She says she dosent have any sex drive. Shes 23 years old. Somethings wrong here. She goes out alot with her girl friends--late. She wont get close, emotionally, with me anymore.
Should I be concerned?
2007-09-28 13:32:36 · 29 answers · asked by enigmatic1844 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you should. Ask her what's up, tell her how dissatisfied you are, and that if she values the marriage, there needs to be some communication. If she's not open to marriage counseling, you need to decide whether it's worth it to stay with her. Sex is one of the most important things in marriage, and if it's not there, there's very little reason for the marriage to continue.
2007-09-28 15:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should seek help with her fast. Speak to your preacher or another trusted older married couple. She needs time then good, but she needs to find herself quickly. She has needs and you want to make love to your wife. Maybe try a different approach. You may not be giving her the romance she needs. Try sweet talking her again. Buy her a dozen roses and a card. Come home early from work and remind her how beautiful she is....maybe she is feeling neglected and doesn't know how to tell you. Cater to your wife and be a good husband. And for goodness sakes.. make love to the woman and don't have sex. Having sex has no meaning you are married....Make love. Look into her eyes and tell her how you feel about her and how much you need your wife. Cheating is not the answer. Just put a little work into the wonderful marriage you already have and be amazed at what comes from her in the bedroom! Happy loving making,
2016-04-06 06:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - there are different things that could be causing this. She could have a medical condition that is causing this and she may feel guilty and feels that by getting close to you emotionally then she would be leading you on. Also, maybe there is a memory of something in her past that harmed her sexually and recent events are bringing that memory back and she is avoiding it. And of course, there is always the worst thing for a marriage - if she is going out late with girlfriends there could be someone else. If she won't see a doctor or talk to you then do the unthinkable - follow her discreetly You may feel like a heel if nothing is going on but on the other hand it would ease your mind. One of the bad things though about marrying young is that I have noticed during the early to mid twenties a lot of women change thier minds about what they wanted in life and about who they wanted in life. Sometimes it takes working through this age and reminding her of why you fell in love and got married to bring it all back together again. Good luck.
2007-09-28 13:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Love being a Mom 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there is definate room for concern. However, some women go through cycles of changing hormones. This could be the cause.......
However, the fact that she is going out alot and staying out late would definately trigger another concern.
Sounds like u need to have a heart to heart with her. Ask her honestly and dont be surprised about anything she says.
If you want to salvage the marriage, u have to find the root of the problem. If she is unhappy then find out. If its hormonal, then find out.
I would suggest marriage counciling if you cant figure it out with each other. Sometimes an outside source can reach deep enough to find the root.
Good luck hun
2007-09-28 13:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned,
I think that she just says that she doesn't have that sex drive to make you feel how you fell. There are many reasons why she could say that. For example: either she is not sexually attracted to you, or you are not giving her what she wants in bed. There are many reasons why she would state that. How long have you guys been married? I think that you should talk to her about it, the best thing in a marriage is communication. Let her know how you feel and discuss why you are concerned. That is what I would do if I was married. Have her be honest with you, as you will be honest with her.
2007-09-28 13:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's see here now. Did your wife have other boyfriends previous to you? If so, and if they just selfishly used her for their own pleasure, she may be transposing some of that anger onto you. Did she give birth recently? If so, quite often, a woman's sexual desire decreases after childbirth. It may also be a physical thing, in which case she should see her doctor..You might also just need to have a long heart-to-heart talk with her. Or a marriage counselor. And then again, maybe she really is cheating on you. Just a few possibilities.
2007-09-28 14:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be asking questions on here later tonight about how right or wrong it is to be having sex on the side, while telling her husband no... and justifying it by you forcing her to get married at such a young age and how you never pay attention to her. The same people who are right now telling you there is something to worry about... later tonight will be cheering her on. My guess is, yup you got married young, or at least she did, and marriage to some girls at such a young age carries no more importance than switching ice cream flavors each week. She may have decided some other guy looks better than you, and sadly, that is enough for her to brush off her marital responsibilities and move on.
2007-09-28 13:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear Enigmatic:
Women are emotional creatures, is all about feelings for us, then sex. So, which means, that if she is not feeling a sex drive she is emotionally detach from you. She may love you but there's is something more powerful and stronger in her mind that is not letting her bond sexually with you. Talk to her, find out whats going on, another thing, some birth control can cause low libido ( sex drive), comunicate. At 23 years, I wanted to have sex all the time.
2007-09-28 13:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yes, of course you should be concerned! You need to get her to talk to you, because something is wrong in your relationship if she is not confiding in you. Also, about the sex drive...is she on birth control? I switched bc and I didn't have any drive either...that can be a side effect of it. But, you're right. You should be concerned that she is going out late and not spending time with you. You need to find out what is going on.
2007-09-28 13:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer that we don't know your wife like you do.On the surface it looks bad but that doesn't mean a thing.Not everyone that goes out is cheating,most girls just like to go out with their girls friends dancing hanging out together having a good time. Men being what they are and who they are assumes that women go out for the same reasons as they do to get laid.
2007-09-28 15:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋