Ever since my somewhat unhappiness and miserableness in my marriage life, I have lost all my faith in God/Jesus. Sometimes, me and my wife have extreme heated arguements. We both are not putting any effort for each other, whatsoever, in our marriage life. So because of my somewhat unhappiness, I quit living a Christian way of life.
2007-09-28 14:56:17 · 15 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry but it has nothing to do with your God or Jesus
2007-10-06 12:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by notmygame 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you know that the First ever "unhappy marriage life" happened in the Garden of Eden Between Adam and Eve?
Before they sinned they were having a fantastical and joyfilled life. Their unhappiness came only after sinning and you will recall that Adam did try to blame God for giving him Eve as a companion.It is therefore Human Nature to try to shift the blame for any misfortune and more so blame God our creator.
You must maintain your faith in God and his Son Jesus as this will keep you from sin and it's consequences.
I'd even say "lose the spouse BUT not your faith in God/Jesus".
Return to your Christian Life without further delay and in that way save your soul from Eternal Damnation.
2007-10-06 11:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 14 years, I did the same thing. I divorced, regretted it but by then it was too late. I went back to church, got involved in the singles ministry and put my life back on track.
I can't tell you what to do but I wouldn't advise my route. If you think you have problems now, all you will do is trade one set for another and the next set may be even worse.
Think back to what you found most attractive in your spouse and I'm not talking about physical, we all get old. Focus on the positives about your marriage and do your best to ignore the irritants. When you change yourself first, sometimes your spouse will respond positively too. True love doesn't focus on whether the other person responds correctly, it just loves any way.
Being the man, you role is leader of the household. One of my favorite quotes: You must be the change you wish to see. Ghandi
2007-10-06 07:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have gotten very frustrated in the same way. I wasn't into going io church for a while, and skipped for a while because I was just not happy and I felt that no matter how hard I prayed to understand or to help things change, nothing ever did. When I went, most times it was just to set a good example for my kids but my heart certainly wasn't in it at all. I am still having trouble with everything, but I am hoping that by going throught the motions it might get me back into the swing of things again. Good luck and try to keep the faith. God has His reasons for things and we will never be able to understand them.
2007-09-28 15:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have gone off the deep end and you are blaming God...... Wrong!!!! If anything you should be leaning on him more then ever.... By not living a Christian life does that mean you are cheating? And you say somewhat, either you are or you aren't.... As I said you both need Church more then ever... at this time... Sit down and make a list putting God at the top of this list of things you love......... Now make another list of things you hate putting the Devil at the top of this list... Be honest and I guarantee the loves will out weigh the hates... Are there children involved.... Money? Believe me if you have any iota of love for each other work it out... The grass is simply not greener on the other side of the fence.... Good luck and God bless... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-06 05:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way many,many times during my first marriage. I lived a very miserable life being abused for a lot of years. I had always wondered if there is a God then why me? I am now divorced and doing much better and going to church again after not going for a long time.
2007-09-28 15:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's why your Unhappy and your Life is falling apart !! If you put your trust in God and treat your wife on how God saids to do then your marriage would work out !! you should know better, we all have trials and staying close to god is what brings us through them !! and doing as He would want us to do and treating others the way we would want to be treated !! instead of arguing with her, have you tried listening and talking to her, have you tried to work it out? !! It's not god's fault your marriage is falling apart, it is up to you and your wife if you want to make it work or not !! and God can help you work it out, you have to decide!! you have to be willing to work things out, you have to give love in order to recieve love !!
2007-10-05 16:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not God/Jesus. The problem is Satan!! He is trying to tear your marriage apart.
Check out this couple. They almost divorced and now they have a marriage ministry. Jimmy Evans has awesome advise for men in your situation. You can listen to him on the website. They have a tv show that comes on once a week.
2007-09-28 22:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have seen this and its sad when i needed him he was there and therefore if you'd get to talk to a good preiest then maybe you could be helped also. sometimes its not you that is bad or the problem remember it takes two to have a problem. and sometimes you need to remember that sometimes you won't win over all thet ime. but hey, your faith should help you and i know it has me. you just have to let it glide through you and not give up so easily. take care.
2007-10-04 12:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think perhaps you have it the wrong way around
God and Jesus and believing in them ARE the way forward not a consequence of having life the way you want it when you want it
perhaps Paul and Peter found it inconvenient to suffer and die for their faith too - but they went ahead and did it
living life in a less selfish more self sacrificial way could ease a lot of your marital problems methinks and God can give you the strength to go through it if you ask him
have you thought of asking your pastor for counseling at all?
2007-10-06 14:36:11 · answer #10 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take out your own mistakes on God/Jesus. We are given free will and may do as we please.
AND - what do you mean: I quit living a Christian way of life? Not quite getting the picture here.
Blessings to you - seek counseling for you and your wife.
2007-09-28 15:18:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋