Does grief cause you to do things you don't normally do?
My best friend's mom died a few weeks ago, & she's sort of been acting differently. I know she was sexually abused a lot as a child, & she was adopted, & her mom was mentally handicapped. Now, it seems like she's been trying to seduce everyone she can, including me. She's bisexual, BTW. I'm hetero. I told her I'm not like that, & she's been begging everyone in sight to have sex with her, & I'm scared & worried that she might get hurt by guys. I look @ her like a sister, not a sex buddy. @ first when her mom died, she didn't wanna be around anyone, & now, she's trying to have sex with everyone. & everyone is trying to get @ her, too. She's going wild. I still wanna be her friend because if I don't have her as a friend, I don't have anybody. I'm worried about her safety. & last night she tried to pressure me to hav sex with her, & she always tries to fondle me & when I get mad, she laughs. Last night she admitted that her mom's death is causing her to be like this. She feels unloved.
2007-09-28 13:37:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I tried to ask in the family & relationships section & no one wanted to answer, so I deleted this question. I did the same with the mental health section & the psychology section. No one wanted to help me.
2007-09-28 13:41:51 · update #1
She may be dealing with the pain of being sexually abused by telling herself that sex is equal to love. This situation has, unfortunately, happened a myriad of times before and is still happening. The death of her mother may also be adding to the pain. Right now, she is looking for someone to love her. In her mind, she is looking for someone to have sex with her.
What you can do for her is try and show her from the Bible how important her life is to her heavenly father and how he will always care for and love her no matter which humans leave her or abuse her. (Psalm 27:10) She also needs counseling. Is there anything you can do to influence her getting help?
Remember, you still have to look out for you and your morals too. If she still keeps trying to have sex with you, then you need to leave her alone so you don't go down with her. (1 Corinthians 6:18; Romans 1:26, 27)
2007-09-28 14:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by peaceablefruit206 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone responds to grief differently. Your friend may be dealing with her grief in a destructive way (trying to have sex with everyone in sight) in order to deal with her pain. If her mother was the only person she had in the world that she felt really loved and cared about her she may be trying to find someone or something to fill in that void now that she is gone. Unfortunately it seems like she is going about it in a wrong way.
2007-09-28 13:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Joi S 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 11:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear about your friends mom.death is never easy. it sounds like your friend might want to consider going to the school council. i believe that grief can make you act out in many ways. try to explain to her that you will always be there for her but you think she needs to talk to an adult so they can get her the help that she needs. i hope this helps in some way. good luck.
2007-09-28 13:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by ladyhawk3k 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs immediate medical counseling before she goes off of the deep end, sex is not the answer to her problems, only a way to get there and relax. she needs guidance, compassion and someone to be strict about the rules of behavior in life, in other words a rock of gibralter who will not back down nor be a shrinking lilly in the face of adversity either. keep her away from the booze and drugs also, time heals all wounds, but only after a long time, go slow, good luck
2007-09-28 13:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by robert r 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
See if she will go to some type of grief counseling. I have heard it helps. I am considering going. I am going to one at a church but many other places have grief counseling that are not religion based. Many hospitals have them (at least they do where I live) and they are free of charge. When she learns to handle her grief, the inappropriate sexual behavior will stop.
2007-09-28 15:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in a lot of pain. One so deep she cant find the outlet for healing. When someone hurts so bad the most we can do is make sure that they cause no harm to themselves and pray for them. Good luck to you.
2007-09-28 13:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by luna 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, i realy have no idea...if i did, i'd answer the other one.
2007-09-28 13:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Crazygirl ♥ aka GT 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋