My son is almost six months old. He will be in like ten days or so... He is very clingy and freaks out whenever I walk out of the room. He doesn't want to be held all of the time, he just wants to see me in his view. He is my first child and I'm not sure if he is spoiled or just a mama's boy. I am a single parent, but the father and I still talk and he sees his daddy a lot, but he still wants me all of the time. Even when he is with his father. Today, for instance, his father watched the baby while I ran to the store and when I came back, the baby started crying because I walked passed him even though he was in his father's arms. What does this mean. Am I doing something wrong or is this normal for single parents and their children? I'm not trying to break the strong bond between us, I just need to know if he is spoiled or anything. And if he isn't, what is some advice on how to not spoil him? If that makes any sense. Haha Thanks In Advance!
2007-09-28 14:54:44 · 13 answers · asked by ProudMommy_1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I FIRMLY believe that a baby that young can NOT be spoiled. Your baby needs to be held and cuddled and LOVED as much as he wants it. Don't hold out on him because of some stupid societal wive's tale.
2007-09-28 14:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Fluffster1 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for single parent families, two parent families, extended families who live together, etc. All babies want to be with their mother or primary caretaker all the time. Remember, your son still kind of thinks he is part of you. Imagine your legs walking away from the rest of you. You would be uspet. That's kind of how babies see things. What if your legs walked away from you every few hours, but always returned quickly? You would eventually learn not to freak out, but it would take a while.
You cannot spoil an infant. Food spoils when you leave it sit and don't pay attention to it. Same with babies. His wants are his needs. If he wants you, he needs you. As a mother, you have to constantly analyze and prioritize everyone's needs, including yours. Your son may need to be with you all day, but maybe after he spits up on you for the fourth time in a day, your need to take a shower takes a higher priority.
If you want your son to be confident, loving, considerate and well-adjusted, then respond to his needs until he outgrows them. I promise that he will outgrow this clinginess. In a few months, he will probably come to enjoy some Daddy time every day, and soon after that, he'll be running away from your house for a boys only weekend at dad's house.
To cope right now, wear your baby in a sling so he feels safe and loved. The sling is really good for language development, too.
2007-09-28 15:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Samantha,
THis is perfectly normal from everything I've ever read or done! People believe different things, but I personally don't believe you can spoil a child this young. They need to learn the security of having mommy close by. Perfect example when dad has him and then he sees you, he wants you. That shows the healthy bond/ attachment that he has formed with you. Babies and children have to LEARN trust..we have to teach them that we will be there for them. Make sure to always come back when you tell him you are (don't say "I'll be back in a few minutes" if you'll be gone a long time). There is so much more I could write, from advice people gave to me or from experience with my little ones. But overall, I would say don't worry about spoiling your child at this age. Enjoy the time that he needs you close by.
2007-09-28 15:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie G 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
My baby boy is the same, born April 14, so around the same age. Today, his daddy picked him up from daycare and then picked me up from work. As soon as he saw me walk up to the car, he looked at me and started cring. We are not spoiling them, we love them. They are just excited to see us and are not sure how to express thier emotuons yet. Enjoy that he wants you. I love when my baby holds his arms out to me and gives me kisses. Just make sure you don't let him cry this way he knows and trusts that you love him and are there for him. Take him with you in the other room. I put my baby in the exerciser while I do the dishes or the boucer. If he starts to fuss and I am not done, then I stop and we play a while then go back to the dishes. It is ok for a break and it lets him know you love him.
2007-09-28 15:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by RearFace@18mo. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i've got heard slightly one below a million would not know a thank you to "manage" you yet and could no longer cry until that's through fact they actually prefer something. I actual have a fifteen a million/2 week previous and she or he does various an identical issues you defined. i'm in a position to place her in her crib at nighttime yet basically after she's fallen asleep nursing and if she wakes up on an identical time as i'm interior the midst of putting her in her crib then that's surprising back to the boob and that i could attempt lower back in 5-10 minutes. She additionally screams, (no longer cries), each time she's no longer getting the attention she desires. they are too youthful at this age to appreciate why you at the instant are not assembly their desires and would sense ignored.
2016-10-10 00:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i don't think you can spoil a baby... and you are doing nothing wrong...
Me and my daughters father are together, and she still wants mum all the time, and does the same thing! will cry if i walk past her, no matter who is with her at the time...
just reassure him that everything is okay and walk away... don't pick him up everytime he cries... and dont take him off his dad if he is crying... let dad comfort him...
I know its hard to listen to them cry, and its so easy just to go and pick them up give them big cuddles (im very guilty for this) but hopefully they will grow out of it~
2007-09-28 15:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by cass_blob 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are not spoiling him!!!
It is an indication that you are a great mother - a baby exhibiting a bond with you means he is healthy and has been shown a lot of love.
Don't feel bad about it. My babies all act that way and I was only a single mom with the first one.
2007-09-28 14:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by BoysMommy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think it happens to all babies. Most babies whether their parents are together or not are with one parent more than the other. Its obvious that they will have a very strong bond with their main caregiver. I am married and even when my husband is holding our son (10 months) if he sees me he wants to come to me. I find it embarrassing for my husband who thinks that our son likes me more. I tell my husband not to take it personally, thats just babies and he'll grow out of it providing you are not rushing to your son everytime he calls for you when he is with his father. Give them some time alone and dont be seen by your son.
2007-09-28 15:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by kiwichickie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't spoil a baby. He loves you, and feels the most comfort from you being around. The world is a very big place, and he's realizing that as he grows older, having you around makes him feel safe and able to explore the world around him. You aren't doing anything wrong.
2007-09-28 15:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is six months old, and she acts the same way. babies go through different phases where they like everybody one minute, and the next minute, they only want mom or dad. this has nothing to do with spoiling your son. anyways, what's wrong with spoiling your children? i wish you knew what not having a mother who gave me any attention did to me. your children deserve your love, affection, and attention, whether they are 6 months, or 16 years old. you will know when you are over diong it, and you will know when you are not giving him enough attention.
2007-09-28 15:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by lizbriolly's mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋