My friend acts like my mother!!!!????? what to do?

Question

She means very well. We both live out in California right now down the street from eachother because both of our husbands are in Iraq together. So, we are on our own for 7months and we hangout alot. We have alot in common and its nice that someones going through the same thing. But alot of times, she just tries to act like my mother. She congratulates me when i go to the gym ( i go everyday ). She always asks me if im getting certain things done while my husband is away and always nagging at me about things.And if there is something i dont get to do right away shell be like " you have to do that soon blah blah blah! " ..The only person who should be asking me if i am doing things is my husband when he calls.....Shes a really good friend but does anyone know what i can do about this? It's driving me nutty!!!!!

Answer 1

She is probably just stressed. She might think that she is being a friend and trying to be supportive of you. Kind of like keeping you focused. I would just ask her why she is worrying about...(whatever it is that she is asking you about) Tell her that you are glad that she is trying to be supportive but that sometimes she goes a little to far. If that does not work you might have to be a little more firm and tell her that you no longer live with your mother and your husband is on the job and that you are a big girl and know what your responsibilities are and you will get to them.

Answer 2

Your friend is only trying to help you out by being there for you and she is probably just as lonely as you are. You both need each other and you should be grateful that you have someone who is willing to be helpful while both of your husbands are gone. Some women don't have anyone while there husbands are overseas. She probably doesn't realize that she is doing this. It could be that that is just the way she is. Maybe she does that to everyone and thinks that she is just trying to be helpful. She does mean well.

Answer 3

She is leaning on you a lot because of what is going on at home. I would tell her how you feel. She needs to realize that she may not be dealing with the stress of the situation as well as she thinks she is.