cutting yourself is not good, no matter how much better it makes you feel. There is help.

http://crystal.palace.net/~llama/selfinjury/injury.html

Try giving this number a call...

Self Harm Hotline

1-800-DONTCUT

Help for "cutters"

Answer 5

the same thing happened to me. i dont cut ne more because
i almost lost my life. it got to the point where i enjoyed cutting. its almost addicting. my friend found out... but time heals, or in my case it did. just give it time to let it sink in for her. maybe try explaining. im sry to hear this.. contact me if you want to. im 14. how bout you?

Answer 6

that is crying out for attention talk to your folks