I cheated my Husband. Should I tell him?

Question

Last week, I attended my friend's Birthday party. Drinks went a limit up and it played a fate. Me and a friend slept together. We are both married and never done such mistakes before. It hurts me a lot, because I cheated my loving husband. How to tell him about this? Or should I hide this from him?

Answer 1

Yes because a relationship is all about communication

Answer 2

If your husband were to cheat on you, you would want him to tell you right? Then the same goes with this, you should tell your husband, because it will be worst if he found out that you cheated on him from someone else, it is bad enough that you have cheated on him, hearing it from someone else can make it worst, especially when they can add in additional information that wasn't true, and can hurt him even more. He will find out eventually, and it is better for him to know now, and you two can decide what you will do with your relationship, than for him to find out years from now and not be able to trust you anymore. If you would want to know if your husband cheated on you, you should tell him. If you are going to tell him, remember to include how sorry you are and what a big mistake you think it is that you have done such a thing. Remember to tell him how much you love him and how you would never do something like that again. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

Well you did this so you need to be honest with him. Now the issue here is that he may not be able to forgive you, and it may end your relationship/marriage, but if you slept with someone else then chances are its already over.

If you want to try and make it work you can't hide something this big because if you do and he finds out its definitely over, if you tell him and try and explain it to him the best you can there is a small chance you can make it through...although very small. I perosnally could not forgive someone for cheating on me because its the biggest loss of trust you can have in a person...I'd move on either way. You can't use drinking as an excuse, or partying, because you are responsible for your own actions and need to own up to them...with any luck he'll be able to let it go after time.

Answer 4

No. Never. How many stupid people will this question suck in and get them to say that openness and honesty trumps everything else? It doesn't. It doesn't trump the devastation and pain caused by such an admission. Yes, you feel guilty and want to be forgiven. That's your problem, not his. You will have to find a way to deal with this, and you'd better do so before it affects your marriage. Because guilt will do that. Whether you confess this to a priest and do penance or see a counselor, take action on the guilt you feel so that you can forgive yourself. But it's your cross to bear, alone. That may sound harsh, but it's good insurance that it won't happen again.

Answer 5

Why not to observe the situation? Like for instant to tell your husband there is one friend you are fantasizing, described that one friend you have meet in birthday party you have had sex, if what would be his reactions? If he get angry, do not proceed to tell you you had cheated him it will break and ruin your married to him because the tendency not to forgive you is doubtful, he might be jealoused and can not pardon you ever.

But if he does not mind but rather excited to know more about you are starting to fantacizing some other guy, be sure you would know he is not too jealous to understand your needs? If he is so understanding to you all the way, that's the time you would ask him if ever you committed cheating can pardon you? then if he said, yes, that the time you should tell him and confess everytihing to him and you would compromise to be faithful again.
Remember that often communication is essential to the spouses relationship because sometimes it can helps resolve some of family problems.

Answer 6

Drinks went a limit up and it played a fate? I do not hear remorse, I hear you saying that was absoultly nothing you could do or wanted to do.

Maybe you should take a long look at yourself and your marriage. Doesn't sound like you have it all together.

Maybe you should go get counseling so you can put your head back on straight and get some advice from someone who can get to know you and find out why getting drunk was an excuse to try out your friend. I bet your sorry because there was no spark that you may thought was there.

Counseling.

Answer 7

Do not tell him.Why cause him pain too.You need to look at why you so easily sleep with someone else.Sorry but drink is not an excuse.Your going to have to live with the guilt because trust me,telling him what you did will not make things better.He will be hurt and regaining the trust will take many years if he was to stay with you.Avoid being with the person you slept with and focus on being a loving wife.The guilt you feel will pass in time.Oh one other thing.Pray that this person you slept with doesn't open they're mouth about it.If they do just deny it and keep denying it.Please learn from this mistake and becareful in what you do in the future.Life is way to short to go screwing things up over a one night stand.Take care.

Just read some of the other answer from people.Most say tell him but i question the age of these people.I am 42 and have lived a bit.If you think telling him will make things better you are sorely mistaken.All you will do is break his heart,lose his trust,possibly break up and lose everything.Just make sure you don't ever do this sort of thing again or put yourself in a position where it might happen.If it does get out just keep denying it.

Answer 8

Well, first of all. You need to tell him, because when u finally do get the power to tell him, maybe he'll be more mad that u kept this from him longer. Find a way for how u can tell him, if ya have kids, make sure u can get them a babysitter so that they're not there. Then tell him how it happened and well, if he wants some time maybe just to think about things give him time, but show him that u really mean that ur sorry, do something that will make him think like"wow maybe she really is sorry, and well tell him that u promise that u will never do anything like that again, and even those words mean nothing, taht yours do, good luck

Answer 9

Fate did not play a part in this, You chose it to happen.
You should have thought about your loving Husband and
what the consequences would be before you did such a thing.
Alcohol is an excuse, it does not impair ones judgment to the point of Adultery. Yes your Husband deserves to know.
Just remember for future use, when you play with fire expect to get burned. It is enevitable.
Good luck, God Bless.

Answer 10

No,It will only hurt him more, the damage is done.hopefully it was a one time mistake but I doubt it , I don't think you love him any way because if you did you wouldn't have cheated on him in the first place,either that or you don't know what the word love means,you might want to reevaluate what kind of person you are and move on with your life, overall I think your a rotten person and you should spare this guy any future pain.

Answer 11

Yes, tell him. It will be hard, and he will be upset, but it will be worse if you don't tell them. And your husband doesn't deserve to be lied to. Every second you wait will only hurt him more.
But don't listen to the people saying divorce him. You did make a big mistake, and I'm not going to tell you that its okay, because its not, but I will say this. Divorcing will solve nothing. It is a horrible experience. Try to work through it with him. He probably won't trust you for a long time, but prove to him that you can be trusted. It could take years, but if he really loves you, he will be there for you like a husband should be.