2007-09-28 13:14:46 · 8 answers · asked by marji129 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married almost 31 years..I had only worked briefly pt in the last few years of our marriage. By the time he suddenly announced he wanted a divorce, I was not working and had not been for 3 years. I was also 51. No career at all, and only high school.. It turns out during our long term marriage we had aquired alot of assets together. I'm in NJ USA, and if the marriage is 10 years or more, most likely you will be granted alimony from him for support. I had no money for an attorney, but we had a joint checking account, and I found one and wrote retainer fee to her from that account. As for all the other monies owed my attorney after the $3500 retainer fee was used up (she charged $150.00 per hr.) I was responsible for all the rest. But, after he left the marital home, we were drawing up a settlement agreement between us with our attorneys. We had 2 homes. One we rented and the marital home. Marital had a big mortgage on it, and the rental had none. He moved into the rental and put out the tennants. I stayed here and he continued to pay the mortgage while we were separated for the 18 months needed before he could file for a no fault divorce. He gave me $2000.00 a month during that time in order to pay all other bills and such for my living. So, if you want to leave, but there is no account with money for you to get an attorney, call legal aide. They will do the divorce pro bono (for free) if you qualify. I highly do not recommend going it alone without an attorney if there are marital assets, children under 18 and the marriage is 10 years or more.. If short term and no assets, then you probably won't get support from him, but if there are any children, he will have to pay child support if you are awarded custody. You would need an attorney for the custody and child support issue.. Get an attorney either with money, or free, and have him file for the divorce in court with mental abuse as the reason. He will also advise you to all your rights and when and how to proceed about separating.. I would keep this whole thing to myself and not let the ex to be in on what you are planning. Get your ducks set up first. Then have him served with the complaint for divorce. My ex did just that. All behind my back. He had the advantage over me. Good Luck and hope all turns out for you..
2007-09-28 13:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Joanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There might be a legal aid service in your city that provides legal services for low income people. Believe it or not, office supply stores sell documents for divorce! But you should definitely get some kind of legal help since he's been mentally abusive. Some attorneys might allow you to make payments or even have your husband pay your legal fees. Good luck and be safe.
2007-09-28 13:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he goes to work pack your things and head for your nearest free clinic or womans shelter , the womans shelter will help you move on emotionally and financially.
2007-09-28 13:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phone book - there are abused women places (and mental abuse IS abuse!) who will assist you with not only a place to stay but also with your legal assistance as well.
Good Luck - Please keep thinking there are Better Days Coming!
If you need someone to talk to, please email me.
2007-09-28 13:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Paul A 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hire Chuck Norris to protect you and kick him to the curb!!!
2007-10-02 12:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Miss Keir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job!
2007-09-28 13:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get a lawyer and have him pay for it
2007-09-28 15:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FAMILY SUPPORT
2007-09-28 13:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by nfgatcer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋